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    trouble reaching orgasm naturally
    dkilpatrick posted:
    have trouble to reach orgasm naturally unlike my husband. does anyone have any suggestion on how i can have an orgasm naturally?
    Elisabeth1234 responded:
    What kind of orgasm is "unnatural"?
    FCL responded:
    You'll need to explain a bit more about what you mean.

    Do you mean that you require clitoral stimulation to orgasm? If so then you should be aware that many women cannot orgasm by penetrative sex alone and require stimulation of their clitoris to get there and that you may just be one of them.

    Or do you mean that you need a toy to orgasm?

    Or that you can only orgasm during masturbation?
    dkilpatrick replied to FCL's response:
    Yea the only way i can have an orgasm is by clitoral stimulation. I can remember a time when i didnt have to do that to have an orgasm and i was wondering if i could ever get back to that time.
    dkilpatrick replied to Elisabeth1234's response:
    What i mean is that the only way i can have an orgasm is by clitoral stimulation. I can remember a time when i didnt have to do that.
    Mensch59 replied to dkilpatrick's response:
    I don't know how old you are but things do change as we age. Just as a man's erections are different at 45 than they were at 25, the blood flow to the pleasure zones of a woman are still there and doing fine, just not as intense as when you were a teenager.
    As so many other posts have said, vaginal orgasms, like simultanious orgasms are nice but NOT mandatory.
    Cat78fish replied to Mensch59's response:
    I'm not sure I agree with you Mensch59. My orgasms have only gotten better as I've gotten older. If anything, vaginal orgasms have become a lot easier for me. I'm 48 now and I get more engorged and more lubricated than I ever did when I was a teenager and it does not take very much to get me aroused. My husband who will be 55 in a few days, didn't have any problems with getting and/or maintaining an erection until a year or two ago and his sex drive is now suffering. I've always been told that when I go into perimenopause, my sex drive would decline but that hasn't been the case for me. In fact, it's stronger than it ever was when I was a teenager. It's like God played a cruel joke on us.
    FCL replied to Cat78fish's response:
    I agree with Catfish. Orgasms get better as you age . Possibly because you're more at ease with your body, possibly because you know your body better, possibly because your partner knows your body better. Who cares? When it's good, enjoy!
    Mensch59 replied to Cat78fish's response:
    As for wife (48), orgasms ARE easier and better because we are in tune to what we like and what works. Women in their 40's are known to be having more fun sexually than at any other time.
    As for me. no problem getting and maintaining erections, but it doesn't bounce out like a flagpole at the sight of anything remotely sexual, and the intensity is no longer hard like a rock. It's more like wood now. Still strong but a little different. People who take Viagra who don't really need it often say it gives too much of a good thing. I got a good thing at 51.
    Mensch59 replied to FCL's response:
    Actually my wife's sex drive was stronger than ever during pregnancy up to the end and then dropped off for quite awhile. Another cruel joke for us both, but her orgasms did stop the baby from kicking so she could sleep..
    bogie11 replied to Mensch59's response:
    My wife and I agree that orgasms have never been better than now. She has both clitoral and vaginal orgasms that are mind blowing, and mine are the same, and they last longer than ever.
    dkilpatrick replied to Mensch59's response:
    I am 33 years old almost 34 & My husband is 42 years old almost 43.
    alaska_mommy replied to bogie11's response:
    OK so now I'm curious, how do you tell the difference between a clitoral, vaginal, G-spot, or uterine orgasm??? I have never been able to tell what kind I'm having...they all feel the same except for intensity.
    FCL replied to alaska_mommy's response:
    If they all feel the same then you're probably having only one type of orgasm. Gspot/vaginal orgasms (it's the same thing) feel totally different from clitoral ones - you feel them in a different place (much deeper) and the actual sensation is quite different (it pulsates and seems to spread out to the rest of the body) and there are often several waves of sensation after the first orgasm. Clitoral orgasms tend to be more concentrated, an explosion, if you will...

    If y ou were having different ones, you'd know And there are few things that feel as fabulous as having both types happen to you at the same time ...
    Cat78fish replied to FCL's response:
    I almost wish I'd never experienced both types of orgasms at the same time because it would make the fact that my husband is no longer interested in sex so much easier on me. Most of the time all I have with masturbation are the clitoral kind however, I've recently done some experimenting and when I use insert my dildo a certain way while I'm stimulating my clitoris at the same time, I have found that I can have both types of orgasms at the same time--it's just a whole lot easier to achieve with a partner.

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