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Is masturbastion my only solution?
An_213299 posted:
I am a lesbian in a long term relationship but can't orgasm other than by self stimulation. I have never been able to with other people, not from lack of trying either. I think it is psychological because I can only achieve orgasm alone... if they are in the room, even if they are not watching me, I can't climax. My girlfriend is very frustrated and thinks its her fault. She told me that I could sleep with other people as long as I was safe and she knew where I was. I am NOT okay with that but she gave up trying along time ago... now she will climax, hand me a vibrator and leave the room.. what can I do???????
tmlmtlrl responded:
What is your self stimulation? I ask because you mention the vibrator. If you only get off that way maybe you should not use it for awhile, have her use it while doing oral, or use it to get you almost there and have her finish. Otherwise it really sounds like your biggest problem is your mind and you need to R E L A X!!! Focus on the feelings you're having and not on achieving an orgasm. That is a big problem for a lot of people..they become so focused on having one that they can't possibly relax enough to have one. If this is so I would recommend going without stimulation of any kind for about a week and then giving it a go with your woman again and just focusing on all the sensations you are feeling from her.

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