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i really have no knowledge of this. But after I had my 2 children, and breasfed them, my sex drive was lower than usual. My husband is great, and understood, which makes it SO, SO much better. It helped just knowing that he was not mad, upset, etc.. he's say, we'll I'm tired too, so lets justr cuddle and go to bed. He said that knwoing how good i took care of the kids, and the breastfeeding was the best thing i've ever done for the kids- he said he understood. I would have sex a little "just for him," but not let him know, i'd fake lots, and have to use lube, cause hormones didn't make it wet, and I had NO desire for it. Hormones play a HUGE role in our lives, and I think they govern most aspects of our health. i too, would not take HRT. What about a natural progesterone creame or something natural... IDK, maybe look into some herbs, etc.. possibly help?? IDK, but I am sorry that you are going through this. Know that she too is sorry, I hated to not be into it, but my body just wasn't. Your SO feels bad about it to, and she's at a loss about what to do as well. hope someone else can help!

Decrease desire is complex. Studies show that overall hysterectomy does not produce this but on an individual level there may be different variables that can predispose someone to these symptoms. It can range from how some women define themselves (not being able to have children or personal beliefs about surgeries) depression, low hormone levels, relationship with the partner and almost anything that can hinder the desire for sex in someone who craved sex more at one time in there life.

If your partner had a hysterectomy that involved removal of both ovaries this can affect her hormone levels. This can be associated with decrease in blood flow to the genitalia which can affect arousal. She may be suffering from low hormone or estrogen levels especially since her doctor recommended replacement. There are natural estrogens that she can try. They will not bring the levels in the blood as high. There is no data that show this will bring any benefit but it is worth a try.

Make sure your partner does not feel pressure to have sex or to orgasm during sex. Pressure can increase anxiety and decreased desire. Asking her when does she think she will be ready, what makes her want to have sex, what can you do for her? (Do not limit this to just sex even helping out around the house can increase desire. Is she well rested? Addressing some of these things can be helpful.

I would think just asking "helpful things" in itself could cause anxiety. IDK it is delicate and difficult situation in my own experience. Kind of like damned if you do and damned (do without) if you don't!