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An_215095 posted:
As a young woman I've grown quite concern. I have a couple of active friends that share stories about their great sex life! I on other hand have been in a long term relationship of 3 years with my first intimate partner and haven't been able to reach an O. I've come to think that there is something wrong with me. Even after plenty of stimulation NOTHING happens! I enjoy oral sex but nothing! I've never experienced any signs of an O! No erect clitoris, no contractions NOTHING! L How do I know if I have a sexual dysfunction? Can I be anaorgasmic? Please help! It's really getting to me
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Elle0317 responded:
I didn't have my first big O until 8 years after first having sex. The more you concentrate on trying to make it happen the less it will.

Have you tried masturbating to know what feels good for you?
 
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samart20 replied to Elle0317's response:
No, I haven't. Can I be too inhibited and be the one not allowing it to happen?
 
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Elle0317 replied to samart20's response:
Yes, that is what usually happens, sex is more mental than physical. But knowing your body is key also, if you don't know what feels good it's harder to express your wants and needs to your bf.
 
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Ms_Candy804 responded:
You are completley normal. The key is to just enjoy sex, don't worry about the details. As long as you relax you will be fine. Most women take a while to reach an orgasm. The more you concentrate, the less likely it is to happen. Just relax and try some new things to change it up and it will come to you.
 
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Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH responded:
It can take years to learn to experience orgasm and the important thing is to focus on pleasure and not just whether or not one has an orgasm. BUT if you would like to learn to try to have an orgasm, check out Becoming Orgasmic or my book, Because It Feels Good. Both are full of science-backed tips you won't find in magazines.

Best,
Dr. Debby Herbenick
 
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An_241329 replied to Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH's response:
was wondering if you could help me at all..my problem is related to this subject but i seem to not be getting any feedback..

I am having an ongoing problem and i am not sure if it is physical or psychological.. in the past i have had no problems "getting off" without the help of clitoral stimulation.. but after the first time i had sex with me ex fiance i have not been able to without helping myself..even if my partner is giving me oral sex it only works when i masturbate myself.. could this be a medical disorder or could this be something psychological?
 
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July77 replied to Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH's response:
I really enjoy sex, but for some reason I do not cum ever. Every guy I have been with gets hung up on this and thinks they can't pleasure me. I have had an abortion in the past and am wondering if that can cause this problem?
 
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georgiagail replied to July77's response:
No, the fact you had an abortion plays no role in this.

Gail
 
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Mary4646 replied to Elle0317's response:
Provestra (Female Viagra) - provestra.com I received the order and it was on time and the pills work great.


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