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    anal bleeding from anal sex with no lube
    justneed2know1975 posted:
    Can anyone help me? I need to know what to do. Do I need to go to the hospital, or will it just stop on it's own? I was having sexual intercourse and he decided to stick it in my butt, witch was ok with me, but he did use enough lube, and when I tried to pull away he grabbed my hips and pushed it in hard. He says he did not realize he did not have enough lube, but every since I have been bleeding pretty badly, and I need to know what to do about it? I am afraid to go to the emergency room, mostly just embarrassed of what they will think!
    HairyD responded:
    The penis may have cause a interior hemorrhoid to bleed. If your are spotting. There is not be a issue of him pushing his penis in harder in the future. If you are continous bleeding I hope you have seen a doctor.

    Do not be embrassed all doctors have also enjoy anus sex with a partner. This position is normal as other intercourse position. They will not question you and your husband actions. Doctors are sexual active, also.

    Keep us posted
    An_215223 replied to HairyD's response:
    HairyD: I have to say that not everyone likes anal sex and I would bet that not every doctor has participated in it.

    OP: The doctors will not question having anal sex because they have treated others for the same issue before.
    Jumper197074857 responded:
    You need to see the doctor. No need to be embarassed.

    But I would be more concerned with the forcefullness your partnered showed. If this is someone you know, you need to have a long talk with them and tell them they are not allowed to do that again unless you agree to it.
    FCL replied to Jumper197074857's response:
    I too would be concerned about your partner's behaviour. You pulled away and he forced it in all the same? That is just not on. And I don't believe he was unaware of the lack of lube - it's not easy to force an insufficiently lubed penis into an anus. Methinks his ideas may stem from what he has seen in porn ...

    I suggest you give him a demonstration if he doesn't understand - a dildo will do... Anal sex is something you take slowly and gently because it is so easy to hurt your partner ... not to mention how easy it is to tear (as youi have found out).

    In any case, go and see your doctor. There's nothing to be embarrassed about.
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    An_215224 replied to An_215223's response:
    I agree with Hairy. Female and male doctor because of their training does not think of sex positions as being wrong. Therefore they have enjoyed during different styles in their younger days. They have continued with positions they choose as their favorites. Ask your male friends it they had one time. Or would like time to have anus sex with their partner. With me it would be 100 0/0
    missnya75 responded:
    you have serious health issues coming your way if you do not address the issue ASAP. Anus is full of bacteria if your rectum is perforated bacteria can enter your blood stream and you know the consequency might be deadly. It is embarassing to go to emergency room of course, but right now do not think about the embarassment think about your health. Run to the ER and you need to run fast.
    An_215225 responded:
    how in the world r u going to take it in ur butt. he has done tore sumthing up. u need to go to the doctor bc it is suppose to stop after a few mins. when he did tht by grabing ur hips n pushing it n like tht he really mess sumthing up in the inside.
    HairyD responded:
    2know, I trust everything is ok. But from your comments you pull out and he thererfore pushed in. This normal intercourse practice; that is way the male request verbal comments. Stop, your to deep, ................ Are the male is going to reponse to what feels good. The male will use a dry hand, the lube is for the female.

    Anon, must do want to try to pump the butt but it depends on the size of the butt and the penis. Therefore it does work for everyone.
    Jumper197074857 replied to HairyD's response:
    What? Are you saying the OP's partner wasn't wrong in the forcefulness he exhibited during anal sex?
    An_215226 replied to HairyD's response:
    Maybe the whiskey sours are getting in the way of your reasoning ... and your grammar. Men are not animals, HairyD. They have brains just like the rest of us. Try posting when you're sober.
    HairyD replied to An_215226's response:
    Jumper197074857 HairyD comments to justneed2know was she should have told her partner she was want to stop. SHE ONLY MADE THE COMMENT HOW IT HAPPEN NO LUBE. When she pulled out her partner complete the process and pushed in. There was no comment he was using force. Only that he pushed in hard. But HairyD was concern for the female.

    475 -- there was no reason to personal commit to HairyD
    Since you have nothing else to share

    "Personal attacks on others could result in the revocation of your membership. Everyone is welcome to state his or her views and opinions, but challenges to other's viewpoints, must be respectful and thoughtful, without insult or personal attack."

    This is America and this site has rules please read.... and you could be reported.
    An_215227 replied to HairyD's response:
    HairyD You were the one who said you wrote under the influence of whiskey sours, I was merely pointing out that this is detrimental to the comprehension of your posts. Report me if you choose to do so. As you say, this is America and we all also have the right to free speech.

    Good day to you.
    Jumper197074857 replied to HairyD's response:
    The fact she tried to pull away should have been enough for her partner to realize she did not want to continue. She should not have needed to tell her partner to stop.
    Elle0317 replied to An_215225's response:
    When done properly, anal sex does not cause any type of bleeding. This man used force and without lube, no wonder she bled! A caring and gentle lover would take his time and take particular care to notice his woman's reactions, and he would use lube, lots of it. He certainly would not force it in after she has pulled away, that's rape in my book, a woman has right to stop at ANY time, even if he isn't 'finished' yet.

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