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Wife, age 60, can only have 10 minutes of sex?
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phendee posted:
I have tried to talk about sex with my wife for a long time - We've been married for forty years. She has a hard time with the subject. I am 62, she is sixty. She claims she can only take me sexually for about ten minutes. As I am older now, I cannot ejaculate "on demand". She always says during sex, "Are you done yet?" When I asked her about why she wants to get it over with so soon, she tells me that she has a lot of pain during sex and that her doctor told her that because she went through menopause at age 42, she has "Old, Thin Vaginal Membranes". Can this be true? I have e-mailed her all of the reasons for pain during sex from WebMD. This reason was not on the list. She claims non of the other reasons are relavent.
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FCL responded:
Here's an article that might make it clearer to you:

http://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/sex-menopause

Given her age, yes, she is very likely to have thin, delicate vaginal membranes. It's called vaginal atrophy - here's an explanation:

http://blogs.webmd.com/womens-health/2011/05/a-for-atrophy.html
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
 
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Rhondamay responded:
Here is a link that may help your wife:

http://blogs.webmd.com/womens-health/2011/05/a-for-atrophy.htm
 
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Rhondamay replied to Rhondamay's response:
Gosh, I'm sorry about duplicating FCL's link. Somehow I missed it. Anyway it is a very good article on vaginal dryness.
 
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phendee replied to FCL's response:
Thanks FCL for the link. It was very helpful towards a better understanding. By the way, I like your saying under the link. A healthy imagination and a commitment to your partner is a good thing.
 
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MissChooChoo responded:
I had a total hysterectomy when I was forty and went through early menopause as a result. Sex became very painful for me too, but I've found the joy of sex again after no sex for many years. Thin vaginal membranes seems to be a common cause for pain during sex after menopause, but there are cures for that. And, she could have scarring from the hysterectomy too, or adhesions. She should get some help from her doctor, or go to a specialist for some real help. It's not really fair to you to call it quits to a happy sex life that makes you healthier (and her too) in the long run.
 
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An_215240 replied to MissChooChoo's response:
Don't forget to consider other methods, external stimulation, and adequate lubricants.


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