low sex drive in early 20's
mnewsome02 posted:
I am 23, I have 2 children and since the birth of my second child I have no sex drive at all. The thought of having sex somtimes makes want to cry. It is causing major trouble in my marriage, because my husband thinks there is something wrong with him, but its not him I just have no drive at all. Do I need hormone replacement therapy or is there some other answer?
16 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sI am 23, I have 2 children and since the birth of my second child I have no sex drive at all. The thought of having sex somtimes makes want to cry. It is causing major trouble in my marriage, because my husband thinks there is something wrong with him, but its not him I just have no drive at all. Do I need hormone replacement therapy or is there some other answer?
georgiagail responded:
I'd suggest exhaustion from tending to two little ones is playing a major role in your current lack of interest in sex.
Gail
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Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sI'd suggest exhaustion from tending to two little ones is playing a major role in your current lack of interest in sex.<br /> <br />Gail
brittanyc21 responded:
am 21,I have 1 child and since the birth of my son i have no sex drive at all.I am engaged to be married and i dont know what to.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20's<i>am 21,I have 1 child and since the birth of my son i have no sex drive at all.I am engaged to be married and i dont know what to.</i>
k2kyr responded:
you are not alone. Im 24 with one child. Ever since i started the nuva ring b.c, my sex drive has hit the ground. Im having horrible argument, cause now he feels rejected.. I dont know why im feeln this way, an i wanna go back to normal.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'syou are not alone. Im 24 with one child. Ever since i started the nuva ring b.c, my sex drive has hit the ground. Im having horrible argument, cause now he feels rejected.. I dont know why im feeln this way, an i wanna go back to normal.
CarolinaRJ replied to brittanyc21's response:
same here.. i thought something was wrong with me 
im only 21 and have 1 daughter and my fiance gets mad and thinks im not attracted to him anymore, even though i tell him its something wrong with me im not interested in sex anymore. i have no idea why.. any suggestions??
im only 21 and have 1 daughter and my fiance gets mad and thinks im not attracted to him anymore, even though i tell him its something wrong with me im not interested in sex anymore. i have no idea why.. any suggestions??Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'ssame here.. i thought something was wrong with me <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/chagrin.gif" align="top" border="0"> im only 21 and have 1 daughter and my fiance gets mad and thinks im not attracted to him anymore, even though i tell him its something wrong with me im not interested in sex anymore. i have no idea why.. any suggestions??
amanda1585 responded:
Try first food that gives some help..
Send you kids to your parents on a weekend, spend time together...take some vitamins..
Read some good books to enhance you sexual desires, watch movies together...talk and be honest to your husband of how you feel. He will understand and im sure he will help you get through.
If all of these wont work, consult your dr.
Pray that the first steps works..
Nothing is impossible with prayers.
Goodluck!
Send you kids to your parents on a weekend, spend time together...take some vitamins..
Read some good books to enhance you sexual desires, watch movies together...talk and be honest to your husband of how you feel. He will understand and im sure he will help you get through.
If all of these wont work, consult your dr.
Pray that the first steps works..
Nothing is impossible with prayers.
Goodluck!
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sTry first food that gives some help..<br />Send you kids to your parents on a weekend, spend time together...take some vitamins..<br />Read some good books to enhance you sexual desires, watch movies together...talk and be honest to your husband of how you feel. He will understand and im sure he will help you get through.<br /> <br />If all of these wont work, consult your dr.<br />Pray that the first steps works..<br />Nothing is impossible with prayers.<br />Goodluck! <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/wink.gif" align="top" border="0">
proudmommy907 responded:
Hi, I am 23 with 3 kids and since the birth of my second child I have had no sex drive. I have talked to the doctors and they say theres nothing they can do to help. Its taking its toll on my marriage. And I am all out of options. But what I have read was to try herbal remmodies. I havent tried them.
Glad to know I am not alone
Glad to know I am not alone
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sHi, I am 23 with 3 kids and since the birth of my second child I have had no sex drive. I have talked to the doctors and they say theres nothing they can do to help. Its taking its toll on my marriage. And I am all out of options. But what I have read was to try herbal remmodies. I havent tried them. <br /> <br />Glad to know I am not alone <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/grin.gif" align="top" border="0">
Anon_129886 responded:
How many of you are on BC pills or shots? medications like birth control and antidepressants effect sex drive.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sHow many of you are on BC pills or shots? medications like birth control and antidepressants effect sex drive.
mnewsome02 replied to Anon_129886's response:
No, I actually had my tubes tide after the birth of my second child because there were some complications and we almost didnt make it.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sNo, I actually had my tubes tide after the birth of my second child because there were some complications and we almost didnt make it.
MississippiGirl93 responded:
if it makes you feel any better im 18 and my sex drive is excruciatingly low....im always stressed out and work 40 hours a week and go to school at the same time. ive went to doctors about missed periods and he said it would be a symptom due to my highly stressed lifestyle...
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sif it makes you feel any better im 18 and my sex drive is excruciatingly low....im always stressed out and work 40 hours a week and go to school at the same time. ive went to doctors about missed periods and he said it would be a symptom due to my highly stressed lifestyle...
MissAmandaLynne responded:
I'm 22, have 2 children and am currently pregnant with my 3rd.
After my second son, my sex drive was and is non-existant.
And for anyone to tell you or anyone in this post that there is nothing that can be done, SEE A DIFFERENT DOCTOR.
I know after my second was born, all i could associate sex with was 2 children that were way too close together, 11 months apart to be exact. It wasn't an intimate thing anymore, and once you think that just once, that intimate flare starts to die down. Hormones had alot to do with it also.
I take vitamins everyday, liquid b12, drink lot's of water, eat lot's of raw foods and it never changed for me. I just have to decide when i feel like giving in to my husband. ha!
Swiss Lube really helps once we get going, that and really relaxing, like taking a shower together and him taking much more time to stimulate me.
Your Gyno could be really helpful with medications, herbal or prescription that could help you out. That and stress reducing techniques.
After my second son, my sex drive was and is non-existant.
And for anyone to tell you or anyone in this post that there is nothing that can be done, SEE A DIFFERENT DOCTOR.
I know after my second was born, all i could associate sex with was 2 children that were way too close together, 11 months apart to be exact. It wasn't an intimate thing anymore, and once you think that just once, that intimate flare starts to die down. Hormones had alot to do with it also.
I take vitamins everyday, liquid b12, drink lot's of water, eat lot's of raw foods and it never changed for me. I just have to decide when i feel like giving in to my husband. ha!
Swiss Lube really helps once we get going, that and really relaxing, like taking a shower together and him taking much more time to stimulate me.
Your Gyno could be really helpful with medications, herbal or prescription that could help you out. That and stress reducing techniques.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sI'm 22, have 2 children and am currently pregnant with my 3rd. <br />After my second son, my sex drive was and is non-existant.<br />And for anyone to tell you or anyone in this post that there is nothing that can be done, SEE A DIFFERENT DOCTOR. <br />I know after my second was born, all i could associate sex with was 2 children that were way too close together, 11 months apart to be exact. It wasn't an intimate thing anymore, and once you think that just once, that intimate flare starts to die down. Hormones had alot to do with it also.<br />I take vitamins everyday, liquid b12, drink lot's of water, eat lot's of raw foods and it never changed for me. I just have to decide when i feel like giving in to my husband. ha!<br />Swiss Lube really helps once we get going, that and really relaxing, like taking a shower together and him taking much more time to stimulate me. <br />Your Gyno could be really helpful with medications, herbal or prescription that could help you out. That and stress reducing techniques.
alaska_mommy replied to k2kyr's response:
k2kyr, if your sex drive bottomed out after you went on the nuvaring, then maybe you need to look into a different BC method.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sk2kyr, if your sex drive bottomed out after you went on the nuvaring, then maybe you need to look into a different BC method.
FCL replied to MissAmandaLynne's response:
Just a couple of things to add. Before I start, I am criticizing nobody and just making suggestions and observations.
We see a lot of new mothers here complain about inexistant or very low sex drives since they gave birth. Many of them totally disregard the fact that fatigue is a HUGE factor in their situation. Whatever else may be causing their low libidos, it makes sense to get the rest you need. Sleep is far higher on the pyramid of human needs than sex. lso, you need to take care of your own needs before you can effectively take care of a baby.
Having said that, their SOs need to accept that too and not expect their partners to be sex kittens the minute they walk through the door (many don't understand the toll that pregnancy and childbirth take on your body nor the exhaustion that comes with taking care of small babies 24/7 - so tell them, explain to them). Child-rearing is a parent's job, not a mother's job and pitching in can make all the difference. They have their role to play and their share of the work to do if they want their partner's drive to come back.
Rest is IMPERATIVE when you have small children if you want a sex life. Make sure you're getting enough. You might be surprised at how fast things change.
We see a lot of new mothers here complain about inexistant or very low sex drives since they gave birth. Many of them totally disregard the fact that fatigue is a HUGE factor in their situation. Whatever else may be causing their low libidos, it makes sense to get the rest you need. Sleep is far higher on the pyramid of human needs than sex. lso, you need to take care of your own needs before you can effectively take care of a baby.
Having said that, their SOs need to accept that too and not expect their partners to be sex kittens the minute they walk through the door (many don't understand the toll that pregnancy and childbirth take on your body nor the exhaustion that comes with taking care of small babies 24/7 - so tell them, explain to them). Child-rearing is a parent's job, not a mother's job and pitching in can make all the difference. They have their role to play and their share of the work to do if they want their partner's drive to come back.
Rest is IMPERATIVE when you have small children if you want a sex life. Make sure you're getting enough. You might be surprised at how fast things change.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sJust a couple of things to add. Before I start, I am criticizing nobody and just making suggestions and observations.<br /> <br />We see a lot of new mothers here complain about inexistant or very low sex drives since they gave birth. Many of them totally disregard the fact that fatigue is a HUGE factor in their situation. Whatever else may be causing their low libidos, it makes sense to get the rest you need. Sleep is far higher on the pyramid of human needs than sex. lso, you need to take care of your own needs before you can effectively take care of a baby. <br /> <br />Having said that, their SOs need to accept that too and not expect their partners to be sex kittens the minute they walk through the door (many don't understand the toll that pregnancy and childbirth take on your body nor the exhaustion that comes with taking care of small babies 24/7 - so tell them, explain to them). Child-rearing is a parent's job, not a mother's job and pitching in can make all the difference. They have their role to play and their share of the work to do if they want their partner's drive to come back.<br /> <br />Rest is IMPERATIVE when you have small children if you want a sex life. Make sure you're getting enough. You might be surprised at how fast things change.
Jumper197074857 replied to FCL's response:
Good advice. I'd be curious to find out how many fathers take care of the baby when they get home from work or help out around the house. Better yet, offer to spend the day with the kid(s) so the mother can go have some "me" time.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sGood advice. I'd be curious to find out how many fathers take care of the baby when they get home from work or help out around the house. Better yet, offer to spend the day with the kid(s) so the mother can go have some "me" time.
FCL replied to Jumper197074857's response:
Mine used to come home every evening to find his daughters (we have twins) bathed, fed and ready for bed so he could spend some quality time with them (without me interfering - lol but that was important). I got an hour or so "me" time every evening. You cannot imagine how much it meant to me ... nor to him. And yes, anything that wasn't done during the week was done as teamwork at the weekend.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:low sex drive in early 20'sMine used to come home every evening to find his daughters (we have twins) bathed, fed and ready for bed so he could spend some quality time with them (without me interfering - lol but that was important). I got an hour or so "me" time every evening. You cannot imagine how much it meant to me ... nor to him. And yes, anything that wasn't done during the week was done as teamwork at the weekend.
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