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Sudden and severe increase in libido
Anon_220422 posted:
I am in my early 40s and have an overnight increase in my sex drive. This past week I haven't been able to think of anything else. As I write this and read the words I am getting turned on. If you knew me, you would know this is completely out of character. I am married with 2 young children. I am a stay at home mom, currently. My husband thinks it's great - to a point. I am concerned there might be something wrong, medically, that is causing this new feeling/obsession. Can something like this just happen overnight without something being wrong?
Elle0317 responded:
Most women are in their sexual prime in their 40's, maybe you're in it?
Anon_220422 replied to Elle0317's response:
Yes, I am aware of that, but this is SO much more. I cannot stop thinking about it or wanting it! It's all the time. No matter what I am doing or who I am with, I think about it. I usually have sex with my husband once a week to once every 2 weeks. This week we have done it 4 times. Last night we did it twice and in between with a dildo and I STILL wanted more (it lasted for over 3 hours!). I went online last night after our hours of sex and watched online porn videos for another 2 hours and masturbated along with them the whole time. This morning I have already masturbated in the shower and I am putting the kids down for a nap as we speak to go into my room and masturbate again. As I write this I am EXTREMELY turned on! I can't focus on anything else. And when I orgasm it's like NONE I've ever had in the past! I LOVE this feeling, don't get me wrong, but all the time? And no matter what I'm doing? It's actually quite embarrassing and those who know me would be SHOCKED to know this is happening and would also know there must be something wrong. I'm wondering if it could be something medical and if I should see someone. I'm getting nervous because when my husband isn't around my mind wanders to thinking about which of those people we know I could get to have sex with me. I feel like I'd drop everything right now and go with a guy if he said "I'm ready to do it if you are!" I think this all goes WAY beyond normal. Any medical experts care to chime in?
Kylesww replied to Anon_220422's response:
im as horny as u
increasing replied to Kylesww's response:
Not helping, Kyle, thanks. I thought there were medical experts on this site, but I guess not. Looks like I'll be making an appt with my MD on Monday. If you were here right now, Kyle, I'd do you all night long!
alaska_mommy replied to increasing's response:
Give it can be a day or so before one of the MD's will respond.
That's all I'm going to say, because I don't have any helpful advice to offer (unlike Kyle there, LOL)!
I think an MD appointment would be a good place to start, though.
Good luck
FCL responded:
How about posting this ver on the gyn board? It has an RN who answers quite a lot of questions. Put her name in the heading - she's called Jane - and that should increase the liklihood of her reading and responding. You'll find her here:
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
An_228457 responded:
I am in my early 40's as well and I just started to have that urge to climax while laying next to my husband. He is dead asleep and I want to be with him, but he has to work and I have to respect that so I prayed and yes I am a christian so I prayed God would help me thew the night and then this morning I waited on him to make themove cuz we were snuggling and hugging and naked but he didn't make a move and its sexually frustrating and when I tell him that Bam then he tries to make love to me. I had lost interest for 10 mins but the urge was still there and told him what I wanted him to do and he said I gotta go to work so I am left feeling unattractive and am committed to my spouse. I don't masturbate cuz that opens doors like for porn and wanting more. Women are in there sexual prime in their 40's men aren't. I am wantingto be a counselor. I don't watch porn or masturbate but I do have urges and I want my spouse to take care of it right then and there but that's where self control comes in and yes it sucks cuz I wanted him to come home and tear my clothes off and do me but he didn't and at lunch time he wondered why I was in a mood. Well duh hello husband. I would never even remotely even think to ever cheat on my spouse. Porn masturbation leads to different stuff. For you not a doctor maybe a counselor would work. I am in the process of finding a counselor myself. Its hard cuz I have multiple orgasms an.d if you knew me this is not my character. Its embarassing for me as well. Married with 4 kids and I am a sexually frustrated women myself. When I want it I want it period and hubby has to to wk. I love god more than my husband. I prayed last nighti wanted him so freakin bad and that urge while he was asleep I wanted it taken care of.. my spouse tells me we have to wait 2 to 3 days befor he can do it again so here we go I have to freakin wait again for him and its not fair to me at all but I suck it up and accept it. He doesn't get it. I can't control him. We have been married going on 2 and a half years and the romance has been taken off the menu. We love one another. And we r in love with each other unconditional love but this area he is trying to snuggle and hug me more but like I had my pajama top off in bed one night were laying there kissing and he is not turned on or aroused by that. Not even this morning cuz he was concerned on the snuggling which I thanked him for that but my urge was not met and he was told that. We r both trying but a lot of stuff hasn't been fair to me. This sucks buttermilk and all he can say he is sorry and that's all I get all the time. And now sorry isn't good enough at times. Whydoesnt he do what I like? Why can't he be more aggressive? Don't know. I think I have been pretty lienent with him and now it makes me sexually frustrated. He asked me what was wrong cuz for an hr he finally noticed I was carressing him but ddnt grab him like I normaly do. He played up top a little and I thought now we r oing get busy but nope then he said what's wrong r u sexually frustrated and I said yes then he preceeds to try then by that time my interest was gone. Is there something wrong with me? Cuz dangit were there laying there for an hr an nothing. I wanted him to make the first move. We are attracted to one another but hello. One time I was naked and he was in the kitchen at the table. I am in the door way and mind you waited in the bedroom for him for 30 mins. So I am standing there ugh hello. I want you now and he didn't get. He told me he doesn't think about sex while he is at work or about me like that while he is at work cuz he seperates his job from his personal life I understand that. Hbe thinks of me sexually only when the kids aren't here or we r in the bed room. Ugh hello duh iwas butt naked this morning and nothin happened. I am so frustrated and me having that urge without intimacy and laying by him has never happened before.
Kylesww replied to increasing's response:
lets get it on then.
Kylesww replied to An_228457's response:
have u tried playing with his privates?

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