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wonderingaboutthis posted:
Something I've wondered about. My dw had a hysterectomy some 15-20 years ago due to fibroids. Since then, on occasion, I've found myself "missing" her cervix "at the end of the tunnel". I'm just average length, so we never had the issue of "cervix crashes" during vigorous sex or deep thrusting. But, I do remember when getting close to my orgasm, thrusting hard so that my penis would "bounce" off her cervix was a very pleasurable thing and could trigger a very strong orgasm. I also just loved it being there during doggy style sex, in fact, bouncing off that firm area over and over really was pleasurable, like I was some well-endowed porn star or something "hitting bottom".

I've read alot of women's comments that a "cervix crash" can be very painful, and I empathize with those ladies whose partners are well-endowed and can cause pain if they get too out-of-control. But my wife actually found the "bumping" to be a good feeling, and often helped her reach her orgasm if she or I also incorporated clitoral play into the mix.

I'm not complaing in the least, it certainly was nobodys fault my wife had to have hers removed, I'm only making a comment that I do miss that lovely firm spot at the end of her vagina. Sex is still fantastic with her, just different now. Since her surgery, there literally is "no end" to her vagina with my average size "equipment", I can push as hard as I can and there's just more room left there than I can fill.

Guys, any of you know what I mean? Enjoy or miss your lady's cervix? Ladies, any of you enjoy that moderate "bump" into your cervix, or does it just hurt?

Oh and one other side effect of the surgery. My wife was in her early 40's when she had her hysterectomy. Before her surgery, her "female scent" when aroused and lubricating was lush, strong, and an incredible womanly aphrodisiac to me. Immediately following her recuperation from the surgery and our return to sex, I noticed her lovely signature female scent was all but gone. Just a clean, non-descript scent, with no muskiness or other sensual undertones. Must be the uterus/cervix plays a big role in the "scent of a woman". Alas, I sorely miss her lush sex scent. Of course, I love her just as she is today and these things don't change my love and lust for her in the least, but they are there.
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BalconyBelle responded:
While nothing will truly replace the cervix, if your wife is open to it, you might look into ben wa balls (the type with strings attached) as a substitute. That way, after foreplay you could insert them, then go for vaginal penetration, and the adult toys should provide a bit of resistance--an 'end' to the tunnel if you will. Just make sure you pull them out when you're through. You might also want to run this idea by your doctor just to insure that it will be safe for you to do BEFORE actually proceeding.
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wonderingaboutthis replied to BalconyBelle's response:
We actually do something similar. She has a vibrating "egg" attached to a separate battery pack by a thin cord. Tucking that into her vagina and then slowly and carefully pushing it all the way back with my penis first makes for some pleasurable sensations. It gives me something to "bump into" and the vibrations transmit wonderfully around her vaginal walls. Very nice feeling with the vibrator running, to be sure. She says it doesn't hurt her at all, and is happy to do this if I ask for it. It's actually too far back to give her any g-spot pleasure though, so it's prettty much just something for me.

One time a long while back, I convinced her to insert the egg anally, and that was amazing feeling it vibrate through her vaginal wall as I passed by it over and over. Unfortunately at this time same time she wasn't exactly thrilled about anything in her anus so it turned into a one time-only pleasure.

Is cervical contact a good sensation for women in general? I've read about painful "crashes" here before, but I haven't seen much about firm but gentle "bumping" as a pleasure for the ladies.

But as you said, there's nothing quite like the real thing.
 
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BalconyBelle replied to wonderingaboutthis's response:
In general, for women to have their cervix bumped/crashed into repeatedly during sex would be the equivalent of racking a man repeatedly---and when his balls had been crushed into mush, ask if that felt good.

Not every woman is the same though; case in point--your wife. What felt good for her would probably be excruciating for someone else, simply because not every woman's cervical sensitivity is the same.
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wonderingaboutthis replied to BalconyBelle's response:
Wow I had no idea that the cervix had the same painful sensations as being hit in the testicles! As you said, that didn't seem to be the case for my wife, but now I see why other women have issues with overiszed lovers and "crashes".

Call it male ignorance, I had always thought there just weren't many nerve endings in the cervix and it was just sort of one of those "I don't feel much of anything" places. At least in my case, I am not endowed well enough to manage much more than an occasional bump and only if I really push hard. Being married I'm permanently "out of circulation" anyway, so my ignorance won't be causing anyone any cervical pain, it was more of a curiosity about a time long since passed.

Thanks, BB!
 
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alaska_mommy replied to wonderingaboutthis's response:
I agree that too hard of a "crash" can be painful, I've had that happen, but also I'm of the same mind as your wife, I like the gentle repetitive bumping of the cervical area is quite nice during sex. It's not a huge big deal to me, but it does enhance the sexual experience.
 
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someonewhocares3 responded:
The cervix (and uterus) are key to sexual function (desire, arousal, and response) in most women (they ARE sex organs!!). Of course, the ovaries are also essential. Not all women experience uterine orgasms but they obviously cannot occur without a uterus. Just as a man's prostate and testicles are essential to all aspects of health, so are a woman's sex organs. Here's a video about the functions of the female organs (much more than for reproduction)-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff5IOSj1l7w .

When the cervix is removed, the vagina is actually shortened. This can be a problem for men with a longer than average penis and can destroy a couple's sex life (I know of some cases — not mine personally though). I suspect the reason that you don't feel "the bottom" (cervix) that you found so pleasurable before is because the cervix "grabs" the tip of the penis increasing a man's pleasure. When the cervix is removed the vagina is sutured shut at the top making it generally less pleasurable for the man. My husband says it feels no different but it takes him longer to orgasm and his orgasms aren't as intense.

My gyn unnecessarily removed everything for a benign ovarian cyst 5 years ago. EVERYTHING changed that day including my sex life despite being on hormones. I have little to no libido and the severed nerves, blood vessels, and ligaments have severely reduced sensation to my genitalia and breasts. My once sexy figure is also gone. Although I haven't gained weight, the post-hyst spine compression resulting from the severed ligaments has caused my rib cage to fall towards my hip bones giving me the post-hyst belly along with back and hip pain. I also aged rapidly (skin and hair changes are the most obvious). I now realize that I'm just one of the 75% of women who have their uterus unnecessarily removed -
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10674580 . I've read that 50-73% of women are castrated at the time of hysterectomy. I consider these disturbing statistics.

 
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rhondamay replied to someonewhocares3's response:
someonewhocares3 More scare tactics to make women more anxious and fearful. I had a hysterectomy years ago and they removed my uterus and cervix. Honestly, if the sex after the hysterectomy was any better I don't think I could stand it and what's more I am pain free and have been since a week after the surgery. I am sorry about your problems but they are counter to mine and every woman I know who has had this procedure.

Rhonda
 
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someonewhocares3 replied to rhondamay's response:
I'm glad you were one of the lucky ones whose sex life wasn't impacted. But I know many women whose sex lives have suffered. And many of them are now forever dependent on hormones for their quality of life.

Again, without a uterus, a woman cannot have a uterine orgasm. In my experience, clitoral aren't nearly as intense / full body and uterine occurred with intercourse; clitoral not usually (at least for me). Please don't negate or discount my personal experience.

For women with chronic pain, a hysterectomy may give her a better quality of life but keep in mind that according to ACOG, 76% don't meet their criteria for the surgery. Something's "rotten in Denmark" when 1 in 3 women has a hyst by age 60 and 1 in 2 by age 72.

Every woman deserves to know the well-documented facts about hysterectomy before she consents.
 
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georgiagail replied to someonewhocares3's response:
The OP's wife had her hysterectomy 15-20 years ago. Again, your posting is simply to continue to promote your agenda against hysterectomies no matter what.

Gail
 
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wonderingaboutthis replied to someonewhocares3's response:
This thread is rather old now, but seeing the new responses, I had to come back to it. One thing I need to make clear (I can see) is that my wife's hysterectomy has had nothing but positive effects for her - no more constant bleeding due to the fibroids, sex anytime we wanted again, and the biggest thing I need to say is her sexual response did not suffer one iota! In fact, if anything, the new freedom from bleeding and sponteneity it offered turned our sex life into something wonderful again.

And the "no uterus, no uterine orgasm" argument? "Relegated back to mere clitoral orgasms" is a pretty harsh statement. My wife has both tremendously intense clitoral orgasms, and even more intense vaginal g-spot orgasms, accompanied by a most pleasureable squirting or gushing ejaculation. The idea that she was "castrated" by having her hysterectomy is just plain offensive to me and toward my wife. Surgeons (human beings) occasionally make mistakes, and I really feel for the women who are desensitized or have nerve damage. But to use that as a blanket statement against hysterectomies is just plain hateful rubbish.

And to think I only was posting lamenting the loss of a tiny pleasure I used to feel by bumping into her cervix has caused this kind of over-reaction is sad. Soap-boxing like that doesn't belong here - my wife and I enjoy a better than average sex life and she's just plain sexual dynamite, uterus or not.

"Someonewhocares", I have to wonder who it is you care about. If I met you on the street with my wife at my side, I'd demand an apology from you to her for the demeaning way you derided a necessary surgery that saved her life and saved our languishing sex life. Go somewhere else with your doomsday comments, please. And by the way, even though it was 21 years ago, her surgeon clearly went through each and every single possible negative side-effect before she ever consented to the surgery, and the risks were completely worth taking to my wife..
 
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juneplumjuice replied to someonewhocares3's response:
I am about to do have an hysterectomy done and was wondering about the top of the vagina after the cervix is removed. thanks for clearing that up for me.


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