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I've read alot of women's comments that a "cervix crash" can be very painful, and I empathize with those ladies whose partners are well-endowed and can cause pain if they get too out-of-control. But my wife actually found the "bumping" to be a good feeling, and often helped her reach her orgasm if she or I also incorporated clitoral play into the mix.
I'm not complaing in the least, it certainly was nobodys fault my wife had to have hers removed, I'm only making a comment that I do miss that lovely firm spot at the end of her vagina. Sex is still fantastic with her, just different now. Since her surgery, there literally is "no end" to her vagina with my average size "equipment", I can push as hard as I can and there's just more room left there than I can fill.
Guys, any of you know what I mean? Enjoy or miss your lady's cervix? Ladies, any of you enjoy that moderate "bump" into your cervix, or does it just hurt?
Oh and one other side effect of the surgery. My wife was in her early 40's when she had her hysterectomy. Before her surgery, her "female scent" when aroused and lubricating was lush, strong, and an incredible womanly aphrodisiac to me. Immediately following her recuperation from the surgery and our return to sex, I noticed her lovely signature female scent was all but gone. Just a clean, non-descript scent, with no muskiness or other sensual undertones. Must be the uterus/cervix plays a big role in the "scent of a woman". Alas, I sorely miss her lush sex scent. Of course, I love her just as she is today and these things don't change my love and lust for her in the least, but they are there.
One time a long while back, I convinced her to insert the egg anally, and that was amazing feeling it vibrate through her vaginal wall as I passed by it over and over. Unfortunately at this time same time she wasn't exactly thrilled about anything in her anus so it turned into a one time-only pleasure.
Is cervical contact a good sensation for women in general? I've read about painful "crashes" here before, but I haven't seen much about firm but gentle "bumping" as a pleasure for the ladies.
But as you said, there's nothing quite like the real thing.
Not every woman is the same though; case in point--your wife. What felt good for her would probably be excruciating for someone else, simply because not every woman's cervical sensitivity is the same.
Call it male ignorance, I had always thought there just weren't many nerve endings in the cervix and it was just sort of one of those "I don't feel much of anything" places. At least in my case, I am not endowed well enough to manage much more than an occasional bump and only if I really push hard. Being married I'm permanently "out of circulation" anyway, so my ignorance won't be causing anyone any cervical pain, it was more of a curiosity about a time long since passed.
Thanks, BB!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff5IOSj1l7w .
When the cervix is removed, the vagina is actually shortened. This can be a problem for men with a longer than average penis and can destroy a couple's sex life (I know of some cases — not mine personally though). I suspect the reason that you don't feel "the bottom" (cervix) that you found so pleasurable before is because the cervix "grabs" the tip of the penis increasing a man's pleasure. When the cervix is removed the vagina is sutured shut at the top making it generally less pleasurable for the man. My husband says it feels no different but it takes him longer to orgasm and his orgasms aren't as intense.
My gyn unnecessarily removed everything for a benign ovarian cyst 5 years ago. EVERYTHING changed that day including my sex life despite being on hormones. I have little to no libido and the severed nerves, blood vessels, and ligaments have severely reduced sensation to my genitalia and breasts. My once sexy figure is also gone. Although I haven't gained weight, the post-hyst spine compression resulting from the severed ligaments has caused my rib cage to fall towards my hip bones giving me the post-hyst belly along with back and hip pain. I also aged rapidly (skin and hair changes are the most obvious). I now realize that I'm just one of the 75% of women who have their uterus unnecessarily removed -
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10674580 . I've read that 50-73% of women are castrated at the time of hysterectomy. I consider these disturbing statistics.
Rhonda
Again, without a uterus, a woman cannot have a uterine orgasm. In my experience, clitoral aren't nearly as intense / full body and uterine occurred with intercourse; clitoral not usually (at least for me). Please don't negate or discount my personal experience.
For women with chronic pain, a hysterectomy may give her a better quality of life but keep in mind that according to ACOG, 76% don't meet their criteria for the surgery. Something's "rotten in Denmark" when 1 in 3 women has a hyst by age 60 and 1 in 2 by age 72.
Every woman deserves to know the well-documented facts about hysterectomy before she consents.
Gail
And the "no uterus, no uterine orgasm" argument? "Relegated back to mere clitoral orgasms" is a pretty harsh statement. My wife has both tremendously intense clitoral orgasms, and even more intense vaginal g-spot orgasms, accompanied by a most pleasureable squirting or gushing ejaculation. The idea that she was "castrated" by having her hysterectomy is just plain offensive to me and toward my wife. Surgeons (human beings) occasionally make mistakes, and I really feel for the women who are desensitized or have nerve damage. But to use that as a blanket statement against hysterectomies is just plain hateful rubbish.
And to think I only was posting lamenting the loss of a tiny pleasure I used to feel by bumping into her cervix has caused this kind of over-reaction is sad. Soap-boxing like that doesn't belong here - my wife and I enjoy a better than average sex life and she's just plain sexual dynamite, uterus or not.
"Someonewhocares", I have to wonder who it is you care about. If I met you on the street with my wife at my side, I'd demand an apology from you to her for the demeaning way you derided a necessary surgery that saved her life and saved our languishing sex life. Go somewhere else with your doomsday comments, please. And by the way, even though it was 21 years ago, her surgeon clearly went through each and every single possible negative side-effect before she ever consented to the surgery, and the risks were completely worth taking to my wife..
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