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    Getting married!
    jps89 posted:

    I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this or not. Anyway, I am going to marry my sweetheart in about three months, and we are both virgins. We have our honeymoon planned, but we're staying our first night at a hotel in Wellington, New Zealand. (She's a Kiwi!)

    Here's the silly question: I don't know too many details, but I know that a woman virgin may bleed upon the intercourse for the first time. (Some sort of skin layer is broken... is that correct? I don't make it a habit to research female anatomy.) So, what are you supposed to do in a hotel room? How do you prevent staining the sheets? Am I supposed to bring some fancy cloth? I assumed that my fiancee would know because she's really cool and knows everything, but she admitted she was wondering the exact same thing.

    Is there any tradition or guideline I'm supposed to follow?

    GuardSquealer responded:
    The Hymen may be broken during intercourse the first time and some bleeding may occur. But if she is an active girl it may already have been broken. By active I mean athletics or strenuous activities. If you are worried about staining the sheets you could put a towel down, just in case. I imagine the amount of bleeding varies from woman to woman. My first wife was a virgin our first time, and she did bleed a little. But it was minimal and didn't get on the sheets at all.

    The only tradition or guideline to follow is to be a loving and caring husband. And you may want to learn some about the female anatomy so that you can learn how to give her an orgasm. It isn't quite as simple as just having intercourse.
    tlkittycat1968 responded:
    In addition to what GuardSquealer said, not every woman bleeds the first time they have sex. I don't remember bleeding the first time I had sex or if I did, it was so light I didn't notice.

    As for the sheets, I'm sure hotels have seen a lot worse. I'm sure they've had women start their periods at night.
    jps89 replied to tlkittycat1968's response:
    Ok, sounds good. Less of a big deal than I thought then! Thanks very much!

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