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    I would like to look more like a woman! (since i am)
    An_241288 posted:
    I am now 21 years old and i have never really developed hips, i have small breasts broad shoulders and a seriously abnormal sex drive. I'm a dude! but no really im not I also miss my period for looooong periods of time like months without one and im not pregnant i even get blood tests to verify the negative pregnancy tests just to make sure. Do i have a hormone deficiency or am i just weird looking? It's pretty embarrassing.
    BalconyBelle responded:
    Hormonal imbalance might explain the unusual length of time between periods--so could being extremely physically active or stressed. I'd recommend caution before believing you have an abnormal sex-drive--some people have very high drives, some people have very low drives, and some people are wired for more fetish/exotic behaviors before their drive kicks in--no matter where you fall in the spectrum, it's generally completely natural.

    If you do have a hormonal imbalance, medication may help regulate your periods, though I wouldn't expect it to do anything in regards to giving you a more feminine appearance. It sounds like you're genetically built to have a more willowy, lithesome frame, instead of being full-figured, and there's nothing wrong with that.

    You can dress to flatter the figure you have, and the right clothes & accessories (and makeup) will go a long way towards projecting a more feminine you. From what you've described, I don't think you're weird looking (actually, I don't really think anyone's weird looking unless they've had too much plastic surgery, or a botched procedure). It just sounds like you're not built like a playboy bunny or Victoria Secret model, and that's fine.

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