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    Slight Bleeding after Anal Sex
    wonderingaboutthis posted:
    My husband and I have been enjoying anal sex 2-3 times a week for about 8 months with no problems. I never experience pain of any kind, only intense pleasure and I even have anal orgasms. Hubby's penis is very thick. I can't even close my hand around it. But with just a couple minutes of relaxation, plenty of lube, and making sure I'm totally aroused first I totally enjoy every second of it, especially very hard and deep.

    About a month ago after a session where that night my husband was extra hard and thick, the next morning I noticed bright red blood on the toilet paper after a bowel movement. Not alot, just a trace. Obviously I now must have a tiny tear or cut in my rear. So we stopped having anal sex hoping it would just heal quickly. Now I will go 3-4 days without bleeding, getting my hopes up, then have a bowel movement and see the blood again.

    Why is this taking so long to heal? It's barely a trace of blood, but it keeps coming back every 3-4 days. This is hard on us. We both enjoy this new pleasure so much and on so many levels. It's getting depressing. We've even stopped having vaginal sex in the doggy position. It's too hard on him visually seeing my anus relaxing and opening and not being able to enter. And when I'm on my hands and knees now, my mind immediately goes to having anal, that's what I really want now in that position.

    I know I should go to the doctor, but the last time I tried talking to her at a checkup just to tell her I was having anal sex now, just keeping her informed, I got read the riot act about the practice and a stern warning not to use my bottom for that. I mean like, come on lady, people do this and enjoy it.

    Is there any way to speed up healing what has to be just a tiny little tear or cut in my rectum? I've tried sitting in hot baths which seems to stop it for a day or two, but then having a couple bowel movements seems to open it up again. Are there any medicated enemas that might speed up the healing process? This may sound dumb, but would his semen help heal it? Vaginas heal themselves with natural secretions, just wondering. Please help us, this is the most fun we've had in bed in 30 years and we're totally frustrated and anxious to get back to our back door fun!

    Mrs. Wondering
    Torcal responded:
    Ask for a colonoscopy and find out what's inside. It could be one or more bleeding Hemorrhoids. There are also a lot of little capillaries in the lower colon that are ruptured during anal sex particularly if your husband is big. Or it might be a pre-cancerous polyp. In any event, your body is telling you that something is wrong. Stop doing it until you find out for sure.

    You need to be checked out by a Gastroenterologist (an intestinal specialist). They undoubtedly deal with this stuff all the time.
    wonderingaboutthis replied to Torcal's response:
    Well, I called my family doctor's office to ask for a colonoscopy referral, told them I was bleeding slightly/occasionally. My doctor called me back and said he needs to see me first - next available appointment is in February, then it takes 4-6 more weeks to get in for the colonoscopy. Told me the trace spotting is not considered emergent so I have to wait like everyone else. Tried a different route, my gynecologist, who said "what do you expect, having anal sex! Stop doing that, and you'll stop bleeding"....gotta love medical people...

    I'm going ahead with the snail's pace colonsocopy, because I should have one anyway. I appreciate your advice, but maybe I'm misinformed. Don't polyps grow in your colon, not your rectum? Because I'm not having sex in my colon
    my husband isn't THAT long, According to the reading I did on anal sex, I'm having sex in my rectum. Which is why I'm almost sure it's simply just a little tear or maybe like you say a ruptured capillary. No hemorrhoids, never had any externally and neither of us can feel any with a finger inside as far as we can reach.

    Meantime, waiting for the medical people, does anyone know of anything pro-active to do do heal this up quickly? I'm doing the obvious, abstaining from anal sex, the goal is to not have to do that anymore. Just to be clear, I am not hemorrhaging or even bleeding enough to see it in my underwear. It's the tiniest trace amount and only once every 3-4 days. I actually told my husband I'm ready to try sex again, but he's hesitant until this stops completely.

    Mrs. Wondering
    BalconyBelle replied to wonderingaboutthis's response:
    You might consider stool softeners, drinking more fruit juice (a little prune juice if you can stomach it) and just relaxing during bowel-movements, not pushing in any way, and letting gravity do the work.

    One of my sisters had an issue where she'd start spotting with BM's, she took the above steps, and it worked.

    I'd still recommend following through with your appointment just to rule out anything more serious even if this seems to clear up the problem.
    wonderingaboutthis replied to BalconyBelle's response:
    Thanks, I hadn't thought about stool softeners. Not to be indelicate, but I could use them anyway. And now that you mention it, I am a "pusher" on the potty. You may have hit on something too. I also "push" during the blended orgasms I get from anal sex. Anal really presses hard on my G-spot at a perfect angle and the orgasm is intensified tremendously by pushing. This also makes me literally gush fluid which is intensely gratifying and feeds the urge to push even harder. I haven't bled in a couple of days and I was seriously considering asking my hub for anal tonight, but thinking the orgasm through sounds like I better wait (sigh) until I'm sure it's healed completely or I could make it worse.
    Jumper2011 replied to wonderingaboutthis's response:
    Your husband is a lucky, lucky, luck man
    wonderingaboutthis replied to Jumper2011's response:
    Oh I am, Jumper, I am...and I know it. An absolute lady outside the bedroom, intelligent and soft-spoken, so much class she makes me feel like I'm way out of my league....then the bedroom doors close...and all that goes out the window and the tiger comes out. So glad I found her....Thanks, and she wanted me to tell you thank you too....

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