We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?
ferrebeebetler_an posted:
Hi, I'm Amber. I am 18. Turning 19 in March. My husband is 26. I know that it is not because I'm unattractive, but I do not know why he will not have sex with me. I am so sexually frustrated it is killing me! I'm very pretty, tall, thin, blonde, big brown eyes. I've been told I have an amazing body. So why the hell will he not have sex with me? I've talked to him, and still nothing. he says he'll work on it. I just want to get laid, for real. lol. I mean he gets hard all the time, just no sex. I can stand butt naked and still nothing. Someone please help me out.
12 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?Hi, I'm Amber. I am 18. Turning 19 in March. My husband is 26. I know that it is not because I'm unattractive, but I do not know why he will not have sex with me. I am so sexually frustrated it is killing me! I'm very pretty, tall, thin, blonde, big brown eyes. I've been told I have an amazing body. So why the hell will he not have sex with me? I've talked to him, and still nothing. he says he'll work on it. I just want to get laid, for real. lol. I mean he gets hard all the time, just no sex. I can stand butt naked and still nothing. Someone please help me out.
ferrebeebetler_an responded:
Addition: We use to have sex ALLLL the time when we were dating, then as soon as we got married, it stopped.
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Anon_125014 replied to ferrebeebetler_an's response:
Has anything else happened since you got married? Has he lost his job, been working a lot of overtime, perhaps been threatened with lay-offs? Has he started taking antidepressants, or other medications? Has he been sick? If he watched porn before you were married, is he watching even more now?
On the other hand--You were extremely young when you got married, even younger when you began your intimate relationship...is it perhaps possible that part of the thrill for him was the perception of getting away with something...whereas now that everything's legal the thrill is gone?
On the other hand--You were extremely young when you got married, even younger when you began your intimate relationship...is it perhaps possible that part of the thrill for him was the perception of getting away with something...whereas now that everything's legal the thrill is gone?
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?Has anything else happened since you got married? Has he lost his job, been working a lot of overtime, perhaps been threatened with lay-offs? Has he started taking antidepressants, or other medications? Has he been sick? If he watched porn before you were married, is he watching even more now?<br /><br />On the other hand--You were extremely young when you got married, even younger when you began your intimate relationship...is it perhaps possible that part of the thrill for him was the perception of getting away with something...whereas now that everything's legal the thrill is gone?
georgiagail replied to Anon_125014's response:
How is the relationship outside the bedroom?
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ferrebeebetler_an replied to Anon_125014's response:
No he hasn't lost his job, he's had the same job, same hours for the past 5 years. He doesn't take any medicine, hasn't been sick, and does not watch porn. I don't think he had a thrill at all about the whole age difference. My parents were also very supportive of the whole relationship and marriage.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?No he hasn't lost his job, he's had the same job, same hours for the past 5 years. He doesn't take any medicine, hasn't been sick, and does not watch porn. I don't think he had a thrill at all about the whole age difference. My parents were also very supportive of the whole relationship and marriage.
ferrebeebetler_an replied to georgiagail's response:
We get along perfectly fine outside the bedroom. I mean, he's like my best friend, I can tell him anything. We joke around, play fight, tickle fights, ect. We never fought until this year, when I started college, and I mean that's expected and we don't fight anymore.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?We get along perfectly fine outside the bedroom. I mean, he's like my best friend, I can tell him anything. We joke around, play fight, tickle fights, ect. We never fought until this year, when I started college, and I mean that's expected and we don't fight anymore.
Anon_10336 replied to ferrebeebetler_an's response:
Maybe he is gay and tried to fight it but he can't hide it anymore. If that is your picture you are clearly attractive so i can't imagine why he wouldn't want to be with you. I am not trying to be mean or anything. I am just offering a guess. Hope it helps.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?Maybe he is gay and tried to fight it but he can't hide it anymore. If that is your picture you are clearly attractive so i can't imagine why he wouldn't want to be with you. I am not trying to be mean or anything. I am just offering a guess. Hope it helps.
ferrebeebetler_an replied to Anon_10336's response:
I'm not sure he's gay or not, but yes that is my picture.
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FCL replied to ferrebeebetler_an's response:
I can only think of three reasons other than those that have been already covered:
1: He is absolutely terrified that you will get pregnant.
2: He may be exhausted with working, being married (how high maintenance are you) and trying to plese family at the same time.
3: He's cheating and getting sex with someone else.
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1: He is absolutely terrified that you will get pregnant.
2: He may be exhausted with working, being married (how high maintenance are you) and trying to plese family at the same time.
3: He's cheating and getting sex with someone else.
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There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?I can only think of three reasons other than those that have been already covered:<br /> <br />1: He is absolutely terrified that you will get pregnant.<br /> <br />2: He may be exhausted with working, being married (how high maintenance are you) and trying to plese family at the same time.<br /> <br />3: He's cheating and getting sex with someone else.<br /> <br />.
ferrebeebetler_an replied to FCL's response:
Thanks for responding,
I'm pretty sure I'm the one thats terrified to get pregnant, like obsessive. he acctually wants kids lol.
he might be exhausted, but im not high maintenance at all, all i do is go to school, which i walk to, and then come home. thats it. well thats pretty much the only things he allows me to do.
and i don't think he has the time of the day to actually cheat on me, or the balls.
i really don't know what to do.
I'm pretty sure I'm the one thats terrified to get pregnant, like obsessive. he acctually wants kids lol.
he might be exhausted, but im not high maintenance at all, all i do is go to school, which i walk to, and then come home. thats it. well thats pretty much the only things he allows me to do.
and i don't think he has the time of the day to actually cheat on me, or the balls.
i really don't know what to do.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?Thanks for responding,<br /><br />I'm pretty sure I'm the one thats terrified to get pregnant, like obsessive. he acctually wants kids lol.<br />he might be exhausted, but im not high maintenance at all, all i do is go to school, which i walk to, and then come home. thats it. well thats pretty much the only things he allows me to do.<br />and i don't think he has the time of the day to actually cheat on me, or the balls. <br />i really don't know what to do.
FCL replied to ferrebeebetler_an's response:
I've read over youir posts again and something else comes to mind. Please don't get this wrong, it's not a reflection on either of you, just a question. Is it possible that he married his best friend believing that he was in love with her and that now he realizes what he's done? It's kind of hard to get sexual with a best friend ... Like I said, it's just a thought.
Have you considered suggesting counselling? The truth might well come out like that. I just get the impression that there's something he's holding back, not telling you.
Good luck.
Have you considered suggesting counselling? The truth might well come out like that. I just get the impression that there's something he's holding back, not telling you.
Good luck.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?I've read over youir posts again and something else comes to mind. Please don't get this wrong, it's not a reflection on either of you, just a question. Is it possible that he married his best friend believing that he was in love with her and that now he realizes what he's done? It's kind of hard to get sexual with a best friend ... Like I said, it's just a thought.<br /> <br />Have you considered suggesting counselling? The truth might well come out like that. I just get the impression that there's something he's holding back, not telling you.<br /> <br />Good luck.
ferrebeebetler_an replied to FCL's response:
Thanks for responding again. I would believe that, but we were never best friends. We were sexual from day one, and always was sexual.
I guess I could tell a little more information. We started dating August '09, he lived two hours away, so we only seen each other on the weekends, and we'd have sex all the time when we were together. We got engaged December '09, and then married June '10. He's really protected and jealous. He practically will not let me out of the house, unless I'm going to classes. He doesn't trust me at all. But we haven't fought in forever, and we get along perfectly fine, just little to no sex. He's even gone to the extent of putting a filter on our internet to see everything that I type and checks my cell phone constantly, even followed me to school.
He doesn't like people very much or hanging out, only with his friends. He's really into computers and networking, ect. He's a convicted felon, for marijuana distribution. But that was before we were together.... im not sure what else to tell.
So, im not sure if any of that helps. We haven't been to counselling, i've considered it. I deff think he's holding something back, but I'm not sure what.
I guess I could tell a little more information. We started dating August '09, he lived two hours away, so we only seen each other on the weekends, and we'd have sex all the time when we were together. We got engaged December '09, and then married June '10. He's really protected and jealous. He practically will not let me out of the house, unless I'm going to classes. He doesn't trust me at all. But we haven't fought in forever, and we get along perfectly fine, just little to no sex. He's even gone to the extent of putting a filter on our internet to see everything that I type and checks my cell phone constantly, even followed me to school.
He doesn't like people very much or hanging out, only with his friends. He's really into computers and networking, ect. He's a convicted felon, for marijuana distribution. But that was before we were together.... im not sure what else to tell.
So, im not sure if any of that helps. We haven't been to counselling, i've considered it. I deff think he's holding something back, but I'm not sure what.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?Thanks for responding again. I would believe that, but we were never best friends. We were sexual from day one, and always was sexual. <br /><br />I guess I could tell a little more information. We started dating August '09, he lived two hours away, so we only seen each other on the weekends, and we'd have sex all the time when we were together. We got engaged December '09, and then married June '10. He's really protected and jealous. He practically will not let me out of the house, unless I'm going to classes. He doesn't trust me at all. But we haven't fought in forever, and we get along perfectly fine, just little to no sex. He's even gone to the extent of putting a filter on our internet to see everything that I type and checks my cell phone constantly, even followed me to school. <br /><br />He doesn't like people very much or hanging out, only with his friends. He's really into computers and networking, ect. He's a convicted felon, for marijuana distribution. But that was before we were together.... im not sure what else to tell.<br /><br />So, im not sure if any of that helps. We haven't been to counselling, i've considered it. I deff think he's holding something back, but I'm not sure what.
mfullmike replied to ferrebeebetler_an's response:
I think you both need counseling, quick. The alarming part to me is the protectionism and jealousy. By not trusting you to leave the house, he is showing he is not confident in himself and that may be reflected in his sexuality. You are still a newlywed and very, very young, so it may not bother you much right now. In time you will most definitely come to resent his lack of trust and intrusive snooping. That can quickly kill a relationship and most healthy people would never put up with that. A man should love and trust his woman. He does not own you. For the record, I am a man and married 34 years. I have been mistrusted even though I have never cheated and it damages the relationship. Get counseling now and good luck.
Report This| Share this:We've been married almost 2 years, and my husband will not have sex with me?I think you both need counseling, quick. The alarming part to me is the protectionism and jealousy. By not trusting you to leave the house, he is showing he is not confident in himself and that may be reflected in his sexuality. You are still a newlywed and very, very young, so it may not bother you much right now. In time you will most definitely come to resent his lack of trust and intrusive snooping. That can quickly kill a relationship and most healthy people would never put up with that. A man should love and trust his woman. He does not own you. For the record, I am a man and married 34 years. I have been mistrusted even though I have never cheated and it damages the relationship. Get counseling now and good luck.
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