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Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH posted:
Hollywood movies, television and magazines often highlight sex among young people in their 20s and 30s, as if those were the only people having sex! Although young adults may have more frequent sex than older adults, it doesn't mean that "young" sex is any more or less satisfying. It does, however, come with its own unique challenges and joys.

In "Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty" by Joan Price, men and women are invited to learn about the sexual experiences of older adults. Though largely focused on the female experience, both sexes can learn from the expert advice and the anecdotes. It also includes information related to menopause, loss of a partner, loss of libido, the use of sex toys and more.
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j5dc2 responded:
As we all know, Hollywood movies are far from reality. My wife of almost 16 years and I are not old, we are in our mid 40s, but we have noticed that sex has gotten better over the years for us. If this is a sign of what's to come with age, we are excited about it and looking forward to it. We have GREAT sex almost every day and we desire each other all the time. I look at her all the time and think, OMG, how blessed I am to have this women as my wife, I love her, I like her, I desire her, and I am crazy about her. We have 3 kids and I thank God that I picked the best women to be their mother because she is that too to them. The comparison to wine become true in our lives, the older we get the beter!

Having said the above, I think elderly people do have an active and fulfilling sex life.
 
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An_210676 replied to j5dc2's response:
Guess I am "elderly" in this discussion. My partner of over 5 years thought she was "done with sex" ten years before I met her. It has been a wonderful and fulfilling relationship and she has not refound sex and climaxing but she has had many more in the last five years than she had in the previous 59. Guess I must be doing something right but I have had 68 years to learn, enjoy and make sure my lady enjoys. Most important is to make sure she enjoys.

 
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An_210677 responded:
The biggest thing is arterial health. Don't wait for heart disease to mess things up. E.D. is part of the arterial problems. Have your low fat, high anti-oxidant diet to keep blood vessels healthy and open. The sooner one starts, the healthier all the blood vessels will be, including the ones that make a man's little soldier stand at attention.

Berries, plums, pomegranates, pistachios all help keep arteries open and the blood flowing. And exercise regularly to keep the heart strong. I'm 57, and have not slowed down in the bedroom yet.
 
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killowat responded:
I am 73 yrs old and am having the beast sex of my life!! My bf is 64 and he is a wonderful lover, we experiment with all manners of things and just generally have fun with our sex life, we have one night a week set aside just for sex, and sometimes we have sex 3 times in that one night, we watch porn tapes sometimes, we have oral sex, anal sex and you name it, we have vibrators to play with and we have no inhibitions and ask for what we want, and get it, I love waking him to having oral sex, and he loves it, we like to have enough light on so that we can see each other, and he loves deep throat, and he gets it whenever he wants, I do ejaculate at times, and when I don't still have intense orgasms, in my opinion people fret about it too much instead of just having fun, relaxing and letting it happen, and age has nothing to do with love
 
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60something responded:
Sex is better now than in our 20's. We didn't know enough in those days. Nowadays my wife gives me great oral. If she is too tired for sex anytime I need it, I just masturbate beside her and she usually ends up helping out. Never would have had the nerve earlier. I like to keep my hair shaved and trimmed. I'd like to get her to do the same.
 
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An_210678 replied to killowat's response:
Anal at 64 and 73!!!! great for you guys, i wish my wife would
let me.. how did you guys get started, who suggested it, she
would think i'm a freak if i asked.. would not mind a little touch there from her to me .. any way, let me know.. any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.. oral i never get
although i love to perform on her .. i agree don't worry about orgasm .. have ED sometimes.. SEX IS GOOD WE DO HAVE FUN.. ( for the most part ) what kind of vibrator ? do they really work? do you use on her or vise versa..
 
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daniat replied to killowat's response:
I have enjoy reading your comments,I have similar situation, at my 73 yrs find that age have nothing to do with love, At this age i tent to be more open to sex than when i was younger.
 
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dlsjrsexie replied to killowat's response:
thanks for the story on sex after60.my friend and i are in the 65 to 67 range and she think she is to old for sex.she said the interst in sex is gone but when i rub her body she wants to have sex.i think if we go to one of those sex store and buy some cds or sex toys it might help.i have known her for over 17 yrs and she is the best lover i have every had.
 
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dlsjrsexie replied to daniat's response:
am 65 and if i live to be73 i hope i have a lady that will think like you.the lady i see is 67 and she said she is know longer intersted in sex,but when i rub her back and sometime on he legs she want to have sex then.i wish we had more sex than we do.
 
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NYchameleon responded:
Frankly speaking, I thought that sexual life of those who are after 60 is very affected by erectile dysfunction and thus many stop sexual activity. I'm glad to read so many positive experience.. guess now I'm not afraid to live long
 
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An_210679 replied to NYchameleon's response:
Have ED more times than not, My fingers have found away to plesse my lady!!!! and i am working overtime in pleasing her ..sex is off the wall. I'm loving it and so is she.. one day will get a vibrator!!! 65 years young .. this exchange has helped me to come out of my shell, knowing clit stimulations is how most ladies achive the big O..< who knew)> thanks to all those folks that have been honest and sharing oh Yea, just need to know how to please her doing oral any suggestions
what do they like sucking licking
 
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crewcut3591 replied to 60something's response:
After many years of marriage, I finally got tired of secretly masturbating alone and asked my wife if I could masturbate beside her when she was too tired or not interested. She's not warmed up to that idea but she masturbates me now. There is no more secret jacking off and feeling guilty about it. Though one sided her masturbating me its extremely pleasurable. Sometimes I do the same for her. Sex is about communication and we are learning and doing better the older we get.
 
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fuzzyguy replied to crewcut3591's response:
I will be 70 this Friday and my wife of 45 years and I have a fantastic sex life. Last Sunday afternoon, we were having sex and I suggested that we take a break for champagne and chocolate, which we did for 15 or 20 minutes. When we went back to bed to finnish, it was wonderful. We have sex typically three times a week. My wife is not as adventuresome as I would like, but, oh well. She is not into anything except "conventional" sex. She will let me give her some oral attention now and then, but she does not want me to bring her to orgasim with my mouth.

Life is good....VERY GOOD!
 
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An_210680 replied to fuzzyguy's response:
Are you good at given oral, will she give you oral.. i am 68
i must say sex is wonderfull some ED sometime how about toys what do you think about a vibrator. you being young like me your advise i would appreciate how about shaving there.
I try not to worry when ED happens just work though it.. cialas does help.. any problem there with you.. average size wish i was a little longer and thicker..


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