Sex After Sixty
Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH posted:
Hollywood movies, television and magazines often highlight sex among young people in their 20s and 30s, as if those were the only people having sex! Although young adults may have more frequent sex than older adults, it doesn't mean that "young" sex is any more or less satisfying. It does, however, come with its own unique challenges and joys.
In "Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty" by Joan Price, men and women are invited to learn about the sexual experiences of older adults. Though largely focused on the female experience, both sexes can learn from the expert advice and the anecdotes. It also includes information related to menopause, loss of a partner, loss of libido, the use of sex toys and more.
In "Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty" by Joan Price, men and women are invited to learn about the sexual experiences of older adults. Though largely focused on the female experience, both sexes can learn from the expert advice and the anecdotes. It also includes information related to menopause, loss of a partner, loss of libido, the use of sex toys and more.
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37 Replies |Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyHollywood movies, television and magazines often highlight sex among young people in their 20s and 30s, as if those were the only people having sex! Although young adults may have more frequent sex than older adults, it doesn't mean that "young" sex is any more or less satisfying. It does, however, come with its own unique challenges and joys. <br /><br />In "Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty" by Joan Price, men and women are invited to learn about the sexual experiences of older adults. Though largely focused on the female experience, both sexes can learn from the expert advice and the anecdotes. It also includes information related to menopause, loss of a partner, loss of libido, the use of sex toys and more.
ilovepersiancats replied to An_210683's response:
Good answer! Thank you
aflower4angela replied to fuzzyguy's response:
Hello Fuzzyguy! I was online reading posts and came across this thread. I wanted to give you a quick bit of food for thought. I have never enjoyed giving oral or "head" to a man, however, once I met someone who trims his hair, it was a lot more appealing. I am not saying shave everything off by any means, however, if you use a scissors and tame the fuzzy patch a bit, then it carries less odor, most men smell like sweat and urine in this area naturally, and a nicely trimmed pubic area will not only smell better, it does make your penis look larger, and it can help increase skin on skin contact, allowing for more clitoral stimulation for her when you make love. Just a suggestion!
Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyHello Fuzzyguy! I was online reading posts and came across this thread. I wanted to give you a quick bit of food for thought. I have never enjoyed giving oral or "head" to a man, however, once I met someone who trims his hair, it was a lot more appealing. I am not saying shave everything off by any means, however, if you use a scissors and tame the fuzzy patch a bit, then it carries less odor, most men smell like sweat and urine in this area naturally, and a nicely trimmed pubic area will not only smell better, it does make your penis look larger, and it can help increase skin on skin contact, allowing for more clitoral stimulation for her when you make love. Just a suggestion!
smathews55 responded:
I'm 59 and my partner is 62 we have been togerther for 11 years. Our sex life was great for about 8 years ago, two or three time a day, now we have sex maybe once a week. right now it has been 3 weeks. In 2009 I became very ill with ASTHMA, COPE, HTN, DIABETES, and server artitis in my right leg and in my back, also I have gain a lot of weight. Do you think this is why we don't have sex now? I don't think he is cheating. What do you think?
Best regards,
Sharon
Best regards,
Sharon
Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyI'm 59 and my partner is 62 we have been togerther for 11 years. Our sex life was great for about 8 years ago, two or three time a day, now we have sex maybe once a week. right now it has been 3 weeks. In 2009 I became very ill with ASTHMA, COPE, HTN, DIABETES, and server artitis in my right leg and in my back, also I have gain a lot of weight. Do you think this is why we don't have sex now? I don't think he is cheating. What do you think?<br /> <br />Best regards,<br />Sharon
Rhondamay replied to smathews55's response:
First I want to tell you that there is no way someone on this online community can determine if your guy is cheating or why he is backing off on the lovemaking.
You need to ask him why things have cooled down. Communication is the most important component of a relationship. Your illness may be a factor but it may be out of concern for you on his part. Health concerns for love ones are stressful and stress is damaging to sex drive of both males and females.
Ask him in a non-contentious way if there is something you can do to re-ignite the passion.
Maybe he is having concerns about his own health.
Talk it out. You may find he is relieved to talk about it. Starting these conversations is often difficult but so important to do.
Good luck and best wishes!
You need to ask him why things have cooled down. Communication is the most important component of a relationship. Your illness may be a factor but it may be out of concern for you on his part. Health concerns for love ones are stressful and stress is damaging to sex drive of both males and females.
Ask him in a non-contentious way if there is something you can do to re-ignite the passion.
Maybe he is having concerns about his own health.
Talk it out. You may find he is relieved to talk about it. Starting these conversations is often difficult but so important to do.
Good luck and best wishes!
Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyFirst I want to tell you that there is no way someone on this online community can determine if your guy is cheating or why he is backing off on the lovemaking.<br /> <br />You need to ask him why things have cooled down. Communication is the most important component of a relationship. Your illness may be a factor but it may be out of concern for you on his part. Health concerns for love ones are stressful and stress is damaging to sex drive of both males and females.<br /> <br />Ask him in a non-contentious way if there is something you can do to re-ignite the passion. <br /> <br />Maybe he is having concerns about his own health.<br /> <br />Talk it out. You may find he is relieved to talk about it. Starting these conversations is often difficult but so important to do.<br /> <br />Good luck and best wishes!
_Sailor_ replied to smathews55's response:
I agree completely with Ronda, communicate.
If that doesn't work, and you still think he is cheating, check his phone calls (cell and home), check his credit card statements (or bank statements for cash withdrawals as an affair costs money), and check the mileage on the car. If these are out of wack, do more investigating, if not, don't worry about it.
At 62, ED (Erectile Dysfunction) can hit quite suddenly and that is embarrassing to a man's ego, especially for your generation. At your age weight gain shouldn't be an issue (unless you have become morbidly obese) as other parts were probably starting to wrinkle and sag as well, if anything the weight gain means bigger play toys for your man to play with and tightening of the skin to hide wrinkles.
P.S. I Never really liked the rail thin women with boobies only slightly larger than mine, anyways.
If that doesn't work, and you still think he is cheating, check his phone calls (cell and home), check his credit card statements (or bank statements for cash withdrawals as an affair costs money), and check the mileage on the car. If these are out of wack, do more investigating, if not, don't worry about it.
At 62, ED (Erectile Dysfunction) can hit quite suddenly and that is embarrassing to a man's ego, especially for your generation. At your age weight gain shouldn't be an issue (unless you have become morbidly obese) as other parts were probably starting to wrinkle and sag as well, if anything the weight gain means bigger play toys for your man to play with and tightening of the skin to hide wrinkles.
P.S. I Never really liked the rail thin women with boobies only slightly larger than mine, anyways.
Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyI agree completely with Ronda, communicate.<br /><br />If that doesn't work, and you still think he is cheating, check his phone calls (cell and home), check his credit card statements (or bank statements for cash withdrawals as an affair costs money), and check the mileage on the car. If these are out of wack, do more investigating, if not, don't worry about it.<br /><br />At 62, ED (Erectile Dysfunction) can hit quite suddenly and that is embarrassing to a man's ego, especially for your generation. At your age weight gain shouldn't be an issue (unless you have become morbidly obese) as other parts were probably starting to wrinkle and sag as well, if anything the weight gain means bigger play toys for your man to play with and tightening of the skin to hide wrinkles. <br /><br />P.S. I Never really liked the rail thin women with boobies only slightly larger than mine, anyways.
hogans replied to crewcut3591's response:
jack-off a lot because my wife can not have sex it hurts her she says so now when are in bed i sleep naked and so she gets up next to me and put her hand my body and start to play with my cock and then she jacks me off man i do love that
Report This| Share this:Sex After Sixty<i>jack-off a lot because my wife can not have sex it hurts her she says so now when are in bed i sleep naked and so she gets up next to me and put her hand my body and start to play with my cock and then she jacks me off man i do love that</i>
you are absolutely right, in our case we were both widowed and when we first got married it seemed to be the standard old way of having sex. But, we didn't want to get into a rut as had hhappened in our prior marriages and were open to discuss it. CCommunication is so important since we aren't mind readers. I had enjoyed watching "adult" movies and wasn't quite sure how to approach the subject but after seeing an ad in the AARP magazine for the Better Sex videos from Sinclair we decided to give them a try. Well 4 years later and probably 15 videos we keep adding new spice to our sex life. Watching her masturbate or her watching me just adds to our mutual excitement. We use vibrators, plenty of lubes (the sheets wash oout easily) oral, anal are all a part of our enjoyment. Just go for it, lay back and enjoy your spouse and don't let age be a concern.
Report This| Share this:Sex After Sixtyyou are absolutely right, in our case we were both widowed and when we first got married it seemed to be the standard old way of having sex. But, we didn't want to get into a rut as had hhappened in our prior marriages and were open to discuss it. CCommunication is so important since we aren't mind readers. I had enjoyed watching "adult" movies and wasn't quite sure how to approach the subject but after seeing an ad in the AARP magazine for the Better Sex videos from Sinclair we decided to give them a try. Well 4 years later and probably 15 videos we keep adding new spice to our sex life. Watching her masturbate or her watching me just adds to our mutual excitement. We use vibrators, plenty of lubes (the sheets wash oout easily) oral, anal are all a part of our enjoyment. Just go for it, lay back and enjoy your spouse and don't let age be a concern.
jimmmym replied to crewcut3591's response:
kudos to you for asking. My wife will masturbate me when I ask and if I guide her hand to herself picks up the hint and will pleasure herself while I watch. One time we stayed at a friends oovernight and they had a full length mirror in the guest bedroom. After some cuddling and fondling we both removed our night clothes and watched each other in the mirror. The orgasms were great.
its all a matter of communicating and makes our marriage that much more enjoyable.
its all a matter of communicating and makes our marriage that much more enjoyable.
Report This| Share this:Sex After Sixtykudos to you for asking. My wife will masturbate me when I ask and if I guide her hand to herself picks up the hint and will pleasure herself while I watch. One time we stayed at a friends oovernight and they had a full length mirror in the guest bedroom. After some cuddling and fondling we both removed our night clothes and watched each other in the mirror. The orgasms were great.<br />its all a matter of communicating and makes our marriage that much more enjoyable.
HappyGrace2095 replied to jimmmym's response:
Hello. Sorry if I am intruding, But I am in a relationship with an extremely fat man. He is 7 yrs younger than me We can't have regular sex. So far it is just a little oral sex. Your mentioning watching each other masterbate sounds like something we could do. Hmm. That has possiblitites. His kisses are so wonderful and passionate, I know there is more there. I will think about that.
Report This| Share this:Sex After SixtyHello. Sorry if I am intruding, But I am in a relationship with an extremely fat man. He is 7 yrs younger than me We can't have regular sex. So far it is just a little oral sex. Your mentioning watching each other masterbate sounds like something we could do. Hmm. That has possiblitites. His kisses are so wonderful and passionate, I know there is more there. I will think about that.
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