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    Thinking about cheating...
    ToohotinAZ posted:
    I have been where you are....I was unhappy in my marriage and although I ended my marriage then ventured out (no regrets). I would recommend you examine your marriage and make a decision. The reason you are even contemplating cheating is because you are missing something from your marriage There is really no such thing as harmless cheating. Once you cross that border, everything changes. Your mind will be pre-occupied with your lover and things will never be the same. You should really consider your spouse and whether your marriage could survive such a breech of trust. If you don't love him anymore, then move on. But if you still love your spouse and are just looking for a little excitement...buyer beware. Once you cheat you cannot go back. Trust is broken, emotional turmoil will follow, someone will get hurt (usually the unsuspecting spouse). Please try and figure out what is lacking in your own marriage and try and fix it. Date nights can do wonders for a marriage. You may have to be the initiator to get the fire restarted but its worth it. Do you really want to lose what you have in your marriage over a cheap, meaningless fling? If the answer is yes...then I would recommend you examine your committment to marriage and if you are not in love anymore to your spouse then leave your marriage and be single. I was scared to be alone so I stayed in a unhappy marriage for 14 years. But once the desire to be happy in love was stronger than my need to not be alone I took the leap of faith and went for it. I met the man of my dreams and have been happily married now for 6 years. We celebrated our anniversary yesterday. Good luck to you, just remember there is no turning back...things will change forever once you cheat.
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    frusteratedconfusion responded:
    no i do not want to cheat i ahve just contiplated it it would devstate my husband i love him dearly and after years of heart ache in my relation ship with myu sons father i met my husbnad, i love him dearly it is just the sex i quess i can over look it and move on i just wanted to know if it was me or if it happend to other people. tyhanks you for your advice i do not want an affair and kick my butt for even thinking it, so your advice brought mke back to reality, hmm question still reamins in tact though why does he reach orgasim so quick and not worry if i do or not or "pretend" to as he does..
    Aleigh1978 replied to frusteratedconfusion's response:
    Boy oh boy girly I feel for you but don't cheat as Toohot said I know you just said you only contiplated it but end it if your unhappy!I can agree at times I feel the same due to a lack of sex life but hey sometimes you just grin and bear it I guess!especially if kids are involved!take care :)
    lola6666 replied to frusteratedconfusion's response:
    you should move on dont you have better things to worry about sex is not everything just be happy you have someone to spend your time with because there will come a day when he is gone and you alone
    An_210673 responded:

    "But once the desire to be happy in love was stronger than my need to not be alone I took the leap of faith and went for it."

    Did that desire come before you met someone special, or you got tired of being alone in marriage ?

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