Seems to be massive unmet expectations on this and the SA boad of late.
So I thought I would ask.
When you come to WebMD and post here what are the expectations?
For me, when I come to post, I consider this an online cyber diary. Just a place to dump my words and see my pain recorded.....and occassionally that diary talks back.
For me when I come here to respond to posts, its opening my heart and reaching for other humans who know a similar pain. Try as they might the abusers wer not able to kill my heart and its capacity for comprassion. My replies are not to explote or hurt others, but come from a deep part of me who genuinely wants to help.
Its been a confusing ride at times. I was once accused of ignoring people. So I responded to every post (weither I knew what to say or not). Then I got accused of trying to take over the board!
I have settled on somewhere between the two. I post when I need to use the board to refocus or I have something to say that might be of help to others.
I only respond when my heart read words that sqeeze it and it is moved to do so. (Basically if you trigger DOGDANCING with in me you hear from me)
cat, i like you use webmd when i need to get stuff off my chest. my expectations are low. when i post i dont expect any replies because i dont expect everyone to understand where i am coming from. this should be a safe place where you can share your thoughts and feelings without reprocutions. i do not know you very well but you are fine. i dont always reply to posts because i am not in the right frame of mind. dont leave......
When I post I am usually at the breaking point. I don't expect responses - I pray for responses. I crave being taken care of, whether it is online or here with Albert. I have years of unmet needs. I know it's not fair to the people in this community but for right now, that's the way it is with me.
In the future, I hope I will be able to post more words of wisdom. (from me? LOL) I seem able to reply to other posts only when I am calm and collected. That said, most posts are simply too overwhelming for me, so I don't even try to reply. There was a time of growth and less depression that I responded to everyone but then I also got accused of trying to take over the board.
I came here in 2003, a wounded, self-centered person. Reaching back to review the past five months, I can't see the progress from 2003, but I know it's there. The major incident of memory validation on April 28 of this year was a huge setback for me.
I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.
came looking for answers. i stayed to help the people who have become my friends. people come and go on the boards and i welcome any new person and try my best to help. we've all been to the same place, and what helps the most is knowing that we are not alone.
come here to get word of wisdom from people that have survived things that none of us deserved, i don't give much here because of my lack of feeling and just to afraid to let go. i am thankful for this board it keeps me human.
I occasionally would like responses, but the truth is, sometimes no one responds. I take it to mean that the words to say anything -- let alone anything meaningful -- just are not there. Sometimes I take posts from here and send them to my therapist and/or case manager. Then they do get discussed.
I don't expect sympathy... but as horrifying as it is, I do find it somewhat comforting to know that others have been where I have. Not necessarily identical circumstances, but the effects on ourselves were the same.
Sometimes I just have a flower to offer or a cup of spiced apple cider or a funny story or something to distract ourselves with. It's just nice to "be" here.
I found this board while exploring WebMD site. I've only recently been back to the board since late March of this year but was here previously about 3 to 4 years ago.
My expectations are really simple when it comes to the board like many it's a place to vent, share, ask questions, and gain companionship with others that share a common experience. I reply when I have something to say and not before because I learned from experience that sharing when you really don't understand a point of view can have devastating results . I offer a word of support and encouragement when I can and had the same done for me.
We all experience the journey of healing differently and are not all in the same place on the journey either. We take many paths to walk the road to healing some come early to the path and others come later to the path. We share our joys, our pain, our hope, our dreams, and our belief that we can be healed from the scars of sexual abuse no matter our age.
Hello I haven't been very active in my post dealing with some other issues(surgery in Oct.)so its been busy going to Dr and getting myself ready.But I do want to say this when I found this website on WebMd I had a hard time posting (when they had trouble with posting)but now its all fix.What I expect from this site is to connect with other survivors and express how we feel about what we might be going thru at the moment.I have my counselor that specialist in Sexual Abuse and the hotline if I get in a crisis I use them.But I really feel that I want to let survivors of any kind of abuse that as a group of people here we can help each other in small talk or giving words of advice, support anything.I appreciate to those that respond all the time and watch the Post that dont get reply.I hope we can remember what is important in this site to help and support not critize or be negative. Healing~
The short take: After 45 years of hell, I was on the verge of giving in and giving up life. Alone and no longer wanting to exist, my "T" mentioned these boards to me as a place where I may be able to reach out to others, safely. It was difficult, but overtime, In doing so, I connected with a wonderful, loving group of people here. They gave me hope, strength, faith, love, compassion and a reason to continue to fight to live. I was no longer alone. There were others here struggling, suffering, that understood. I began to care about each and everyone here and more so, even about myself. I came here with no expectations and have been deeply blessed ever since.
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