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I have recently discovered that I have tested positive for HPV-2 and I have a lot of questions and I hope that the expert has the time and patience to address them all.
First, I am as certain as I can be about the results because we did the blood test that you pay for that tells you exactly which one you have. I am negative for HPV 1, but have antibodies for HPV-2. I have no symptoms. I have never had an ob. No tingling. No pain. No lesions. Nothing out of the ordinary of my regular experiences.
One of my biggest challenges is trying to determine how this happened. My biggest sexual concern has been getting pregnant, not STDs. I get the battery of tests every year when I have a physical and have been fine all the way through. I have always used condoms with my partners, even long term partners. Only with long term partners is there an occasional moment of indulgence, but its minimal and condoms are put on straight away. Nothing that I have done has ever caused me concern. There was only one partner where we didn't use condoms — because he has already been snipped, so my biggest worry was alleviated and he is a much older man and his sexual partner count is extremely low. He was a long term partner and we did not have any challenges health wise to our knowledge. Again. No concerns.
It was february of this year. I had just finished getting a battery of tests done, as per usual. A friend of mine who I have known for more than a decade, came over to my house. Prior to we shared a kiss. He came over to my house. We made out and kissed a lot. He did share a lot of heavy things with me that evening. Among them, he did tell me he had herpes. I was very confused at the time and didn't know enough about it, but trusted that after ten years, he wouldn't put me in harms way. He gave me oral sex and I gave him a hand job with lube. That's it. Most of what I read says you kind of have to earn your herpes through unprotected sex, but we didn't have sexual intercourse. He has HPV-2 not HPV-1 and has not had an outbreak in three years. He does not take suppressive medication.
I am a worry wort, so I went to see a doctor after 72 hours after my encounter and he gave me a prescription for valtrex. He encouraged me to come back if I had lesions or blisters and I decided I would go for testing in 3 months to see if there were antibodies present. 3 months later — I do have antibodies present. I am just not sure how long they have been there.
1) In your opinion, is it more likely that at some point in my history I have been unknowingly been exposed to it and I have actually had it for a long time or do you think this incident with my friend has been the game changer?
2) Now that I am positive, do you recommend that I take suppressive medication daily for symptoms I don't have?
3) What is the likelihood that I will remain ob free because I have never had one?
4) Am I just as likely to transmit this to a partner as someone who actually had outbreaks? How much of a threat am I?
5) I only cum through oral sex am I doomed here?
6) With reflection, the only thing I can think of as a possible symptom is vaginal itching. I know. Super common. Could be anything. I have noticed over the years that I do tend to get itchy just before my period and maybe a day or to after. Now, this itching is subtle that I actually do not scratch it. I just endure it. It is nowhere near the crazy itching associated with a vaginal yeast infection. Your thoughts on this would be appreciated.
To be honest, obviously my biggest concern, which I don't expect you to solve, is feeling like I have another major barrier between me and the potential of having a loving relationship with someone. It's been a long time for me, I have not been in one for ages now and am starting to think that maybe that's it for me. It's crushing. I am a loving person, very sexual and very attractive but very scared…before I had the test results. With the results I feel like I should just throw in the towel.
Thanks for your time and patience. I welcome any thoughts, follow up questions and encouragement.
Gail
Do you have your test results and if so could you post them on here. Example HSV 1 igg is .75 and HSV 2 is 2.60 or what ever it says.
If in fact you are positive for HSV 2 then you most likely got it from someone through sex from what you describe. It could have been the most recent encounter or it could have been the older gent. Do not think that becauce he is older he did not have HSV 2. He could have had it and did not know he had it just like you. . Regardless at this point there is really no way to figure out where you got it from. Did you have herpes testing just before the most recent guy? If so could you get a copy of the results from the test before this most recent test.
If you decide to have sex with someone it would help to take suppressive therapy as it will decreasae the risk to a partner by 50%. You may or may not get ob's. I went 10 years before I had an ob. Then again you may never get an Ob. Some people never get ob's but that I think is only about 20%. You can still transmit HsV 2 others. You can still have a love life even though you only orgasm through oral sex. The vaginal itching you talk about does not sound like a herpes ob. This sounds like normal iritation as this bothers you just before your perriod.
You can still have a fulfulling love life with someone who will love you for you and not what you have. You will need to tell each new partner that you have HSV 2 so they can decide if they want to be intimate with you. See my signature line for more details to educate yourself on genital herpes. If you have more questions just reply to your post.
Yes, it is HSV-2. My test was a igG blood test and it did not give me numbers. It says: Negative for antibody to HSV -1. No evidence of infection with HSV-1. Positive for antibody HSV-2. Evidence of infection with HSV-2.
So really all it tells me is that at some point in my sexual history, I was unknowingly exposed. The first shocker for me was understanding that we are not tested for everything when we do the battery of STD tests. How are you supposed to know what you don't know? I'm really disappointed because I am someone who takes good care of herself and opts to get testing for peace of mind and wants to keep everyone I love healthy. So I have no previous tests and now I wish I was not such a worry wort cause I could have lived an entire life not knowing because the hard part now is framing. I know that if I am not careful about the way I process this, I could turn it into this big thing that will stop me from moving forward and at the absolute worse, change the person I know myself to be.
I feel robbed from having the time to process the information from my friend. The more I read about how to tell someone, the more i realize he didn't really give me time to process. It was so overwhelming.
I'm just crushed spiritually right now and I want to believe you so badly about the fulfilling love life and relationship and future, but I was already struggling heavily to really believe and I was just ...I mean just starting to feel like I wanted to try again and finally get off the bench..., and with this, I just feel like I have no choice but to retreat again. I just can't imagine still having everything that I want. I just don't feel like myself anymore. I feel different from everyone else, not nearly as carefree and it kills me. It is hard for me to not share something this heavy with my friends and family.
As for next steps, I do plan to go to a support meeting in my city in a couple weeks time. This association's only purpose is focusing on HSV so I should be in good hands. I also hope to see my naturopathic doctor to see if there are more natural ways to suppress the symptoms.
What do you take? Have you found side effects? Have you been taking it for 10 years? With 10 years of no ob,were you constantly in fear that you had one? and was it a stressful moment that lead to the first one?
Spiritually this is something that God has allowed you to experience that will make you stronger in the long run. Go back and read any posts where someone is dealing with herpes and see that as they go on they learn to accept it and life does go on. Stop worrying and get on with life. You have not changed. You are still the same person you were before and expect that the right person will love you.
Do not stop now. Move on with your life and go out and look for someone who will love you. You deserve to be loved like anyone else. Remember that 1 in 5 women have HSV2 and 1 in 5 men have HSV 2 and the younger you are the higher the odds that someone has HSV 2. If you look at the High school/university crowd the rate is closer to 1 in 3 have HSV 2.
When it comes to telling a person about herpes it is not only what you have but what a new partner might have as well. So when you get the courage to tell someone make it light and airy and not a heavy thing. Get any new partner tested for all STI'S as well to see what they have. I think that Terri Warren's book would help you as well so the video she has on her website. the link to that can be found by clicking on my Tiger.
Going to the support group is a great thing as there you will find the support that I am telling you about here on WebMD.
There is no natural item that will control your herpes if you get an ob. The only thing that will help is a suppressive therapy. I have been taking Valacyclovir
which is the generic of Valtrex. I have noticed no real side effects.I had Doc who was not up on herpes and so he gave me an ointment which did little to help me for many many years. I finally found this site and learned of suppressive therapy and it has been almost 4 years since I started to take Valacyclovir and I had only two ob's in the first year and then none since then. I know I am blessed to not have any ob's after that. I do know that most people have some ob\so every year with HSV 2. I also increase my dosage when I feel an ob coming on God Bless you and ask any more questions that you have.
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