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Living with Gential Herpes
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Tractors8 posted:
I have been living with gential herpes for 6 years. It is a secret that I kept from everyone. I found out I had gential herpes about a year after I had my son. My now ex husband for other reasons, decided not to tell me until I found out from a doctor I had it. I feel like a prisoner, afraid to meet anyone for fear that if i get to close to them I will have to tell them. Fear of telling my family, I even fear that some how they may get it, i don't go out, I feel trapped, alone. How do you cope?
3 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Living with Gential HerpesI have been living with gential herpes for 6 years. It is a secret that I kept from everyone. I found out I had gential herpes about a year after I had my son. My now ex husband for other reasons, decided not to tell me until I found out from a doctor I had it. I feel like a prisoner, afraid to meet anyone for fear that if i get to close to them I will have to tell them. Fear of telling my family, I even fear that some how they may get it, i don't go out, I feel trapped, alone. How do you cope?
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An_246648 responded:
I just recently found out I have genital herpes. I've been reading a lot, trying to get as much information as possible. We have herpes, herpes doesn't/can't have us. You can't let it control you. You are still beautiful. You can still have a normal life. Although it may slow your sex life down at some points, its just like having a cold when you have a flare up. You don't really want to do anything when you have a cold, just like you don't really want to do anything when you have a flare up. Don't be afraid to meet someone new, you don't have to tell them right off the bat. When you do feel comfortable enough to tell them, if they overreact, they aren't worth your time anyways. You are still just as attractive as you were before, you still have the same qualities as you did before you found out. Stay positive, that's what I'm finding is best to do.
Report This| Share this:Living with Gential HerpesI just recently found out I have genital herpes. I've been reading a lot, trying to get as much information as possible. We have herpes, herpes doesn't/can't have us. You can't let it control you. You are still beautiful. You can still have a normal life. Although it may slow your sex life down at some points, its just like having a cold when you have a flare up. You don't really want to do anything when you have a cold, just like you don't really want to do anything when you have a flare up. Don't be afraid to meet someone new, you don't have to tell them right off the bat. When you do feel comfortable enough to tell them, if they overreact, they aren't worth your time anyways. You are still just as attractive as you were before, you still have the same qualities as you did before you found out. Stay positive, that's what I'm finding is best to do.
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abe648 responded:
I think you need some help to get over this as it has now been 6 years. Google on Yahoo "herpes support group" and hopefully there is a support group in your area. If not then you need to look around and seek counselling to help you get over this.

Life can go on even with herpes. You need to tell someone so that you can start to move on to the healing process. Go back pages and pages and read posts of people who over came there herpes problems. God Bless you
To learn more read the Herpes Handbook. Terri Warren's book The Good News about the Bad News. It is available now as am e-book. Click on The Tiger to get more details.
Report This| Share this:Living with Gential HerpesI think you need some help to get over this as it has now been 6 years. Google on Yahoo "herpes support group" and hopefully there is a support group in your area. If not then you need to look around and seek counselling to help you get over this. <br /> <br />Life can go on even with herpes. You need to tell someone so that you can start to move on to the healing process. Go back pages and pages and read posts of people who over came there herpes problems. God Bless you
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Elle0317 responded:
Don't let a pesky skin condition rule your life. You can be happy, you can love, and <gasp> even have great sex again. The only people you ever have to tell are the ones you have sex with, your family is in no way going to get this from you, it can only be transmitted during sex. There are sites out there for people in the same boat as you, but you can find someone on your own.

My husband has HSV I and II, he still found love after he contracted it, and he still has great sex, and he even married again. He told me he had this about 2 months after we started dating. I will admit I was freaked out at first, only because I knew nothing about it, but then I started looking for information and I found this website. After I learned more about it and my risk I said I don't care and that I still loved him. The media and people blow this virus way out of proportion that people believe all sorts of crazy things. Some people freak out that they have it just because they slept with someone who has it. Little do they realize that your chances are better that you won't get it. FYI: after 7 years together, I'm still negative, oh and we don't use condoms anymore.

Did you know that if you are on suppressive therapy and use condoms that your partner has a 2% chance of contracting this virus. Those are some really, really small odds.
Report This| Share this:Living with Gential HerpesDon't let a pesky skin condition rule your life. You can be happy, you can love, and &lt;gasp&gt; even have great sex again. The only people you ever have to tell are the ones you have sex with, your family is in no way going to get this from you, it can only be transmitted during sex. There are sites out there for people in the same boat as you, but you can find someone on your own. <br /> <br />My husband has HSV I and II, he still found love after he contracted it, and he still has great sex, and he even married again. He told me he had this about 2 months after we started dating. I will admit I was freaked out at first, only because I knew nothing about it, but then I started looking for information and I found this website. After I learned more about it and my risk I said I don't care and that I still loved him. The media and people blow this virus way out of proportion that people believe all sorts of crazy things. Some people freak out that they have it <i>just</i> because they slept with someone who has it. Little do they realize that your chances are better that you won't get it. FYI: after 7 years together, I'm still negative, oh and we don't use condoms anymore. <br /> <br />Did you know that if you are on suppressive therapy and use condoms that your partner has a 2% chance of contracting this virus. Those are some really, really small odds.
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