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Recently I got a phone call from a girl that I had slept with whom said I had given her herpes and that I should get checked out. This stunned me right away and made me physically ill to my stomach. The next following days were that out of a horror movie. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't think straight, nor could I put together the pieces of the puzzle as to how, or even when I may have contracted this virus. I have never once really noticed any kind of symptoms associated with herpes, except for getting rashes on the knuckle parts of my fingers and on both of my big toes. Sometimes when I got out of the shower I would notice a rash form on my stomach, but I thought that was from the heat, or maybe just the shower gel I use. I then started to piece-by-piece assemble a distorted picture as to many possibilities for how this could have came about, which created more stress.

I went to the doctors a few days ago and she told me that it's not likely that I have this virus, seeing as I have never broke out in any noticeable sores (especially around my genital region). I read on the internet, though, that you could obtain small rashes on your body that resemble an almost eczema based rash, from certain characteristics. These rashes that I get seem to be very itchy, but they never bump, scab, or do anything but come and go (very often, too). I've even noticed the rash form on different area (seeing as i pay closer attention to my body now). This may be because now I'm looking for things to go wrong with me, thereby creating a symptom through my psychology of thinking. Anyways... She told me that she doesn't even like running blood tests, because most of the time they will come back positive, because the test doesn't differentiate between the type 1 and type 2, thus if i've had a cold sore my body has already produced the antibodies that would be positive on the blood work. I demanded it be done anyways, and insisted I have never had a cold sore in my life (which I have not).

I constantly catch myself thinking about the symptoms and get myself into a worry where I now seem more itchy and am checking every inch of my body every 12hours. I'm curious as to whether or not rashes that are the same in appearance on my knuckles and on my toes can be associated with the herpes virus. (my dr prescribed a hydocortisone and insisted she thinks its exzema, which is fine, but why would that girl have called me and told me this. (before sleeping with her i hadn't had sex in 1year 4 months).

I tried to compile all the information on here, sorry about the length. Any information would be appreciated, especially before i have a mental breakdown from the anxiety and stress this has put on me. Could the test come back positive even if I never had a cold sore? Could I ask for a test that can tell the difference, or is it not needed, because I've never had cold sores?

Thanks for your time.