harshh. i know how you feel. i was pressured into dating this girl i didnt really want to date, and had sex with her once. drunken mistake, no condom. then i moved out of my state, so the state im in now i have no health insurance because it was state insurance. i had no idea i have herpes until i saw the symptoms on this site, so im self diagnosed. plus im with the women i truly feel im going to marry, and yet i have no clue how to tell her. however, my advice to you is this. first off, never feel alone. did you know one in five people in the us are affected by herpes?? thats more than asthma and cancer. second, its best to come straight out with it. not like, "hi im so-and-so and i have herpes, whats your name?" but, bring it up in conversation, and especially tell them before you have sex, and use condoms. they suck, but if we used them to begin with, we wouldnt have the dame virus now would we? simply know that you are still beautiful, and herpes will never ever control you, you control it. hope this helps darling.