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I have recently acquired a case of OCD. but my OCD is fueled by fear. I am a young woman. And I have only been involved with one person my entire life, for the last 3 and a half years. Something happened a while ago, that has been eating away at me. As difficult as this is for me to say, this is the only way to get some relief. I engaged in oral sex with my boyfriend, Early morning hrs.. went to sleep.. woke up later that Same morning, and spent the rest of the day at the fair. dropped my boyfriend off later that night, went home. The next day, went to a friends house, and into half of the day, or even as early as noon? I felt the irritation of a cold sore, looked in the mirror and I saw it. I know there is a period between when you first come in contact with this virus, and when it shows up. And normally there are signs so that you can prevent this from happening.. and if there were any signs I wrongfully passed them off as having chapped lips..I remember having chapped lips. I know I may have used poor judgment and I feel extremely terrible. I have over analyzed this a million times, recapturing, trying to think of any possibility, that this may have happend, after the fact. Spending the rest of the day at the fair, you touch many surfaces. or the next day eating a bowl of chili, at a friends house, down to.. I remember waking up that same morning, and looking in the mirror, to get ready.. I didn't see one. In the time frame between the later morning hours, the rest of the day at the fair, and the next day going to a friends house.. IS it possible that I could have acquired one after the fact?? Could I have acquired one at the fair? and it show up as early as the next day? or soon after eating a bowl of chili? Could I have aquired both the irritation, and visually seeing one.. soon after eating? Unfortunatley, the time frame between the intamacy with my boyfriend (early morning) then the rest of the day at the fair that same day, and going to a friends house the next day.. where I first noticed one, is only about a day and a half.. I read it is up to 2 days between exposure, and syptoms.. but is anything I said, after the fact possible, how can I be sure for both his sake and mine? Also, I read about false negatives.. and ALL of the test.. that I read about.. seem to NOT be 100% affective or accurate.. ALL that I read about have the ability to give off false negatives.. Blood tests show visible antibodies, how ever if there are no signs of an outbreak, or they have begun to heal.. antibodies do not nessecarily show up? Right. or wrong? same with Coulture test I read.. and those were listed as the MOST acurate.. which seemingly, isn't all that acurate.. leaving only uncertainty... What do you recommend?? I understand this is very time consuming, but I have so many Q's... I really love this person and I would hate myself if I put him or me in danger.. I never felt comfortable doing it anyway, I didn't mean for any of this... NEXT, herpes 1 and 2 ... they stay on surfaces for 24 hrs? What about Casually touching Anything? This has flared my OCD to the max, washing my hands over and over.. to the point where my hands are dry, and cracked leaving more exposure to germs. Which I can't coompletely stop, so I bought anti-bacterial soap w/ moisturizer.. Which is only Anti-BACTERIAL what about viruses? LAST, my OCD has reached the point of ppl wanting to interfere, Parents yelling at me to Stop.. I was wearing gloves to prevent the exposure of my dry, cracked, open cut hands( the result of accesive washing w/ ajax bleach alt. dish soap) because it was all I had.One of my parents who have Hep C and I don't know what else.. was yelling at me and wouldn't let me put my gloves on.. (which I read.. would also aid in helping relieve dry skin) leaving my hands exposed. they were so close to me yelling, that,(THIS is no axaggeration) They spit all over me as well as, my exposed hands.. can I get a disease like this? Saliva on open wounds??