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Herpes. Now what???
Bluecat4429 posted:
I just found out yesterday that I have genital herpes. I have no idea when I contracted it, as I realize you can have the disease and not even know it (I found out from a blood test). I have been seeing a guy for five months, and we rarely use condoms. I know, I know....Anyway, how do I tell him? I feel horrible if I gave it to him. Obviously I had no idea I had it until today. But for all I know, he might have been the one to give it to me. I am so confused and scared. Help!
abe648 responded:
Why did you get a blood test?

Yes it is possible that he gave it to you or you have had for quite sometime. The best thing is to tell him. Go to the top of this site and put in "Telling a partner Herpes" or something like that until you get some good old posts about how to tell a partner.

He needs to get a type specific IgG blood test for HSv 1 & 2 as well to see what his status is. Get him to ask for a copy of this blood test and post them here so someone can confirm his status for you.

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Abe ... Read more in the Herpes Handbook. Watch the Herpes Video and Terri Warren's book The Good News about the Bad News. All located under the heading Herpes at

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