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    STD/sexual health anxiety
    mpamcallister posted:
    I'm 18 years old. I'm a a virgin going into college. I have given and received head from three guys. Two had never done anything before me with anyone so I never had anxiety. The third guy had received head from two different girls, both of which had multiple partners I'm sure. So I then developed anxiety. I got tested a few months ago and don't have anything. That third guy who had history before me got tested as well and was clean.

    If there's a guy in college who has only given/received head with his girlfriend who hadn't done anything before him (no partners besides him) and this guy is a virgin as well and hasn't had any partners besides here, am I okay to have unprotected oral sex but protected sex with him? There's nothing I can get, right?

    Please help, I don't want to be this way forever. I don't want to not have a sexual aspect of my relationships just because of my health anxiety. I've done my research on STDs and HPV, I know a hell of a lot more than the average 18 year old. I'm very conscientious about my health. But please, just understand I want to try to be normal. My basic question is would it be okay and safe to have sexual relations with this boy in college? And I wouldn't have to have anxiety about it?
    elle0317 responded:
    The best way to find out is to have him go for STD testing prior to relations with this fellow. We can't tell you whether he has anything, the chances are slim based on your description (and whether he is telling the truth), but still we cannot know for sure that he is STD free. Only a test can tell you that.
    abe648 responded:
    There is always a chance of contracting something from any type of sexual encounter be it oral or vaginal and so if the two of you want to go beyond oral sex then to protect yourself it is always good to get tested for all STI'S and make sure you get tested for G Herpes with a "type specific IgG blood test for both HSV 1 & 2 so you both know your status. It sounds like you know this guy already and iff so then he should OK with getting tested. Post your numric test results on her for Herpes so someone can confirm your status.

    Just because someone says that they have never had vaginal sex does not always say they are telling the truth. If the releationship is worth it then there should be no issue with them getting tested for everything including herpes.

    I would recommend that you do this with all partners as it is not only what you may or may not have that is important but what they may have that is worth knowing so that you can protect yourself from getting infected with any type of STD.

    You sound like a level headed young lady and so be wise and always get tessted. If someone does not want to go and get tested then they are not worth being intimate with if they do not respect you enough to get tested.

    It is your body you are putting on the line and if you follow these rules for yourself and anyone whom you may want to be intimate with you will go a long way to not contracting something from someone.

    If they do not want to get tested then that should be a red flag that they may have something to hide and they are not worth your time no matter how much you care for them.

    God Bless you and be wise through out your life and protect your body.
    Abe ...I am not a medical professional. Read the Herpes Handbook, Watch the Video and Terri Warren's book is availible umder the Heading Herpes at

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