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its a turnoff more than anything
An_240741 posted:
Ive been with my fiance for a few yrs now but still the use of a condom turns me off. I can't go on the pill as it caused migraines and otherwise we dont want to risk falling pregnant by withdrawing etc.
I end up agreeing to condoms but in general we mainly just fondle to get each other off. Is this normal? and what can we try otherwise? Ive tried lubrication but become embarrassed...i think its the plastic that turns me off as it doesnt feel natural and sometimes causes below to feel irritated slightly even though its not an allergy to it and tried different brands. WHen it comes to trying for a baby my partner will love me lol. He seems happy with other means than just sex all the time but i worry he wants more and i do agree but he usually sees me hesitate when it comes to wipping out the condom! thoughts?
fcl responded:
Here's a link to information on other forms of contraception:

Perhaps one of the others (or a combination of two?) would suit you? How about discussing this with your gyn? Maybe another hormonal method would work for you if it's the estrogen that is causing your migraines - minipill, ring, Depo-Provera.

Condoms may cause irritation if you use them without lube...

If using condoms is a turn-off, why not make them part of foreplay? Try putting on on his penis using just your mouth ...
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
An_240741 replied to fcl's response:
thanks very much for the suggestions

I did read about using lube. I try use it the majority of the time but my man wants to use it himself and it doesnt go quite where it should lol
fcl replied to An_240741's response:
Happy to be of help Keep us posted!
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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