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    Embarrassing moments during sex
    dbarr1 posted:
    Hey all, looking for some advice and maybe reassurance. I just entered into a new relationship after 5 years of sustaining from women/intercourse. During that time I was masturbating to old memories, not any from of porn. Well, I was in bed with my new gf last week and I was aroused but when I inserted, after a few minutes I became soft. She began masturbating me and I did ejaculate. This has happened again last night. I'm becoming concerned.

    I do not smoke or drink, I eat fairly healthy, my pulse, pb, bloodwork are all normal. I am about 15 lbs overweight. I am very attracted to her and do not know why this is occurring other than working 2 jobs and averaging about 4-5 hours of sleep a day.

    Any ideas or thoughts would be appreciated.
    stevesmw responded:
    Make sure you are pleasuring her without your penis.
    You are five years older than you were before and erections don't get better with age.

    What usually is said here is that all those years of masturbation makes it difficult to stay hard in a vagina; masturbation=more friction. That was not my experience. Until age 62 I had good erections and a very sensitive penis; tending more to PE than ED unless intercourse was regular.

    Fatigue and stress impact erections and not much of an erection is needed to orgasm from masturbation.
    bigred53 replied to stevesmw's response:
    I second what steve said about pleasuring her. Imo there is much more to sex than PIV (penis in vagina). Personally I don't care how I get off as long as I do. Yes, I enjoy penetration but I, and most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

    She should be pleasuring you too - manually and orally. I love pleasuring my partner.

    Enjoy each other and pleasure each other without intercourse. Your relationship is still pretty new and it's going to take time for you to get to know each other and relax with each other.

    Most importantly communicate with each other. Sex starts in your mind. A lack of erection does not mean a lack of orgasm for either of you.

    davidmarsh replied to bigred53's response:
    If you are facing erectile dysfunction problem then you can try Viagra or Cialis. these are best medicines for erectile dysfunction, and now You can buy these medicine online at . It is one of the best online pharmacy store that provides all pharmacy products at great price.But i also suggest you consult a physician on the dosage and quantity
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    allyson12 responded:
    You could be suffering the symptoms of ED. Most men could experience this at any point of their lives, and basically caused by aging although some might have it during their earlier age. Doctors generally prescribe ED pills to treat the symptoms of ED. You can read more information from this link:
    jacqui_olliver responded:
    It is common when in a new relationship after a period of abstinence, to have some concerns about whether or not your penis is going to work properly. Your ability to function sexually is tied in, to your thought processes. It takes just one instance of being tired, or mentally distracted (wondering if it's going to work) to cause a man to lose his erection the first time.

    Working two jobs and averaging only 4-5 hours of sleep a day is also likely to be a contributing factor. Sex requires a HUGE amount of energy and if your brain or body is tired, then your penis will suffer the consequences.

    Hmmm... I think I'm going to have to write an article on this subject. Will post a link here when it's available
    ZERO Medicine Treatment to Solve Sex Problems
    jacqui_olliver responded:
    Hi, adding to my comment below, here's that article I wrote, to help you further understand the contributing factors which can account for erectile dysfunction in a new relationship.
    Unique Treatment to Rapidly Resolve Sex Problems
    pinkpants78 responded:
    You could be positive with ED. Kindly refer to this link for helpful information --

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