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    imjustasking posted:
    wife is not interested in sex. marriage is great, great family,no one is unfaithful. its been several years. suggestions? i will come back with tried that! so pls give best advice.
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    FCL responded:
    Before anyone can make suggestions we need to know a little more.
    How old are you both? Has she always had a low libido? Does she turn you down when you try to initiate? Have you ever asked her why she never wants sex? did she suddenly stop wanting sex? If so, was there an important event that occurred around that time?
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
     
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    imjustasking replied to FCL's response:
    i am in my 50's and she in her 40's, no interest since about 2 years after last child was born. i do get turnd down so i quit asking, it hurt too much. her reply is not interested. she says she loves me and treats me well and i her. relationship is good. just wish we had romance
     
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    GuardSquealer replied to imjustasking's response:
    If you are married and not having sex the relationship isn't good. How old is the last child?
     
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    FCL replied to imjustasking's response:
    How can she say she loves you if she won't have sex with you for your pleasure even if she's not interested?
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
     
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    imjustasking replied to GuardSquealer's response:
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    imjustasking replied to FCL's response:
    i have taken the high side and try to rationalize if it is medical on her part and my whole life with my wife and family is above my being lonely.
     
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    veryinquisitive replied to imjustasking's response:
    Is there a chance of her getting pregnant again? Is she concerned about her disinterest? Why isn't she seeing a DR about this/
     
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    GuardSquealer replied to imjustasking's response:
    Seems your best bet to start with is to just have a conversation with her. Ask her why she has no interest in sex. Tell her that you are interested in sex, and that this difference is causing problems for you. And then put it back in her court and ask her how she would like to resolve the problem. If she says there isn't one let her know that there is, and that you must come to some sort of resolution. And that continuing like it currently is isn't one of them.
     
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    FCL replied to GuardSquealer's response:
    I agree with Guard. Also, be sure to have this conversation outside of the bedroom, to avoid making accusations and to stay calm.
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.


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