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MISSBUBBLEYAJG posted:
Well I havent been on here in awhile, but I thought I would stop in and say hello...I know none of us here planned to be single parents, there are so many circumstances to it as well. I feel the term "single parent" has sort of a stigma, or it may just be me, to me it sounds negative.

So what is your story? What circumstances, life obstacles brought you where you are at?

Well Ill make this short lol Im 22 now, been on my own since I was 19years old. I was with my bf of 4 years, been through everything, and of course had our daughter. DB was in and out of jail from the start of our relationship, but life was just too complicated for him to handle..He was in and out of jail a total of 4 times now, he even missed the birth of our daughter. The fourth time came this past Feb(which seems like so long ago now) he got arrested again, and just got sentenced in June to prison for technically 8years, but will most likely be 5 1/2 to 6 years. It was quite a shock, and Im still coming to terms with it and all aspects..including I really am going to be a single parent to our daughter. Im scared because I want to give her the world, and everyday there is something in the way I must fight through.

You see DB may sound like a bad person, but there was more to our relationship than what seemed. He really was a good daddy when he was around and I miss him like crazy. I feel for him missing out on his daughters life, and I feel for my baby, not going to know her daddy.

So anyway thats my short story, I really did not anticipate any of this for me or my daughter, but this is where life has taken me. I wake up everyday, get baby girl to daycare get myself to work all day and then again at the end of the day. I do things I dont want to do, I cry, I scream sometimes, I get lonely, frustrated, but after all of that I remind myself Im not doing any of this for me, Im doing it for her. I cannot fall weak, i cannot say "I cant" Im tired I give up" when I know Im going to go to bed pray that same prayer and wake up and do it all over again. To show my daughter, anything is possible. You are your own worst enemy, I find my strength through God. This is by far one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do and it doesnt get any easier does it...well maybe when they are out of the house...lol I dunno....sorry this got way long....
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kristinmarie722 responded:
Well I am new to here and newly a single mom.
DB and I were only together for a few months before I got pregnant with DS who just turned 5. We were together up until May of this year. So it's still all new to me. DS's dad is very involved in his life (thank goodness) but we still have our issues and things to sort through. He wasnt happy about the break up and still tries to get back together but I know that there is no hope.
I am still adjusting to not having DS around all the time. And he is quite ornery these days, dealing with his dad being gone. But I am just taking it one day at a time and hoping for the best.
 
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Zaysmama replied to kristinmarie722's response:
hey ladies, i see it has been a while since there have been any responses.

DB and i were together almost a year (on & off) before i got pg and stayed together my entire pregnancy. He was abusive physically and mentally. He cheated on me and after my son was born, I realized that was that last thing i wanted for him. I left him when DS was a little less than two months old. Best choice I've ever made. Since then he has been in and out of his life but mostly out. DS is almost 2 now and doesn't even know who Sperm Donor is. But SD claims that he doesn't have a kids anyway... His loss!!!

When DS was 4 months old, I met an incredible man and he and i were together for over a year. He had a daughter and together we made a family. Eventually we started fighting and our work schedules forced us apart. In october he left, after 2 months of trying to make it work. Still, to this day, DS calls this man daddy and asks for him.

Its been a long, bumpy road but my family and BFF have helped me through the most challenging of times and I know that DS and I would not have made it without them!...

You girls are strong and I hope you realize that you are the best thing for your children and no matter what, keep your heads up and know that God sees you struggling and if you're doing the best you can, whats meant to be will eventually find a way to be!


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