Singles Coping

Hi. I would like to introduce myself. You can call me Stormy...not my real name, but I like to remain anonymous. I was married for 21 years...with the same guy for 25 years... since I was 17. We went to church and the whole nine yards... more to that story... buy anyhow... I found out he had been having many affairs. Another long story, but I ended up filing for divorce.

I am now 45. We have been divorced 3 or 3 1/2 years. I guess that is a good thing that I'm not counting. I have a 21 year old son and a 17 1/2 year old daughter who "accidentally" gave me a grand daughter who was born on my birthday in September. She is just over a year now. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. Especially during the turmultuous past 3 or so years. I honestly think she has saved my life.

I have tried dating again in the past year; howver I run into men who want sex and no feelings. I have not been with many men before or after my long marriage, so now I am feeling like a 15 year old ignorant child.

My curse and my blessing: I look like I am 30 or 35 at the oldest. I am not bragging, but I just shock everyone who says I have no crows feet. So, ultimately I attract 35 year olds and the men my age and older assume I am too young for them.

I tried match.com and found a*hole men who lied about being married and just wanted a fling... I can't do that again. I tried a man at work... that didn't work. I tried a man from highschool when I had facebook... that didn't work. I am actually trying to find contentment in my singleness. It is just frustrating to see all the other women around me who so easily find a man... even if they don't even want one. (aka my best friend). How does this carma work? Ugh.

I could use some help.

I also have read some posts... and maybe with the experiences I have been through, I can be of assistance to someone else. That is my hope. I don't know everything, but some of the posts I have read...well, the answer is obvious to me. I hope that someone will read my post and say the same... the answer is obvious and it is.... ??????

Thanks for listening.

Stormy