My boyfriend of five years is a heroine addict. we have two kids and expecting one more. I cant take any more of this. he shoots up atleast 12 times a day. and neglects me and our children. blows all his money drugs How am i suppose to cope with this.
You don't say that you're living together; however, if you are, I would strongly recommend you find a safe place for you and your children to go. I can empathize with you as you are in a difficult situation, and I hope you have a support system from friends and family.
Your first concern is to provide a safe, secure environment for the children; presently — due to your boyfriend's addiction — they are not safe when in his presence.
Your boyfriend has a disease he cannot control, and his heroin habit has become more important to him than his family. I would urge you to seek support from Nar-Anon , a worldwide fellowship for people whose lives are affected by someone else's addiction. Their website offers meeting information as well as literature. Also, if there are any treatment centers in your area, they may have a family program you could attend to gain insight on taking care of yourself.
I completely agree about everything you said. I use to go to Nar-Anon & Al-Anon. My parents were addicts (sober now) & my husband was an alcoholic (sober now). They are so helpful & they have meetings for kids that are helpful too( if yours are old enough to understand what's going on). I wish you the best of luck & please get those babies somewhere else & yourself, especially now that you're pregnant again. You have to protect yourself, your unborn child, & your the kids you already have hun. I know it's hard to just leave when you love someone & all you want to do is help them & get them to stop killing themselves, but they have to want it too & you can't make him want it. The best thing you can do right now in this situation is leave & get support from your family, your friends, & Nar-Anon. I wish you luck.
Its a difficult road to walk but as you're attaining the help and support your boyfriend needs you need just as much suport. I'm an addiction specialist in California and have seen people recover and families put back together. Its doable even though there is alot of work involved. If you have any questions let me know.
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