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My husband is a highly functioning pot head
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An_246545 posted:
Hello everybody, I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been smoking pot on a regular basis since his teenage days. When we met he introduced me to pot, I was very young still and didn't really think much of it. I always thought that youth just grow out of this when they become adults. Maybe my innocent mind thought this since my parents where pretty square in every sense of the word, no alcohol and ofcourse no drugs. His parents also (very religious as well), so I tought he and I would just grow out if this together....well we didn't.
We got married and have a child now. I have stoped smoking for years now, ever since becoming a parent. (as I thought he would too).
I am a stay a home mom and my husband is a very hard worker. His job is very stress full and he has all this dreams of starting his own business, so every year he works for this goal, and every year he doesn't accomplish it so he turns to smoking pot. His job is seasonal so on his months off all he wants to do is sneak around and smoke pot all day. I don't know how to help him see that he will never accomplish this dream off his if he just lounges around smoking pot on his months off!!! Our kid is young and hasn't noticed "yet". But today I had the dissapointment of watching him sneak around the backyard to smoke and then came in to give our kid a pep talk (after he had just punished her before going for a smoke). I had a melt down. I just don't belive our kid deserves to have a high parent taking care of her or giving her any kind of guidance.....now I feel like i've just told you my whole life...but I really don't know what to do anymore...help.
1 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:My husband is a highly functioning pot headHello everybody, I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been smoking pot on a regular basis since his teenage days. When we met he introduced me to pot, I was very young still and didn't really think much of it. I always thought that youth just grow out of this when they become adults. Maybe my innocent mind thought this since my parents where pretty square in every sense of the word, no alcohol and ofcourse no drugs. His parents also (very religious as well), so I tought he and I would just grow out if this together....well we didn't. <br />We got married and have a child now. I have stoped smoking for years now, ever since becoming a parent. (as I thought he would too). <br />I am a stay a home mom and my husband is a very hard worker. His job is very stress full and he has all this dreams of starting his own business, so every year he works for this goal, and every year he doesn't accomplish it so he turns to smoking pot. His job is seasonal so on his months off all he wants to do is sneak around and smoke pot all day. I don't know how to help him see that he will never accomplish this dream off his if he just lounges around smoking pot on his months off!!! Our kid is young and hasn't noticed "yet". But today I had the dissapointment of watching him sneak around the backyard to smoke and then came in to give our kid a pep talk (after he had just punished her before going for a smoke). I had a melt down. I just don't belive our kid deserves to have a high parent taking care of her or giving her any kind of guidance.....now I feel like i've just told you my whole life...but I really don't know what to do anymore...help.
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James Golden, MD responded:
From what you write, it seems that your husband suffers from "amotivational syndrome." This is common among long-term cannabis users and especially common among people who are cannabis dependent.

It's no wonder that he has not accomplished his dream. But there is still hope! If he seeks treatment, he can stop smoking pot, and he will get better. This will take time, but it's not too late.

I suggest you tell him how you feel when you see him interact with your son, then ask him if he wants a better life for himself. After that, support his seeing a physician for further recommendations about chemical dependency treatment. I believe you will get what you seek.
Report This| Share this:My husband is a highly functioning pot headFrom what you write, it seems that your husband suffers from "amotivational syndrome." This is common among long-term cannabis users and especially common among people who are cannabis dependent. <br /> <br />It's no wonder that he has not accomplished his dream. But there is still hope! If he seeks treatment, he can stop smoking pot, and he will get better. This will take time, but it's not too late. <br /> <br />I suggest you tell him how you feel when you see him interact with your son, then ask him if he wants a better life for himself. After that, support his seeing a physician for further recommendations about chemical dependency treatment. I believe you will get what you seek.
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