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An_243276 posted:
I'm 30 and have been pregnant three times and have had three miscarriages. My husband and I have been tested and there seems to be no real reason why I can't have a successful pregnancy. Now it has been two years since we have been ttc. We have been trying not to stress over it and just enjoy what we have now. But it's so hard not knowing why I can't have babies, all I have ever wanted is to be a mom. And I'm forced to watch others enjoy parenthood while I am barely keeping it together. My sister had one mc then conceived two weeks later and she had a healthy boy and when he was 4 mths old she was pregnant again with her second child. They are now 5 & 6 yrs old. My mom also had one mc but no one in my family has had so much trouble having a family. I really don't know why I'm writing this, especially since its not something I talk much about. I guess maybe there's someone that knows what it might be that could be causing this. I was fit and in shape when I conceived before, so that wasn't a factor either. Ugh what is wrong with me??
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FrenchBulldogMom responded:
You might be one of the couples who fall into the "unexplained infertility" category. Have you been to a fertility clinic for treatment?
Age: 35, DH age:35 TTC 2 1/2 years,surgery Feb '11 polyp removal/D
 
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An_243276 replied to FrenchBulldogMom's response:
My Obgyn ordered a bunch of blood tests and the dye test. Everything came out normal, there was a slight clotting issue with my blood, but they said I miscarried too early for that to be the factor. I also went to a specialist and he concluded the same thing. I had 3 miscarriages in a year and a half, now the past two years I can't seem to get pregnant. I don't know what to think now.
 
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jessi2056 replied to An_243276's response:
I too have had 3 miscarriages in the past 19 months. They are telling me since they have only actually seen one of them that i have to wait to do the genetic testing until i have another one. They took progesterone tests the last time i was pregnant too and it was low. so now they have me taking progesterone suppositores a couple days after ovulation. I have not been pregnant since November. I am seeing a fertility specialist and the month that i was on clomid i didn't get pregnant. My ovaries are too enlarged to put me on it again for this cycle, and i go back to the Dr. Friday. I too am ready to be a mom...

I was watching 19 and counting the other day and i got so mad b/c here they are with 19 kids and I can't even have one....
 
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praynpray replied to jessi2056's response:
We have been ttc for quite some time now too- and I will say that I do consider myself blessed to have not walked in yall's shoes and experienced a mc. I thought one month that was what was happening- but I could not say for sure whether or not that was actually what took place... if it was, it was too early to have known for sure I guess. At any rate- I am so sorry that you have both experienced that... and I pray for you guys- and all of us that we will have our successful pregnancies very soon!

We are "unexplained infertility". At first, I was okay with that- at least things looked like normal you know? But- as time marches on, I seem to be a little more overwhelmed by it than I first thought. I think that it is easy for us all to question what is wrong with us that we cannot seem to conceive- while others seem to have no problems. I find myself wanting to cry sometimes just looking at a little baby in a stroller or a pregnant woman walking past me at the store- I am happy for her... but it is a constant reminder for me. Anyway- there are no answers, but I know that God is Sovereign over all of this- including when we will all conceive... He is faithful! I keep reminding myself of that through these sometimes unpleasant side effects on this 2nd round of clomid!!!

I am thankful for all of these posts- just knowing that we are sort of all in this together in a way is quite comforting.

I think that one of you mentioned that no one else in your family seemed to have trouble conceiving- I understand that... the same for me. I don't think that there are any answers for why in many cases it is hard for some of us to conceive- but you are not alone... and I know I sound like a broken record- but I CLING to this- God does have a plan and He is Sovereign!

We just keep praying- all of us- and we will get there.
 
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An_243276 replied to jessi2056's response:
I completely understand getting upset at how others seem to have no problem getting pregnant or take it for granted, but by us trying to be happy for others even when we are hurting, I think that makes us pretty special women. Not everyone can say that they can be happy for others when they have something we so desperately want! I too keep praying to God because even though he is not causing these difficult times, he is the one that will get us through them! I hope you both here great news from your doctors real soon!


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