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She kept bringing up the obvious, my AGE, and trying to blame old eggs. I showed her the pathology reports, that the tissue that was tested showed that all 3 babies were chromosomally normal, so how can the losses be strictly age if nothing was wrong with them??
Anyway, her first suggestion was ovarian reserve testing, which I've already had done twice in the past year and both times it showed ovarian reserve is normal, but she wants to do her own. Then she quoted the stats of a woman my age getting pregnant on her own, vs IVF w/PGD. She was really pushing the aggressive treatment of IVF w/PGD. This is something we are not interested in doing, due to religious beliefs, we have decided that we are not comfortable with that approach. We kindly explained this to her, and we understand that others may believe differently, but that it is each couples decision to do what is right for them. She then mentioned how the "sands of time in the hour glass is running out fast for me" and that without IVF, she really doesn't see what other help she can give me. She then told me that if I wanted to be conservative and just take my chances with nature, I could go back to my OB and ask about doing Femara w/progesterone supplementation and timed intercourse.
Anyway, $410 spent from my flexible spending acct just to hear, I'm old and that IVF w/PGD would be the only option.
So, we've decided to just take our chances on our own until the end of the year.
and its your every right to deny IVF if its not for you then its not! they need to respect that and give you alternative options..
Femara is like clomid, only it doesn't have the side effects that clomid can have. The clomid helped w/my luteal phase defect and upped my progesterone levels, but it thinned the lining of my uterus, so I can't take it anymore. Femara is the next step.
Cody, I appreciate that my doctor was just being realistic, and not trying to give false hope. I understand what she was saying about IVF w/PGD helping us get pregnant faster. There just wasn't anything more she could do to help w/the recurrent pregnancy loss, so if we weren't interested in IVF, then my OB could handle the femara protocol.

I'm wishing so much that you'll get your little miracle before year's end. Big, big hugs to you.
Right now, due to my cardiac history, I have to get cardiac clearance to proceed with anymore fertility treatments. Fortunately, I work for my cardiologist, so I've got my echo scheduled for Thurs morning, we adjusted my bp meds, and I'll follow up with him next Monday. My RE also asked me to get a PAP and MAMMO, so I see my OB on Friday, (I was due for the pap and already had the appt, so that was convenient). Then I wait for day 3 of my cycle and get the labwork drawn for the ovarian reserve testing, plus there are a couple of immune system blood tests she'd like me to have done that my OB didn't do in the original labwork.
So, that's where things stand with us. I'll be spending my days of work at doctors appts, OH YIPPEE
My DH and I am just taking one thing at a time, step by step, it makes it all less stressful. One thing I loved that RE said was that I needed to relax as much as possible, she told my DH that manicures, pedicures, massages, acupuncture, etc. are all recommended, I definitely will follow that advice!!!!

Did she talk about doing IUI with injectable meds? We didn't do IUI's that way because I responded well enough to Femara, and our RE suggested that if we're willing to do injectables we should just do IVF. I kind of wish we had tried injectables with IUI after the first m/c, but then again, I had GOTTEN pg, and it seemed like a fluke I m/c.
The one thing I will say about PGD, and I know you aren't doing IVF, but in case anyone else reads this and wonders about it...our RE specifially said for our age NOT to do it. That they cannot put the embryos back in until day 5, and at the advanced age, that they have to put back in one day 3 usually, With PGD they test on day three and don't get results back until day 5, so by day 5 you could find out that embryo A, C, F were all normal, but they didn't make it to day 5.
And our RE said they always do better inside a uterus than out, so they don't take that chance.I hope you get a miracle this year - is anyone willing to do progesterone support without fertility meds?
I'll keep my fingers crossed for your Reserve - were they doing AMH also?
(((HUGS))) to you - this is SO unfair.

I think looking at one thing at a time, is the best thing. I did that with all the stuff I did and thought I would be doing earlier this cycle and it helped me tremendously.
She did quiet down a bit about the old eggs once we told her that the tissue from all 3 losses had been tested and had come back chromosomally normal. That's when she combed through my records and read the pathology reports.
We are holding out hope that we can get pregnant one more time and maybe, this will be the time!!!!!
What's the saying? Slow and steady wins the race? Maybe I just can beat that biological clock!!! LOL!!

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