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Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycle
Prayforamiracle posted:
I'm so, so sorry to leave all of you hanging. I have been emotionally and physically worn out with af this time. She has been fierce. I don't know if it is normal to have a worse af, after coming off of medicated cycles???? Today is the first day since Monday, that I feel I'm in the land of living again. This af has been too much. So anyway, to the appt. Re said that due to my age and no success with the RE, we need to be more aggressive. He said I still have good eggs or lots of eggs, can't remember which. So he wants me to move to injectables. I have no idea how much, but I know injectable cycles are way more expensive. My Clomid/Trigger/IUI cycles averaged around $1000.00, not including travel expenses. I know they also require more monitoring, which means more time off work and I don't how I can expain what I'm leaving the office for so much. So before I can do the injectables, I must have an HSG(should of had this done before IUIs, doc) and I have to attend an injectable class. So needless to say, no way to start a new cycle this time. I am beyond devastated. I told them this would be my last opportunity for two-three months, but it didn't seem to matter. Again, so sorry for not posting about my appt till now. I'm just so disappointed.
Prayforamiracle-Me(37)Dh(44)TTC since 11/06. Only pregnancy ended in miscarriage in 7/07. Dealing with MFI. Anovulatory and irregular cycles due to PCOS. 1st IUI 1/12=BFN, 2nd IUI 2/12=BFN
8 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycleI'm so, so sorry to leave all of you hanging. I have been emotionally and physically worn out with af this time. She has been fierce. I don't know if it is normal to have a worse af, after coming off of medicated cycles???? Today is the first day since Monday, that I feel I'm in the land of living again. This af has been too much. So anyway, to the appt. Re said that due to my age and no success with the RE, we need to be more aggressive. He said I still have good eggs or lots of eggs, can't remember which. So he wants me to move to injectables. I have no idea how much, but I know injectable cycles are way more expensive. My Clomid/Trigger/IUI cycles averaged around $1000.00, not including travel expenses. I know they also require more monitoring, which means more time off work and I don't how I can expain what I'm leaving the office for so much. So before I can do the injectables, I must have an HSG(should of had this done before IUIs, doc) and I have to attend an injectable class. So needless to say, no way to start a new cycle this time. I am beyond devastated. I told them this would be my last opportunity for two-three months, but it didn't seem to matter. Again, so sorry for not posting about my appt till now. I'm just so disappointed.
TeacherBeck responded:
Pray I am sorry you have to wait. To them it might not sound like a long time, but when you have been waiting so long already, any delay is too long!! (((hugs))That IS a lot of $$. Wish $$ didn't matter, but so often it does. I hope you are in a position to be able to try the injectables. Even thought it is the LAST thing you want right now, maybe a few months off from this craziness is just what your DH needs before trying again?? (((hugs))) I am so glad we all have each other, but I will say again I wish there were someone in your face-to-face life who knew about all this and could be an additional support for you. I know my family is NOT good at being supportive and most of them are blabbermouths, but I have been able to confide in my SIL (who has also had m/c); more than once she has diverted attention from a sensitive topic for me (and I for her). I am praying not only for these upcoming 2-3 months of TTC rest to be a time of renewal for you, but also that you will be able to open up to a flesh-&-blood friend you can confide in who will build you up, help protect you when you are vulnerable, and just be there for you. (And I am not trying to push that, b.c I know so many people can just make it worse, but I am praying for the RIGHT person for you to share with).
Big hugs, so proud of you Pray!!
Becky(31) DH(38); 1 furbaby: Clark Kent
TRIGGS: After 1yr TTC bfp april '09 lost @ 20wks precious Jackson 8-06-09
TTCAL grad, sweet Juliet born 12-10-10 Praise God!
TRIGGS: After 1yr TTC bfp april '09 lost @ 20wks precious Jackson 8-06-09
TTCAL grad, sweet Juliet born 12-10-10 Praise God!
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycle<img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/frown.gif" align="top" border="0"> Pray I am sorry you have to wait. To them it might not sound like a long time, but when you have been waiting so long already, any delay is too long!! (((hugs))<br /> <br />That IS a lot of $$. Wish $$ didn't matter, but so often it does. I hope you are in a position to be able to try the injectables. Even thought it is the LAST thing you want right now, maybe a few months off from this craziness is just what your DH needs before trying again?? (((hugs))) I am so glad we all have each other, but I will say again I wish there were someone in your face-to-face life who knew about all this and could be an additional support for you. I know my family is NOT good at being supportive and most of them are blabbermouths, but I have been able to confide in my SIL (who has also had m/c); more than once she has diverted attention from a sensitive topic for me (and I for her). I am praying not only for these upcoming 2-3 months of TTC rest to be a time of renewal for you, but also that you will be able to open up to a flesh-&-blood friend you can confide in who will build you up, help protect you when you are vulnerable, and just be there for you. (And I am not trying to push that, b.c I know so many people can just make it worse, but I am praying for the RIGHT person for you to share with).<br />Big hugs, so proud of you Pray!!
perry147 responded:
I'm so sorry. Please try to stay positive. I know that's easier said than done. It is great news about your eggs though which is really the most important. About the cost you should ask your Dr about getting the meds from a discount pharmacy. My RE office said if my ins didn't cover the meds that they could recommend an alternative source. Even the specialist pharmacy that I ended up getting my meds from said they discount if they get a rejection from the ins co. My RE also offers a deal for IVF that if you pay for 2 tries up front and no refund they will do up to 4 for the same price. Maybe if you keep busy looking into your options you won't feel like your wasting time waiting and the time will go by quicker.
Me 43 DH 41 DS 9/10/10 2m/c @ 8wks 4/09 and 11 wks d
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycleI'm so sorry. Please try to stay positive. I know that's easier said than done. It is great news about your eggs though which is really the most important. About the cost you should ask your Dr about getting the meds from a discount pharmacy. My RE office said if my ins didn't cover the meds that they could recommend an alternative source. Even the specialist pharmacy that I ended up getting my meds from said they discount if they get a rejection from the ins co. My RE also offers a deal for IVF that if you pay for 2 tries up front and no refund they will do up to 4 for the same price. Maybe if you keep busy looking into your options you won't feel like your wasting time waiting and the time will go by quicker.
ksay6306 responded:
Oh Pray...I am sorry this is becoming so stressful for you. And I am sorry that AF was so horrible. Did the RE give you any ideas as to what medication you would use? I did the Follistim injections last summer. One thing I would say is that you should ask to be maybe a little more aggressive with the first cycle if you go forward. My first cycle I was on a lower dose and ended up doing the injections for a lot longer than what was expected. This caused the cost of the meds to go really high. Will this be your first HSG? If so I am surprised they haven't done one sooner! Never heard of the injectables class...the nurses at my RE's office just explained it to me and I read the paperwork that came with the meds.
One of these we are going to get some good news...
One of these we are going to get some good news...
Kristin (28) DH (31) TTC since 3/08 One furbaby: Bailey a 3 year old lab 2 MC (10/31/09 at 10 weeks, 7/23/10 at 5 weeks). PCOS, slight MFIF. IUI 1 6/11-BFN IUI 2 cancelled. Best chance is IVF
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycleOh Pray...I am sorry this is becoming so stressful for you. And I am sorry that AF was so horrible. Did the RE give you any ideas as to what medication you would use? I did the Follistim injections last summer. One thing I would say is that you should ask to be maybe a little more aggressive with the first cycle if you go forward. My first cycle I was on a lower dose and ended up doing the injections for a lot longer than what was expected. This caused the cost of the meds to go really high. Will this be your first HSG? If so I am surprised they haven't done one sooner! Never heard of the injectables class...the nurses at my RE's office just explained it to me and I read the paperwork that came with the meds. <br /><br /><br />One of these we are going to get some good news...
Michelle063007 responded:
Pray,
I'm sorry you are so upset. That is really good news about your eggs though. I hope you are able to try the injectables. If they are out of your price range possibly that would be one reason to confide in your parents or in-laws (if you think they might have the means). I'm not sure how much our genetic testing is going to cost but we are very fortunate that my MIL offered to help out with the cost if needed. Also, about leaving work so much, maybe explain the situation to your supervisor (especially if she is a woman...women understand). I was very scared to ask for time off after this past miscarriage. My supervisor can be kinda harsh at times but when I told her what was going on she was more than willing to give me the time I needed. She then went on to tell me about her MIL who had had 9 m/c before having a baby. She was just way nicer and more supportive than I ever imagined. We had a long talk and she helped me continue to have hope. I know this is a very personal issue but you need support and there are lots of people who love you who will be there for you--even people who you think might not. Good Luck! I hope you get some good news soon! Hugs
I'm sorry you are so upset. That is really good news about your eggs though. I hope you are able to try the injectables. If they are out of your price range possibly that would be one reason to confide in your parents or in-laws (if you think they might have the means). I'm not sure how much our genetic testing is going to cost but we are very fortunate that my MIL offered to help out with the cost if needed. Also, about leaving work so much, maybe explain the situation to your supervisor (especially if she is a woman...women understand). I was very scared to ask for time off after this past miscarriage. My supervisor can be kinda harsh at times but when I told her what was going on she was more than willing to give me the time I needed. She then went on to tell me about her MIL who had had 9 m/c before having a baby. She was just way nicer and more supportive than I ever imagined. We had a long talk and she helped me continue to have hope. I know this is a very personal issue but you need support and there are lots of people who love you who will be there for you--even people who you think might not. Good Luck! I hope you get some good news soon! Hugs
Me (28), DH (34), TTC since 7/10, BFP 6/5/11, m/c 6/25/11, BFP 8/27/11, m/c 9/8/11, BFP 2/7/12, m/c 3/30/12
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cyclePray,<br />I'm sorry you are so upset. That is really good news about your eggs though. I hope you are able to try the injectables. If they are out of your price range possibly that would be one reason to confide in your parents or in-laws (if you think they might have the means). I'm not sure how much our genetic testing is going to cost but we are very fortunate that my MIL offered to help out with the cost if needed. Also, about leaving work so much, maybe explain the situation to your supervisor (especially if she is a woman...women understand). I was very scared to ask for time off after this past miscarriage. My supervisor can be kinda harsh at times but when I told her what was going on she was more than willing to give me the time I needed. She then went on to tell me about her MIL who had had 9 m/c before having a baby. She was just way nicer and more supportive than I ever imagined. We had a long talk and she helped me continue to have hope. I know this is a very personal issue but you need support and there are lots of people who love you who will be there for you--even people who you think might not. Good Luck! I hope you get some good news soon! Hugs
Ani05 responded:
Pray so sorry AF has been so horrible, it sure doesn't help when you already have a lot on your mind.Regarding the RE,the news about the eggs is awesome but in the meantime now you have to worry about learning how to inject yourself,the cost and that you have to wait longer.I am sorry Pray,hopefully you and your hubby will find a way to manage everything so that everything works out for the best.Don't give up.Good Luck!
Ani(30),DH(30),DD(5).BFP on 03/02/2011,M/C on 03/11/2011.BFP on 04/12/2012.Praying for a sticky baby.
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cyclePray so sorry AF has been so horrible, it sure doesn't help when you already have a lot on your mind.Regarding the RE,the news about the eggs is awesome but in the meantime now you have to worry about learning how to inject yourself,the cost and that you have to wait longer.I am sorry Pray,hopefully you and your hubby will find a way to manage everything so that everything works out for the best.Don't give up.Good Luck!
vybe77 responded:
Pray- I'm sorry that the appt. did not go as you would have liked. You deserve so much and you are such a strong woman for taking on these obstacles like a true champ..I seriously look up to you Pray..when I feel at my lowest I tell myself that Pray is strong and she is a great example..
Good stuff about your eggs and maybe injectibles will give you that boost you need..I'm sorry these treatments are more expensive though and I'm sorry it will interfere so much with all of you and DH's other schedules..
I know you were looking forward to trying this cycle since you will have to then take some time off..I'm sorry that things did not work out for that to happen as you had wished. I will send you prayers Pray in hopes that some positive vibes can reach you, you deserve some happiness and smiles..((hugs))
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Good stuff about your eggs and maybe injectibles will give you that boost you need..I'm sorry these treatments are more expensive though and I'm sorry it will interfere so much with all of you and DH's other schedules..
I know you were looking forward to trying this cycle since you will have to then take some time off..I'm sorry that things did not work out for that to happen as you had wished. I will send you prayers Pray in hopes that some positive vibes can reach you, you deserve some happiness and smiles..((hugs))
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Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cyclePray- I'm sorry that the appt. did not go as you would have liked. You deserve so much and you are such a strong woman for taking on these obstacles like a true champ..I seriously look up to you Pray..when I feel at my lowest I tell myself that Pray is strong and she is a great example..<br />Good stuff about your eggs and maybe injectibles will give you that boost you need..I'm sorry these treatments are more expensive though and I'm sorry it will interfere so much with all of you and DH's other schedules..<br />I know you were looking forward to trying this cycle since you will have to then take some time off..I'm sorry that things did not work out for that to happen as you had wished. I will send you prayers Pray in hopes that some positive vibes can reach you, you deserve some happiness and smiles..((hugs))<br />Drop us a line if you need us <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0">
MelBrody responded:
Pray- I am sorry aunt flo has been rough this time around. Sometimes she can be a heartless beetch... I am also sorry that you won't be able to do what you want this cycle. That's great news about your eggs but not so great about having to do the injectables. I know it's hard to balance what you want and what you can afford. I am so glad you still have options to consider though and I hope you are sucessful whatever road you take. You a haute presence on this board and we all love you and wish for nothing but your happiness.
Me(28) Hubby(27) M/C due to Blighted ovum October 11.
TTC 1st baby.
TTC 1st baby.
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cyclePray- I am sorry aunt flo has been rough this time around. Sometimes she can be a heartless beetch... I am also sorry that you won't be able to do what you want this cycle. That's great news about your eggs but not so great about having to do the injectables. I know it's hard to balance what you want and what you can afford. I am so glad you still have options to consider though and I hope you are sucessful whatever road you take. You a haute presence on this board and we all love you and wish for nothing but your happiness.
hgreenwood7058 responded:
I just saw your update. I havent been on much but wanted to say I am sorry that they weren't able to do this cycle. I hope that this injectable/hsg and all this will truely make the difference. Its been a long tough road and honsetly when (I am still keeping faith) you get pregnant I think we are all going to bawl. Lots of hugs.
Heather(24),DH Lee(25)PCOS w Hemmoragic cysts. BFP:1/23/11 M/C 2/10/11. BFP 08/13/11. EDD 4/17/12-Team Blue!. Hope this LO will stick
Report This| Share this:Another RE appt-Will not be starting meds this cycleI just saw your update. I havent been on much but wanted to say I am sorry that they weren't able to do this cycle. I hope that this injectable/hsg and all this will truely make the difference. Its been a long tough road and honsetly <u>when</u> (I am still keeping faith) you get pregnant I think we are all going to bawl. Lots of hugs.
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