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2nd M/C, testing and finding the courage to try again
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babyj1017 posted:
Good Morning Ladies....

Not sure if anyone will remember me, I was only on this board for a short time. We had a loss in May, got pregnant again in July and just found out on Monday that we lost this baby as well.

At the appointment on Monday, the doctor (a different doctor at my Ob's office, but not my usual OB since it was an emergency), said that since this was our second consecutive loss that we could do some testing to see if we had any issues causing the losses. She didn't go into much detail, so I'm wondering if anyone knows what tests are typically done and what the process entails. I do have a follow up appointment this coming Monday, so I'm sure we'll get some information then. I've had two succesful pregnancies (my first two), so I imagine chances are pretty high that there is nothing wrong with me and we'll just chalk it up to bad luck.

Which leads me to my next question... how do you find the courage to try again and possibly face another loss? Maybe it's just because my loss is so fresh, but I don't know if I can do it again. Both DH and I know we want another child (DH has actually mentioned a 4th, but I don't know about that yet), so do we just put our fate in the hands of hope and faith? I struggled through this most recent pregnancy with finding a positive attitude and not expecting the worst. Should we have waited longer to get pregnant after our first loss? If we do decide to try again, I think I want to wait until January... maybe giving my body and our hearts longer to heal will help in some way? I don't it. I don't feel very confident right now.

Any thoughts or suggestions are warmly welcomed.
Jenny (31), DH (34), DD (7/2006), DS (6/2008), Angel Baby (m/c-6/2012)
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ani05 responded:
I remember you Jenny,so sorry for your loss. It's going to take some time for you to feel a little better but it does get easier.TTC again sure helps b/c it gives you hope that the next time it will work out.I felt like you after my 2nd m/c and I didn't want to try again but I have to thank DH for insisting and we are trying again. I have read stories of women having had 2,3 m/c and ended up having healthy pregnancies and babies after those miscarriages.I don't think it happened b/c you got pregnant too soon,there has been ladies in this board that have gotten pregnant right after a m/c and they have delievered healthy babies.
Regarding how long to wait to ttc again,that's really up to you,I think you'll know it when it's time to try again.
After my 2nd m/c I had some blood tests done but everything came back normal.
Here is a list of the tests my Dr ordered:
Fasting blood sugar
Factor v Lieden
Antiphospholipid panel
Thyroid stimulating hormone
Antinuclear antibody test
We paid about $1300 for all the tests,hopefully that was helpful.(((HUGS))).
Ani(30),DH(31),DD(6).TTC for baby no.2 since 05/2009.BFP on 03/02/2011,M/C on 03/11/2011.BFP on 04/12/2012,M/C on 05/02/2012.
 
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prayforamiracle responded:
I'm so sorry for your losses. Sending you lots of hugs right now. I know you are not for sure how soon you want to ttc again. You could go through all the tests and find out the results, and then decide if you are ready to try again. For some, it takes longer to be ready. I only waited one cycle, but I was longing for a baby so bad, I was 32 DH 39 and felt like we didn't need to waste any time. I hope you will take the time you need and everything works out for the best. Hugs.
Prayforamiracle-Me(37)Dh(44)TTC since 11/06. Only pregnancy ended in miscarriage in 7/07. Dealing with MFI. Anovulatory and irregular cycles due to PCOS. 1st IUI 1/12=BFN, 2nd IUI 2/12=BFN
 
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kstategrad07 responded:
I'm so sorry for your losses! I went through the same thing when I was ttc my first. I had a loss in Feb and then again in Aug. then I got pg with my son in Sept, the very next cycle! After my second loss we were referred to a specialist, and they did a bunch of blood tests and an ultra-sound of my ovaries and uterus.

All they could really find was slight PCOS, so they prescribed me metformin, but I got pg again before it had time to "work". We are now trying for our second and I had another mc this last March.

As for finding the courage to try again, I don't know if your religious, but we pray and pray and pray some more! I know there is a reason it all happened, and it will happen in God's timing! It also gave me hope and peace to know that I have 3 children waiting to meet me one day in Heaven! That's how I found the courage!

(((Hugs)))
Amanda(26), DH(27), MC @ 5weeks 2/09


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