Hi hkosea,
My 13 year old son was diagnosed almost a year ago and he went through that same phase - where he typically didn't need to take insulin at lunch, so he tried to talk us into letting him eat fewer carbs and skip snacks to avoid taking shots at other meals as well. It didn't take him long to figure out that he was getting really sick of eating meat, cheese, and salad....and when he would eat balanced meals and take his shots he
just felt better. So, give her time, but encourage her to eat the number of carbs her dietician recommends. You do need to count the carbs in veggies like corn, beans, peas, potatos etc.. because they are starchy foods and starch is a carb. One of the best pieces of advice we got early on is to get "The Calorie King" book. It has carb information in there for everything you can think of....including major fast food places, etc.. It makes counting a lot easier and eating out a lot less scary. After he was diagnosed, we also made a point to keep eating the same meals that we have always had at home. It was enough for him to deal with the needles & insulin - we tried to keep everything else as normal as possible. He loves rice, so we continued to eat rice (just in smaller portions). He loves fruit roll-ups, so we made sure to include a fruit roll-up in our dinner plan.
The other thing you need to keep in mind is that during honeymoon period, her pancreas is still producting some insulin....but once the honeymoon is over, the amount of insulin she needs is going to increase. At Ben's last dr. appt in May, they were speculating that his honeymoon period is almost over...and we've been noticing a need for more and more insulin even with him eating the same number of carbs each meal as when he was diagnosed a year ago.
Ben also struggled with sticking his fingers for the longest time...he would bring himself to tears when he had to poke his finger - so we let him use his arms and other places to test until he could work up the courage on his own...and now he uses his fingers almost exclusively. It was the same with the bedtime shots in the beginning, too....it would sometimes take us 20-30 mintues to give him his bedtime shot because he said it hurt....so we would just talk until he calmed down and then we gave him his shot. Now he gives his shot to himself at night.
I think some of the lessons he has learned the hard way is that "yes" you can skimp on the carbs, but a needle stick feels much better than a crash. A balanced diet makes him feel better...and there is
nothing he can't do because he's diabetic. We constantly tell him how proud we are of him for being responsible and we reward him when he takes responsibility for managing things himself - like remembing to pack his snacks and taking his own bedtime shot. He needed lots of hugs and encouragement in the beginning, but now he's accepted things as the are and he'd be motified if I huged him! ;o)
He was at boy scout camp a couple of weeks ago - without us. Scary for us - but great experience and sense of independance for him. He had
no trouble at all...and his sugars were perfect all week long and no crashes. The first year is really, really tough on the whole family...but hang in there, it does get better.