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    My sister is adopted. I want to help.
    WNTL09 posted:
    Hello! I am 19 years old and still live at home. My parents adopted a 4 yr old last November. Because I am still at home, My sister and I have a great relationship. I love being with her and she loves to hang out with me. I am involved in her life in the sense where I pick her up from school, take her to activities, take her out of "sister dates", etc.
    Because of my close involvement in her life, of course I want the best for her. However, my mom will not even consider my advice. I know I'm only 19 but I have worked in a childcare facility for 4 years, taken numerous classes, and have done countless hours of research.

    My question is how can I get through to my mother? She is an older mom,(age 46) and has two older child besides me, ages 27 and 23. I am the youngest.
    My mom is not very open to other advice besides her own. Her opinions on nutrition, discipline, development, and other issues are out-dated and unreliable. I am concerned for my sister. She is babied, and on her way to a life of obesity. She doesn't get proper nutrition. She watches T.V for over 4 hours a day. She whines and gets what she wants.
    I love my sister like she is my own. I understand that I am a sister and not her parent. However, I would like to change my mother's parenting styles. She is a great mother who just needs a few changes.

    ANY ADVICE?????????
    fiannakyn responded:
    Wow. I'm glad she has a loving sister like you! Maybe tag along with them on the next doctors apointment and voice your concerns to the doc for back up?

    you might also ask this on the parenting boards too, this isn't just an adoption question- this is a concerned sister question!

    You might also get the book "Love and Logic" (I'm sure you know about it sense you have experience in child care -more experiece than I do! ) and leave it some where where your mom might have a chance to pick it up to read for lack of anything better.
    Vicky(33), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Moving on to adoption, currently in process of being licensed with DFS of Missouri to foster.

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