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    taking the plunge into adoption via DFS
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    fiannakyn posted:
    I just made the call to the local DFS office to get information sent to me about adopting via the foster system. The county I live in has come under fire recently for the foster system so they are in desperate need of parents. I was told there are healthy newborn infants living in temperary foster care for 6 months to a year after TPR.

    If you pay attention to national news about crimes against children... I live in Greene County, Missouri, where in 2008 a little boy was killed by his foster parent. So now the red tape to be approved is very very thick. I have to file an application to be approved to even apply to get into the system. There are 2 seperate background checks, as well as a full mental health evaluation, that's even before the home study is started. I do not begrude the red tape if it can prevent another death.

    We're going to wait till the new year to start the paperwork because we are working on house repairs right now and I don't want the stress of both going on at the same time.

    At the same time, we are also requesting information from several private agencies too, and I plan on printing up busness cards and flyers too.
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    fiannakyn responded:
    Random trivia-
    if I use the first day of training (March 28th) as the date of conception- My "due date" would be December 19th. Lets see if the actual wait is compariable...

    The Social worker told me that the wait for a single, healthy, infant that is free for adoption can be up to 3 years from start of training, but sibling groups are a shorter time. We're also open to minor health concerns too, which can make it even less, as well as legal risk. From my math, we should be expecting a placement within 9 months.

    I just realized Dec 17th is my Dad's birthday. That would be a wonderful birthday present, even if its a temperary.

    Legal Risk are the children that their parents are [> this close to having parental rights terminated, or there is plenty of proof to have them terminated, but the courts haven't made a ruleing yet. Legal Risk can still go back to the parents, but the odds are against them.
    Vicky(33), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Moving on to adoption, starting foster/adoption training with county DFS on March 28th, 2011
     
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    maryberrylicious replied to fiannakyn's response:
    hi! I'm Mary! We r tryin to fost/adopt in PA! We have done our application, FBI/fingerprinting, child abuse clearances and criminal background checks! We are having physicals done soon and have to go to CPR classes! I'm currently going to family prep classes and my hubby is going next month, since we already have children we have to do them seperately. We have no babysitter since I am the stay at home momma! We just feel we have room in our hearts for more children and feel like we could give at least one more child a good home full of love! Sorry I seem to be rambling on! Thanks for listening & good luck to you also!
     
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    fiannakyn replied to maryberrylicious's response:
    Thank you mary and good luck!!

    We had our first class this week. There is no sugar coating of the horrors some of these poor kids have endured. I updated my blog with a recap of it.
    Vicky(33), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Moving on to adoption, Currently in Foster care training with DFS.
     
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    fiannakyn responded:
    Just an update- finished our STARS training yesterday. In the proccess of doing the Home Study now. Should have that done in a month or so. Then we'll be licensed.

    We've upped out age limit to 5years and under instead of 3 like initially.
    the nursery is comeing together nicely. We decided on a theme of Dr Seuss. A crib is still in box, leaning on the wall, and a twin bed is being hunted down now.
    Vicky(33), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Moving on to adoption, currently in process of being licensed with DFS of Missouri to foster.
     
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    fiannakyn replied to fiannakyn's response:
    I forgot to update this thread We were licensed on Aug 1st
    and recived our first call on aug 23rd!

    "Sam" is 16 months old and he's such a sweetie!
    Vicky(34), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Adopting a baby boy due Christmas Day! Also licensed foster parents.
     
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    fiannakyn replied to fiannakyn's response:
    Things have really gotten away from me.

    "Sam" was with us from August 23 to Dec 10th. We did apply to adopt him, but DFS chosed a diffrent family to adopt him. I am sad that he had to leave, but very happy he never has to move again.

    Anthony was born December 23rd, only 2 days early. He weighed 5 lbs 8 oz and was 19 inchs long. He came home with us on Christmas Day and is a delight every day. even the days of no sleep. His finalization for his adoption is going to be in September sometime.
    Vicky(34), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Adopting a baby boy due Christmas Day! Also licensed foster parents.


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