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    Why my 88 year old mother writes awful notes
    Starfish64 posted:
    I've been dealing with my mom who rips up paper in tiny pieces and writes awful things and thinks they are written by someone else. She's convinced that my niece goes through all of her stuff. She hides things and accuses everyone of hiding her belongings. She is in complete denial and so is my brother.
    cjh1203 responded:
    Hello Starfish-

    That sounds so upsetting.

    Has your mother been diagnosed with Alzheimer's or other dementia? If not, she should be evaluated so you can know what you're dealing with. Her behavior is definitely not normal, and that kind of paranoia is common with Alzeimer's, but there may be physical causes (such as a urinary tract infection) that are affecting her behavior.

    This article talks about paranoia and Alzheimer's.

    In any case, trying to discuss this rationally with her isn't going to work, because she can't understand it, and it will likely only agitate her further.

    If you know or find out that she has Alzheimer's, a local Alzheimer's Association support group can be a tremendous help to you and your family.

    Your brother's denial must be really frustrating. You might need to have your mother's doctor talk to him. Sometimes, people are more willing to listen to outsiders than to family.

    I hope you are able to find some answers and help.

    Best wishes-

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