Ahh Valerie. How wonderful to find someone who experiences the same things I do. Well not wonderful for either of us going through the nightmare, but so nice to know I'm not alone.
I have almost exactly the same thing with the diarrohea. And mostly it is in the car. And yes there have been several occassions that I have had no choice but to make a mess - once was even in the middle of a shopping centre (without the security of my car

). It doesn't get much more humliating than that,
I have had panic attacks for years and they were relatively well controlled with Aropax/Paxil for about 6 years, until the first diarrohea episode in the shopping centre. It was just before I got married & so I guess my body was under a lot more stress than normal, but it was so insane that I figured it must have been food poisoning.
Then a few months later...the car....all of a sudden,,,no warning...& not the slightest thing you can do about it. Since then and over the last couple of years I have had about 4 further episodes. It's a horrible vicious cycle, How can your mind control your body to that degree?? It's just crazy.
And I too have tried everything...you made me laugh...yes the singing, breathing, meditation, calming mouth sprays, nup...none of it works when you get "the feeling"...by then it's all over!
Well I'm back on the Aropax/Paxil but it is not really doing the trick (and has nasty side-effects on my sex life....which is the last thing I need in the circumstances!). So I am just in process of changing to Lexapro, plus I always carry benzos with me for particularly bad times...& of course always a pack of immodium. Nothing can stop the initial 'explosion' but at least blocking me up afterwards means I can do my best to carry on with my day. (Oh and carrying a spare pair of knickers in your handbag is never a bad idea either!)
Thank god I have recently met a boyfriend that is incredibly understanding & helpful with this. It's far from romantic going for a Sunday drive & telling him I have to rapidly pull over whilst I crap myself! (Thankfully he is ex Forces so has seen a helluvalot worse).
I don't know about you, but even the doctors and psychologists have said this is very unusual, so it really is a relief to find a fellow sufferer. God if anyone is out there that can help, please please do.
(I'm also having a colonoscopy soon to confirm there is nothing more serious going on (or should I say physically visible in a medical sense).
I think I know in my heart that it is due to the anxiety and panics though.
Well Valerie, we are both looking for an answer, but I have a nasty feeling that to get this reaction to the extent we do is quite rare & so not very well-known &/or researched.
Until something better comes along I reckon you have no choice but to dope yourself up on xanax and take a couple of immodium to help block you up. And I don't know how much of an effect it has, but don't eat any fatty foods or drink much alcohol as in my experience these things seem to make it worse. And don't forget your spare knickers!!!!
Good luck & it would be great to stay in touch.
Amanda
xx