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    caregiverkar posted:
    Please listen to your clients don't talk for them when they can talk and ask lots of questions get to know them kathy
    atti_editor responded:
    Hi Kathy,

    This is a very good point. Thank you for sharing it in the community. Are you currently a caregiver for a family member or someone in need? We would love to hear more from you.
    bigmsm responded:
    I allow my daughter to speak whats on her mind, make her own decisions even though she does change her mind alot. Everybody should ask many questions, but also receive truthful answers and not a line of bull.
    rohvannyn responded:
    Good point! If a person always talks for their client, they might get it wrong. Sometimes I've acted as "translator," with my client's permission, like when I know what they want, and they've stated it, and I ask if it's okay if I explain. Totally agreed about asking questions.

    A really good thing to do if you are taking someone to the doctor, even if they do all the talking, is take notes and help everybody stay organized. There's too much information during the average doctor visit for any one person to absorb.
    Dave Balch replied to rohvannyn's response:
    Here is another reason to let your client (or patient) talk for themselves at doctor visits: the ability of the patient to think and express themselves may tell the doctor something about their condition.

    For example: when a patient can't think of a word, or has trouble enunciating, or speaks haltingly, etc. I'm not a doctor but I do know that there are a number of things that a doctor may notice that we wouldn't necessarily notice.

    Also consider this: even if there are problems that we DO notice, it is important for him or her to see it for themselves rather than rely on our description. You just never know what subtle clues may present themselves.
    davmid replied to Dave Balch's response:
    I agree! I find that my role in the doctor's office is to take notes. Occasionally I will ask a reminder note so my client can ask about something she wanted to talk about. Sometimes, I ask questions to make sure that I understand. But overall, if my client can speak for herself, it is vital that she does.

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