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    How can help my mother- Alzheimer's disease
    jamiehudson5326 posted:
    Hello all, I am writing this for my mother, a 70 year old sweet mother. It's been ten years now, since my mother is suffering from Alzheimer's. Her sleeping patterns have changed recently. At the earlier stages, she slept until noon and didn't wander much. The last few years she slept easily, no wandering and woke up early. She has begun refusing to take her medicine and this has seemed to affect her sleep patterns again, and my father has trouble to put her in bed. How can we help her? Medication is necessary, but she refuses to have it. Should we consider a nursing home for her, a place in which Alzheimer patients can get good care and treatment . I know this decision is pretty hard, but we have no idea how to handle this. My father is also sick and he can't take care of her anymore. I appreciate your inputs about this. Thanks in Advance.
    rohvannyn responded:
    You are right, that is a really hard decision. I know of some really nice nursing homes that provide awesome care. Another thing you might consider is a live in caregiver, or even a part time caregiver. They could help with her daily routine for a while so she could stay home a little longer. They tend to cost a lot less than a nursing home, too, so more will be left for care later.
    Dave Balch responded:
    There is a wonderful article right here on WebMD to help you with the nursing home decision. Basically you need to have as much information as possible before you can make such a decision, so do the research they suggest to discover your options.

    Regarding taking her medications... I recorded an interview with Dr. Vicki Rackner who describes this situation as "hostage negotiation." Her metaphor suggests that your rational mother (who WILL take her meds) is the hostage and your irrational mother (who will NOT take her meds) is the hostage taker. You are the hostage negotiator. As negotiator, it is important to remain calm no matter what and find out why she won't take her meds. Perhaps she is drawing on a bad experience from her past and, due to the Alzheimer's, can't distinguish the difference. When you finally get to the reason she won't take her meds, you can calmly and compassionately deal with it.
    diggerman responded:
    My mother is 95 yrs who also has Alzheimer who is a very, very sweet lady and I'm so lucky to have her as my Mother. She became very sneaky, if you were not looking she would hide her pills (anything sitting on the table, her bedroom shoes, in the pocket of her lift chair, in a Kleenex or wherever she thought she could hide them. For the past 2 years I have been putting them in her milkshake (which consist of protein mix, some ice cream-chocolate of course and skim milk). I do this in the morning and again at night I have no problem getting her to take her medication.
    We have Council on Aging in our County and I have someone that comes out 3 days a week, 4 hours a day to help with Mother. This doesn't sound like much but it does help. My Mother told her several years ago that she did not want to go into a Nursing Home and myself and my siblings are trying to honor this request. If you decide to go this route please check with people who have their parent and/or parents in the homes. Because just going through the facility will not tell you what you need to know.
    Anyone who is dealing with an Alzheimer's patient knows exactly what you're dealing with.

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