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    My Husband is Gone
    Sally09996 posted:
    My husband died early this morning and I am so sad. He was diagnosed in February of 2003 with Stage IV rectal cancer. He fought so hard to stay here but he finally could not stop his liver from failing. I was able to care for him at home, which was his wish. This is so very hard and I miss him so much already. Guess I just needed to share this with those of you who can understand. He was only 52.
    LinuxLady247 responded:
    Hi Sally,

    My love, thoughts, and prayers are with you and your family. Colon cancer took my mom in August of 2008. Mom was also able to pass at home (which is what she wanted too).

    You and your family will be in my prayers.

    G-d bless,

    ga_angel responded:
    I'm So sorry for your loss. My husband and I found out last month that he has rectal cancer.He had a pet scan done last week and it showed that he has to spicks on his liver.I'm so scared,I've been doing alot of research and from what I gather is if it went to the liver that it's stage IV.they say that with the cemo and radation that it can disapper and go in remition,I just don't know what to think. My husband is only 48,I don't want to loss him My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Michelle from Ga
    kidinthemiddle1952 responded:
    Dear Sally,

    I don't know what it is like to lose a spouse, but I lost my mother and a niece to rectal cancer and am fighting stage IV myself. I just want to say I am sorry for your loss.

    My Heartfelt Sympathy & God Bless.
    Marcia1029 responded:

    My heart aches for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. My husband is battling stage iv colon cancer and is 53. I can't think of anything harder than watching someone you love go through this. Know that there are always folks willing to listen and support you at this site. Please let us know how you are doing.

    bvalet2 responded:
    I am so sorry for your loss. I too am battling stage IV colon cancer and am only 49. Was he in hospice care? I worry about how much I will suffer at the end. I too would like to die at home. Hospitals are so dreadful. Well just know he is in a place where there is no pain, suffering, or sadness anymore. He is smiling down on you and you will meet again. God Bless and keep you in your time of loss.

    nancywoo responded:
    Sally, please accept my sympathy for the loss of your husband.

    Hold on to your good times - he will always be with you.

    Caprice_WebMD_Staff responded:
    Dear Sally,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Let others be there for you, not just in the days and weeks to come, but in the months and years ahead.

    If you feel the need, I invite you to talk with others on our Grief and Loss board. I lost my love a few years ago and talking there really helped me.

    Be very gentle with yourself. *softhugs*
    Sally09996 responded:
    Tim was only 46 when he was diagnosed and he too had spots on his liver and in his lungs at that time. We had more than six wonderful years in spite of cancer treatments and the side effects. He really did quite well until about the last two weeks where he seemed to have more challenges every day. I will pray that your husband has great success in fighting this off and perhaps a better treatment that is on the way will be able to cure this disease soon.
    SandiP41 responded:

    I'm so sorry. Just happen to check in and saw your message. My prayers are with you.

    ctgrammy responded:
    Hi, Sally, I have been away from the board for quite a while, but wanted to read up on how everyone is doing. I am so sorry for your loss. Clearly no words of mine can help, but I do pray that our Heavenly Father will take you up in His loving arms and hold you while you weep, and whisper His words to you. May you be kept in His grace as you go through this time.
    An_187329 responded:

    I am so sorry for you loss of your husband.

    I have Stage IV Colon cancer since March 11, 2008. II am almost 63 yrs old and still battling this deadful disease. I hope to have 3 tumors removed surgery from my liver so I can start my life over.

    I do no know if I will survive or not but have to try something..

    I hope your beloved husband is in God's loving arms in heaven. As my Mom died in 2008 with cancer. My Dad died last December 2009 of old age. I know what it feels like to lose people you love so much.
    Kenman59 responded:
    I am so sorry! My wife was diagnosed with Stage IV rectal cancer in January of 2008. She is still receiving Chemo and the tumors are confined to her liver. She has had a colon resection and has her good days and her bad days! I dread each and everyday and often times wonder what will happen when i lose her. How will i cope? How can i exist? How can i go on??? I ask myself these questions each and everyday! I question myself...was i a good husband? I hope i have been! I have taken sleep aids for the past two years because sleep is hard! I just pray that she will be with me longer. But i see how she deteriorates more just a little each day....
    cm777 replied to Kenman59's response:
    feel for you and understand the angish and fustration you have,I AM A MOTHER WHO IS WATCHING OLDEST DAUGHTER-39YRS OLD go thru hell and back with all kind of complications and just wonder how much more can she endure bbefore she gives up the fight.She had colon surgery which did not hold together causing sespis infection ,in ICU now 11 days and prognosis goes from looking like she will bounce back to more infections popping up causing more problems. Enjoy each day with your wife and let her know you love her and be there for her and I pray that a miracle from God will shine on your wife. PRAYERS,PRAYERS AND ASK GOD TO EXTEND HIS HELPING HANDS,MIRACLES DO HAPPEN.
    theloveofmylife replied to cm777's response:
    I am sending prayers your way. I am also looking for answers for my family. My husband just turned 40 last month and is fighting for his life. To look at him one would never no he has stage IV rectal cancer with mets to liver{both sides and this past july had left cancer wedged out}he goes thru testing tomorrow to make sure no new left side liver or new cancer anywhere else if so then right lobe of liver will be removed this thur but he still has residual rectal cancer and hopefully these last 3 hard chemos has destroyed it. However, i want to talk with someone who has walked in my husbands shoes and is a SURVIVOR because all we seem to get is this is a way to help prolong life for up to 5 years. I am greedy I want more and I so do hate cancer and how it has turned our lives upside down. I have faith, but our 3 daughters are so young, and this cancer journey has been so rough. He was originally diagnosed stage 3 last nov,a year ago, and by March 2011 after chemo, radiation,surgury, and an ileostomy his cancer advanced. i so dont understand how it could advance but our prayers are surguty for this thurs with complete remission for decades to come. Just want our family to grow old together, walk his 3 daughters down the isle one day.Just want pur miracle and for others too.

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