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    Just had Hysterectomy 6 weeks ago and Im living in Hell
    terric69 posted:
    I am the same, I am 45 yrs old and live in the country in Wi. I am a mother of 6 girls and 3 grandchildren, THE HOT FLASHES AND MOOD SWINGS ARE SOMETHING FIERCE. I just ordered some pills that someone else recommended, as a matter of fact, I was so excited I order 2 boxes, its called Complete Balance? for Menopause @ I got it for 9.99 a bottle Walgreen's and everywhere else wanted anything from 14.99 to 22.00 a set. there are 2 bottles inside. I even paid to have them sent express. I am praying to god that these work, because right now, he's not on my good side, nor is any man for that fact. Sorry, again, the bad side that never existed, now is coming out in me. My doctor will not give me any pills, but I cant take it anymore, some times I think I would rather die than keep going through this every 5 minutes all day and all damn night. I just want one nights sleep, I am so so so tired and I had my surgery 6 weeks ago now.
    But we do have something to look forward too, my husband is spoiling me rotten, he does the dishes, makes me meals, and does the laundry and for the first time in 15 years he cleaned a toilet. He feels so bad for me, he doesnt even ask for SEX and I hate to say this, but I am glad, because for some reason that does not interest me neither. Does it you.
    Here are my symptoms
    Major Hot flashes,
    soaking wet at night
    cant sleep
    lack of energy completely
    mood swings
    I don't want to go anywhere, or see anyone at all. NO ONE
    I feel like people think this is no big deal and easy to do and go through.
    Feel Lost.
    Now, when I start taking those pills I will let you know how I feel afterwards and if they work or not, we can be pen pals, like back in the old days, except now its done on the net. LOL
    Terri C. Fairchild, WI
    ps don't forget to click below to put in your watch list, i will wait for a response from anyone that will talk with me about this if
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    luv62 responded:
    Hi Terri,
    I read your message and my heart went out to you, seriously I completely understand! The hot flashes and night sweats are awful as well as all the other symptoms! It was suggested to me as well as doing my own investigation on menopausal changes to do some simple things/changes, eating right and exercising. I started juicing again with kale, spinach any deep green veggie along with grapefruits, oranges, carrots, cucumbers, celery ECT.....I also and this is a BIG one! I started taking Black Cohosh herb from my local nutritional store.....along with Omega 3, fish oil, coconut oil, vitamin D with calcium. My exercise consists of just walking daily at a fast pace for about 45 mins. Having our hormones checked to see what's lacking is smart too. All these symptoms have lessened and I feel so much better. Please do share your experience with your much anticipating mail can e-mail me at [email protected] We can encourage one another that way!
    Blessings, Dina
    Anon_6061 responded:
    I know how you feel! I also had a hysterectomy and I am a totally different person (in a bad way). It affected every aspect of my life, I kid you not! And it pains me that it never should have been done in the first place.

    Why will your doctor not give you HRT? Surgical menopause or ovarian failure post-hysterectomy is associated with many increased health risks and reduced quality of life. You can find a number of studies about the effects of oophorectomy, pre- and post-menopausal, in PubMed. Intact women's ovaries produce hormones into their 80's for optimal health and well-being.

    Without estrogen, I did not want to live (suicidal depression) and I could not function in any way. EVERYTHING was so overwhelming. And my sleep was very fragmented along with many severe "menopausal" type symptoms. I had every issue listed in the medical studies. And because of this, I missed years of my children's lives because I became a recluse.

    So be sure to do your research and understand the repercussions of your situation so you can make an educated decision on whether or not to take HRT. Was this not discussed before your surgery? Your symptoms may continue to make that an easy decision. It is good your husband is taking on household chores so you can healing from all the internal (and external) cutting.
    Mary Jane Minkin, MD responded:
    Dear Terri,
    I too am wondering why your doctor will not give you hormone therapy-do you have a medical reason that would prevent you from taking hormones? If not, most women in your situation benefit considerably from estrogen therapy-and if he doesn't provide you with a good explanation of why you shouldn't be taking hormone therapy, do consult with another gynecologist; if you need to find a local menopause expert, go to the website, which is the website of the North American Menopause Society, which has a listing of local menopause clinicians.
    Good luck
    Mary Jane
    An_240449 responded:
    I so know what you are going through. I had to be put in a forced menopause and that's something I shouldn't have done. But I went from Dr. to Dr. to get something with no luck. After 13 long, very long, miserable years I finally went to a regular MD and was given scripts for hormone pills. I don't care what the world says about we should not take them. Maybe they should live in a women's shoes for awhile. I had to spend 13 years with the window open in the winter I couldn't do anything to cool off. And my moods well you already know about that. You are very early in the game so I feel for you. I tried every store bought anything I could find and none of it worked. I have been on hormones for 2 years now and I am so much better. People can say what they want about hormone pills but I think they are wrong. And I have had breast cancer in the past, BEFORE I HAD MY MENOPAUSE. My Dr. monitors me and I have had no problems. I still have some of the symptoms you have but I can tell you compared to what I was then and now I'm 100% better. Good luck to you. Study up and do research on hormone pills. They can prevent cancer. Best wishes to you.
    tamrenraw responded:
    I'm eager to hear how you're doing, Terri. Thinking of you and praying you are finding relief.
    robzart responded:
    OMG - I know EXACTLY what you are going through - I have experienced the same symptoms for over 6 years and I am still perimenopausal. I have tried everything except HRTs, which I refuse to take. The ONLY thing that has worked for me is Evening Primrose Oil and Super B Complex. I take them both in the morning with my coffee. When my symptoms are heightened I take them twice a day. I promise you this will work, because I have suggested to my sister, friends, and family and it has worked for them, too. I feel amazing, only have symptoms twice a month now when I'm supposed to be ovulating or on my cycle. With the supplements, my daytime hot flashes reduced 90% - my night sweats only come twice a month now. I have tons of energy, and have organized things at home that have been piling up since I started this crazy rollercoaster ride.

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