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    What a Great Experience this group has become. The kinship in Brotherhood. There is such a diverse range of topics. This is the place we can be as open as we want to be... Everyone is welcome to join, but it is not a place to Cruise. It's for sharing sexual questions and comments among men.
    Feeling like I'm missing out on something...
    BuddyFavor posted:
    Hey guys,
    I've been feeling like I'm missing out by not freely expressing my sexuality. As a married man, I am faithful to my wife except for some isolated experiences with a buddy of mine (purely a release). If I was to freely express myself, I'd have sexual experiences with men also. I truly have no regrets about marriage and family. I guess it is normal to want want you can't have, but that still doesn't lessen the desire. I guess what I'm saying is that I want my wife and family and some man-to-man action on the side. That's unrealistic, isn't it? Maybe it is in our destiny to live life partially fulfilling desires and hope for the best. What are your own thoughts on this?
    All_is_One responded:
    I think that the smallest choices we make can have a huge impact later in life. For example, you have a strong bi-sexual nature and you simply chose years back to stay committed to a woman in marriage and have a family. Now if you were given the chance to go back and make different choices, would you?

    For example, would you go back and possibly get with a man? Or maybe tell your wife how you feel? There's all kinds of possibilities we miss out on.

    I personally don't want to ever get married in the traditional sense, but I DO want to find a woman I'd spend many, many years with and have a sort of spiritual bonding ceremony but very 'new age'. And though I'm not bi-sexual or gay, I have seen men over the years that I have thought were attractive physically. I'd have to say that you are a very good looking man yourself, as far as proportions, physique, and all that goes!
    An_205388 responded:
    Have you considered a MMF threesome? Would your wife be open to exploring that with you?
    gymguygreg replied to An_205388's response:
    I made the same choice as you and have a wonderful wife and four kids. I have not regrets on that side of my life. But, there is the other side that none of them know about. I have cheated a few times and as you say, it was a release. I do not like that I have done it but also feel like having done it satisfied an emptiness in me that helped me focus on my family more. By that I mean all the time I used to dwell on the "what ifs" and thinking about men got put into persepective and don't consume me anymore. Of course I still think about it, but I think it is part of life for everyone to have something they are fending off. It might be food or alcolhol for some and for you and I it is men.
    Chad_Telo replied to gymguygreg's response:
    First off, really great picture gymguygreg!! wow!! Secondly, I feel this exact same way! I am engaged to be married and am positive that I want to marry this woman that I love, but I have these urges towards other men as well that I secretly satisfy in different way, whether it is gay/bi porn, talking to guys on websites (chats) or over the phone (phone sex), or on the rare occasion when I go to the local adult arcade and play around with some of the guys there (who are also mostly married bi guys). Feel free to e-mail me if you guys want to chat any further about this. I have had this same struggle wondering if I was making the right decisions and if I was a terrible person for cheating.. my e-mail is . Hope to hear from ya....
    gq12 replied to Chad_Telo's response:
    I am with you guys on this. I am happily married with kids and I would not change a thing! I do however have urges that I have tried to beat, but I have given in a few times at the gym, massages, etc. I just think that there is more to sexuality than a black and white line of straight, gay, bi.
    hookedcurved replied to gq12's response:
    smokin' hot pic!!
    Dan8781 responded:
    I think it's human nature, to have desires we can't always have. I know a dude who practices Buddhism and he is literally the only man I know who is completely satisfied with the here, the now and what life has presented him.

    As for myself, I have not been married yet patly because I fear not being able to express my sexuality in marriage. It will take a very open minded woman to accept me. I could get married and hide things, but thats not going to make me happy. My current g/f knows me, but we havent talked marriage, this early into it.

    Its not unrealistic, Buddy. But maybe impractical and could do damage to your marriage, and thats what you have to weigh.

    I feel ya, Bro!
    gymguygreg replied to Dan8781's response:
    This is off topic here. Sorry. I have been curious about your tattoo since the first time I saw your avatar. Can you share why you chose that design and what it means to you? I don't have any ink and probably will never get any but appreciate a hot body with one and you definitely are hot.

    Dan8781 replied to gymguygreg's response:
    Thank you, Greg.
    It's not to terribly signifigant, but its a design I saw in a book when I was getting my motorcycle detailed. I was 19, and was feeling very independent. So I got it as a tat instead of having it put on my bike.
    The think I remember about that is that it took two applications to complete. I had just come back from camping and had a wicked bad sunburn. Yeah OUCH.

    Thx for your compliments. Your body and avatar is damn hot. Oh the thoughts in my head, bro.
    pogo99 replied to Dan8781's response:
    Ditto...about the tattoo...I was curious about it. Love your waist/back ratio! You should post a front torso pic.
    gymguygreg replied to Dan8781's response:
    I was art a nude beach one time and a guy nearby bent over with his back to me. He had a full sun tattooed in his crack that didn't show when he was standing but turned into this work of art when he bent over. Talk about "OUCH" and also think of th position he had to be in the entire time he was getting inked. No Thanks!

    I wish I was there to share thoughts with you.
    GuardSquealer responded:
    Is that any different than when I go to a strip club and see a attractive woman and want to have sex with her? Or when I see a hot chick at the mall or walking down the street? I don't think it is. Just because I have one woman, doesn't mean I don't want to have sex with others. And I have regrets when I realize that there are other women I could be having sex with but I don't / can't because I am married.

    That's part of being married. You can't have sex with someone other than your wife. If the desire becomes so strong then you have to discuss it with your wife and see if she is willing to let you explore other options. Odds are she won't be. So you have to figure out what you really want.
    Commando14 replied to Dan8781's response:
    I echo the opinions about your tat. Its a good look and the avatar that you use is very hot.
    ryu2008 replied to gymguygreg's response:
    totally agree with you Greg being Bi doesn't make you a less of a man or less of a Human Being. we are born this way and if you can't accept yourself who would right? just like you I used to dwell on what ifs? but I just decided to just let it go while I still can and capable as long as I am not having an affair outside my marriage. I don't want to regret the idea that I let the opportunity pass me when I grow old.

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