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    Bisexual thoughts
    NY1986 posted:
    Im 24 years old and also a virgin. I consider myself a straight guy, I like women, get turned on by them , I get turned on by straight porn and will marry a woman. But for the past few years I've always would glance at guys and wonder what it would be like to do something with a guy. And for the past year or so I started watching gay porn a little and get turned on and get turned on thinking about doing something with a guy. I don't know if Im bisexual or just curious because Im a virgin and horny. I'm wondering has anyone ever have a similar situation and if so what did you do if anything and do you have any suggestions for me? I really dont know what to do because I have so many thoughts running through my head and never told anyone I know about them.
    zoom1969 responded:
    Dealing w/ certain desires and feelings can be tough sometimes when it comes to sexuality. I am in my early 40s and when I was younger ( late teens ) I too started realizing I was attacted to guys also. Not having a relationship or emotion connection with but just sexual. Over the years I have had some buddys w/ benefits. That is a side to me that has always been kept very private. Nobody ( friends/ family ) knows that I have been w/ a few guys except the guys I have been w/ sexually. We have all been in the same boat so this is something we have kept very private/ discreet.

    You will have to do what's right for you! Just really think about if this is something you want to explore! A lot of the guys on these boards have posted some great discussions/ forums over the past year. Quite a few on here have been in similar situations as us. Good luck on whatever you decide! Best wishes and always remember to play it safe and be careful!
    jackja responded:
    I had similar feelings when i was in my late teens and early 20s, I have never admit it though, I thought it was just fair for me to explore, a guy tried to kiss me but i just couldn't do it, i was completely disgusted, there were some friends who got very close to me and I sort of knew what they wanted. I had a friend who would take his shirt off when we were alone and start hugging me for no particular reason and saying sexual stuff to me just like you do when you are with a woman. So i had opportunities to have sex with some of my "friends" but I realized I was straight and that all i really wanted is close friends. I like sentimental guys, and I do like homosexual men, they are very tender, nice people, but for sex just doesn't work for me, I guess my needs mostly psychological and social. I do get nervous around some guys I like, but again its just no sexual i cant explain and I can come across as homosexual, sometimes and I really don't care, I find it beneficial for people to think I am gay.
    gq12 replied to jackja's response:
    I have had bi-sexual thoughts and have "tried" to deal with them for many years now. I have acted on them at the gym and with m2m massages, but I've never given anything because I've been to hesitant to go that far. I've never kissed a guy, given oral or sex, but I have jerked guys (touched). I have had guys give me oral, rimming, touching and had a few try to initiate sex (pushing up into my butt!). I am too concerned with catching an STD to do anything more than this. I would live to try oral but it would have to be someone I know and trust, but it has never happened (where's Greg!!).

    All my encounters have been the anonymous type, never with a friend.
    NY1986 replied to gq12's response:
    It is possible I just want close friends or it could be that I want something more. I mainly have the fantasies of receiving oral and jerking with another guy. I have had chances to meet someone to do this but never go through with it but dont know if its because Im afraid to do something with a guy or afraid to admit I might like it. I also check guys out just like I do girls thinking about doing stuff with the guys and wondering if they are bisexual/bicurious. I wonder if I would feel the same way if I get a girlfriend and start having sex. I am concerned with STDs and such but would definately be safe.
    bdfisher responded:
    you don't know until you try.
    Indigenous replied to gq12's response:

    I asked my wife to give me a handjob this weekend. Even though she did, you'd have thought I'd put a gun to her head. The last time I was close to going solo, was when she was on depression meds, and I went through a sexual "desert" for almost a year. Said she didn't mind if I took care of myself, long as she knew "when", and wouldn't interrupt.

    However, she also got mad at me once because she thought I was doing it laying next to her: "I'm right here, just say something!" Well, now when I do, it's back to being "burdensome" to her.

    I do masturbate, have to because I'm a once-a-day-sex kind of guy. That's all I want is sex once a day, everyday, and I'm happy. But, my thoughts/fantasies during it are mixed. Either past incredible sex with my wife, or I fantasize about fictional straight people.

    I think my thoughts/concerns about being "bi" or "bi-curious" are because, when thinking about fictional straight people, or having read her romances, I imagine, vividly, what's happening to the man: getting hard in his jeans; his body; touching him, &c. But, I believe I'm wishing I were the real man that that was happening to. Does that make sense? I hope so...

    More simply put, my thoughts translate to fantasies that I wish my wife would do to me/for me: "Can't get enough of sex with me", "Wants to give me oral", "Wants to run her hand(s) down my jeans and get me hard", "Wants to give me incredible orgasms". Etc.

    When we were first dating, we were in our bed in our large tent one morning. I was still sleeping --nude-- and with the covers only covering me from my thighs down. She started stroking me, and instantly I woke up and asked what she was doing. "Does that feel good?" "Of course." She kept on. I said, "You keep that up, and I'm going to get really hard and really horny." She grabbed the hand lotion and began to massage me. I said, "Don't you want sex?" She said, "I want to give you a handjob." When I asked her why --though not complaining-- she said, "I want to see you c-----. I want to see if you ooze or squirt." She did!

    Years later, she saw me go up like Mt. Vesuvius. I explained, the longer I go without sex, and the more you go slow when we have sex, the better build up I get, and the more I ejaculate. But, now, I take what I can get... at almost 45.

    See ya!
    GAP1954 responded:
    I believe that we all are essentially opportunistic and can engage satisfactorily with either sex. You are a horny young guy. I would think that anything having to do with sex would turn you on. Don't let it torment you one way or the other. When you are ready to have sex with someone, be safe about it and let yourself enjoy the experience. Eventually you will gravitate to one side or the other but may always find attractions in both. Too bad we can't have lifelong relationships with both!
    gymrat44 replied to GAP1954's response:
    Check my member story to see my thoughts.
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
    StPeteBob replied to gq12's response:
    I'm in the same boat guy. Mutual masterbation, touching and that type of thing. Most of that went on in college with friends of mine. I'm married now and don't want to be unfaithfull and the situations just hasn't come up that much. I was at a guy's house and after the baseball game he put some porn on we had had a few beers and the host and another dude pulled out their cocks and I have to say I was turned on. I rubbed my hardon through my pants but excused myself to the bathroom to finish myself off. It was really not a big deal. I felt comfortable and it wasn't like they were making moves on me or each other.
    gymrat44 replied to StPeteBob's response:
    I think the important thing is that you had thought the situation over and did the thing which was comfortable for you. Of course we're going to get aroused in a situation such as you described and it made sense for you to go relieve yourself. Whether to join in together or go off by yourself is an individual choice -- and could be different at different times. One of those places where there's no single right decision for everybody.
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
    StPeteBob replied to gymrat44's response:
    Thanks man, I have to say it was very HOT. Glad it's baseball season again. :) I think I'll be more comfortable at least stroking with the boys next time. Like I said after we had all cum it was very "normal" and things weren't at all awkward.
    gymrat44 replied to StPeteBob's response:
    Will be interested to hear how the ball season goes. And another thought -- there's a difference between being together and having individual sex and having it with each other. What you're describing sounds like good group bonding, something I'm sure we could all use more of in all its different forms.
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44

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