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    An_254407 posted:
    I am very close to my 17 year old son. We have always had a very open relationship. He has come to me recently very upset. Now, I don't condone teen sex, but I'm not blind to the fact that he and his girl friend are sexually active. He came to me last night very upset, and embarrassed. He told me that he has a problem with not getting an erection...I have NO IDEA what to say or do. For one, I don't want to condone sex, for 2, it does concern me...ANY advice would be appreciated. I was thinking to set up a physical for him, where he can discuss this with his doctor. On the other hand, my answer at the time was...perhaps you're just too young, and that ALOT of a real sexual relationship is mental, not just physical.
    I do worry about what this can do to him emotionally, and regarding his self-esteem. I don't want him to feel alone, as he's gone through many things in the past years. please help!

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    Anon_475 responded:
    It's called performance anxiety and it happens to lots of men. Really, it's nothing to worry about. Unfortunately, once it happens, the guy tends to worry about it happening again and so it does. The best thing he can do is tell himself that these things happen, that there's nothing wrong with him and nothing to make a fuss about.
    sluggo45692 responded:
    Your son is 17 and puberty has hit, physically he's old enough. Mentally is always another story. I agree with anon475 that it's performance anxiety. Tell him to relax and take his time. He doesn't need to rush in to fatherhood. If he thinks on it to hard, then it will fire off to soon or no wood. Let him know there are other ways to please a woman that doesn't get her pregnant and still pleasing for him.
    Talk to him and ask him if he has been able to rise to the occasion for self enjoyment. If he has, then it will rise again for her. Always keep an open mind and let him know your opinions and beliefs. He's your son and our son's do listen to us. Good Luck

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