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    cant forget
    An_249253 posted:
    i'v been in this relationship for 3 years now going on four, we have a long passed but i cant get over everything he has done to me cheating, lying and staying out late and lie about were he been, i don't know what to do about it ? i cant forget it and its killing me not to say anything i know stuff that he dont know that i know but i feel he is going to lie about it if i confront him about what do i do?
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    fcl responded:
    Why would you want to be with a man like this? He isn't going to change. Can you live with being treated like a doormat? Don't you want your self-esteem back?
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD responded:
    Just as FCL asked, I'm wondering why you want to stay in this relationship. Also, it sounds right to me that you wouldn't be able to forget the kinds of things you mentioned-- it would not be healthy to know about such things, not say a word, and feel good about continuing in the relationship.
    Lefty2121 responded:
    Why continue with this torment!! Enough is Enough!! Find someone that will love and treat you right, or just have time by yourself to regroup and love yourself! You and anyone reading this is worth much more and should not be treated this way.
    green_archer_24 responded:
    from what i understand from your post, he's been doing this to you for the past 3-4 years.. sorry if i might sound rude but please give yourself some respect.. your boyfriend clearly doesn't know how to treat you right.. i just can't believe you've endured that kind of treatment from him for the past 3-4 years.. if he's willing to change for the better, he should have done that a long time ago.. but with the duration of how he's tormenting you, as the saying goes, you can't teach an old dog new tricks.. you don't deserve someone like him.. if he can't respect you as his girlfriend, then please give yourself a little respect as a woman and as a person..

    - J

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