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    The Caring and Feeding of Men's Erections
    Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH posted:
    Ever wondered how to care for your health so that you have a better chance of enjoying many years of strong, reliable erections? WebMD has you covered in their article "Protect Your Erection: 11 Tips". They include tips related to eating, exercise, alcohol intake, health care, smoking, medications and more.

    If you have questions about your own erectile function or health, please check in with a healthcare provider.
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    huntingtonboy responded:
    huntingtonboy asks DR.D.Herbenick
    i am 58 yrs old, once i penetrate my female partner i cum - less than a minute. pls DR. i need HELP.
    Cat78fish replied to huntingtonboy's response:
    Your problem seems to be more from premature ejaculation than from erectile dysfunction. There are things you can do to help this but it will take patience. Kegel exercises worked for my ex-husband. To get a feel for the right muscles you need to exercise, the next time you have to urinate, try stopping your flow of urine before you have completely emptied your bladder and then restart your flow of urine. In this way you can become familiar with the PC muscles you need to exercise and then you will be able to do these exercise at any time and nobody will even know you're doing them. The vast majority of the time when men have premature ejaculation, it is because they have weak PC muscles.

    In the meantime, if you give your lady an orgasm through other means during foreplay, she won't care how long intercourse actually takes. It's when there is no foreplay or very little foreplay and then a man has PE that frustrates a woman the most.
    deputybray responded:
    iam 37 and i dont only have sex about once a week, and i have to be put in the mood. iam also on several meds one lortab i notice that when i was off it for a little while i could get erections very easy can lortab be lowering my labeto
    doggastyle responded:
    idon't that prob.but is there cure for it a friend of mine has it
    dhodson77 replied to deputybray's response:
    Yes. Absolutely. And if you're on a pain management routinely taking opiates will decrease you abilities. After surgery and opiate free for three months it was like being 21 again! I was amazed. I'm 51!
    therock43 responded:
    i have a problem getting a erection now i get semi erection but once i put my penis into my wife vigrina it goes soft right away and it is getting me upset. i tryed vigria and it does not help at all. i need help getting a erection to have sex with my wife without going soft. can you help me please.
    johnnypublik responded:
    Hello, I am 25 years old and a newly wed. I am having problems sexually with my wife. Here's some background- I'm in the 10 percentile of just about everything. What I mean is that I'm one of the 10% of males in the world who have never masturbated and I am one of the 10% of males who have a downward erection. By having a downward erection I am not afforded the luxuries of doing some positions that other people are but I get a normal erection with no pain and my penis enlarges. It just does not point up or straight. It stays pointed down like it would if it was flaccid but it enlarges and gets longer. I never knew really realized that I was in the minority with that issue until recently. Still the same, I like my downward erection. It doesn't give me any problems other than some positions being out of the question because it might hurt. The masturbation issue is a strange one. I have never once masturbated in my entire life. Its not a moral or a religion thing either. I believe masturbation a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do and I'm aware that the other 90-99% of the world do it but I have absolutely no desire to masturbate. Zero desire. I have to tried to touch myself down there and put my penis in my hand but I simply cannot do it. It provides me with no pleasure. I just do not aroused by this notion and it seems pointless to even think a hand could replace a vagina. My wife is BEAUTIFUL. The most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Thats why I married her. I have erections at least 20 times a day if not more just thinking about her but intercourse is a problem and I need to fix this ASAP. I want to be inside of my woman as well as have kids someday. I will achieve an erection almost instantly when she touches me but I have a problem getting it in because it seems as if she is too tight. She says she isn't. I will be fully hard but when trying to insert my penis it will not penetrate. Just bend at the doorway. I tried lube but still no penetration. I acheived penetration once and that was when she took her own hand and gently forced my penis into her vagina. It popped out though soon after when the walls of her vagina contracted onto my penis. Since then she has not tried to force it in. There is no problem with her forcing it in but its kind of hard because I am very ticklish in the pelvic area. I have been known to laugh when people touch me in that area and during sex and its hard to stop. Because that area is so sensitive... when I get on top of her and she takes hold of my penis my whole body gets rigid and stiff and I find it difficult to move. She finds it difficult to be initmate when I get so rigid like that. Its like having a log or statue over you. It happens whenever I'm on top of her and she takes hold of my penis or sometimes when she attempts oral sex. I enjoy oral sex but it does feel different and I usually only enjoy it standing because of the position my penis is in. I have only ejaculated once since being married for a month. That was during night. My wife stroked my penis repeatedly as I held onto the headboard of the bed and tried to maintain all of my focus on kissing her. and not the tickles in my pelvic region. Since then I have not had any luck. Takes a long time for me to cum. I take her hand and get it to massage or stroke my penis everyday now. It feels good to start off but when she goes fast it just feels different so sometimes I stop her. We bought a dildo and it seems to go in fine. Why am I having trouble with penetration? Am I not hard enough? It looks extremely hard and I feel hard and sexually charged but when I get up to bat she tells me to push or push harder and it just bends and after two fail attempts I usually lose my erection and have to try again or just give up. I have tried Korean Red Ginseng and Yohimbe. Do I need Viarga or something? Can you provide some help to me? No I am not gay or Catholic and yes I am very attracted to my wife. No I was never sexually abused.
    An_259796 replied to johnnypublik's response:
    Have you tried sex with her riding you on top? That might work for you. Lots of lube!

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